5 Things Parents Need to Stop Doing

Whether your kids have recently gone back to school or are preparing to go shortly, it’s never too late to start thinking about how we can make this year successful and low-stress, both for our kids and ourselves. With that, here are five things parents might want to stop doing this year in order to make it the best one yet…for all of you!

1. Your kid’s homework. Oh yes, it’s a familiar scene: your little one at the kitchen table, frustrated and unfocused on their math assignment that they just caaaan’t figure out, Mom. Or their reading project that is SO BORING, Dad. It’s all too easy as parents to want to jump in, give the answers, finish things on your kid’s behalf because let’s be honest – it’s quick. It’s easy enough for you. It’s a way to stop the complaining, and then your kid will get a good grade, right? This year, I encourage you to stop doing your kid’s homework. What will happen if you don’t? Maybe they won’t finish it, and they get to learn a lesson in responsibility when their teacher confronts them. Maybe they’ll figure it out on their own, and that’s exactly what they should be doing. Or maybe they’ll get the answers wrong and have a little learning to do. Lend a helping hand to encourage them in the right direction once in a while, but put the Number 2 pencil down, parents! You’ve already been through school.

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2. Over-enrolling in sports/activitiesGot a little dude who loves baseball and soccer? Great, sign him up for both if he’s truly dedicated and interested in both sports. But I urge you not to fill up your kids’ schedules with every activity and sport available just for the sake of enriching their lives. It’s good to get them interested in a variety of things, but kids can also be overwhelmed with a full calendar of things to do with little downtime to just BE. Besides, all of that running around after school can be really stressful for you too as a parent. Stick with a couple of activities your kids truly love and devote your time to those, and don’t collect guilt from other overplanning parents because little Audrey isn’t in gymnastics AND Tae Kwon Do AND the math club AND drama AND ballet like little Jessica next door. Jessica sounds like she needs a nap.

3. Obsessively emailing the teacher. These days, it’s way too easy to shoot off a quick email to your kid’s teacher about this or that. Is Jack doing ok today with his social skills? Can he be seated further away from Ian because they just talk all day and you KNOW Jack just isn’t paying attention. Did he finish his lunch today or did he trade it for a Twinkie? Yeah. I get it, I’ve done it, too! But step away from the laptop, keyboard crusaders! Your kid is fine and their fully capable teacher will let you know if there’s anything she feels you should be aware of in class that day. Remember back when we were kids? No email. How often do you think our parents were sending hand-written notes to the teacher? Let’s let the teachers do their jobs and focus on the kids, not their email inbox.

4. Volunteering for everything. Ok, this one is a touchy one. Let me start by saying that I firmly believe every parent should volunteer for something at their child’s school. It’s good for the school, your kids love seeing you and having your involvement, and it just plain makes you feel good to help. That said, beware of over-committing yourself, too. If you give an hour of your time once or twice a month and that feels right, that’s fantastic. But don’t take on huge projects that will have you stressed out and overcommitted. Know your limits. Just because you want to be helpful doesn’t mean your schedule always allows for it – be prepared to have to say no sometimes in order to keep your sanity. Do what you can to help, but don’t feel guilty for not running for PTA president this year.

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5. Comparing yourself to other parents. So you’ve conquered the whole not-comparing-your-kid-to-other-kids thing, but what about yourself? Are you feeling guilty because you’re not the Little League coach this year? You don’t make your kid read for 30 minutes every night? You only brought a container of strawberries for the class party when the other moms made Pinterest-worthy tie-dyed cupcakes frosted with rainbow fondant they hand-rolled themselves? So what?! Give yourselves a break, moms and dads. Do your best, love your kids, let ’em know you’re there and that you care. Do those things. You’re great. Stop feeling less-than.

So this year, be a little easier on yourself and on your kiddos. Your kids and you will benefit!

Related post: 5 Back to School Resolutions I’m Making

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Janika 2 weeks ago

1.) It is very obvious when a parent does their child’s homework or projects and yes, it does happen. Thankfully for me, it’s not common.

2.) Picking a few sports or activities is fine! In fact, it should not be some soul-crushing experience for you if your child decides they really didn’t enjoy a certain sport/activity and would like to try a different one. The article is saying don’t book your child’s schedule solid! Let him/her have some down time.

3.) The key word that stuck out to me was “OBSESSIVELY”. It wasn’t saying NOT to reach out to your child’s teachers at all, just don’t be obsessive. I like hearing from parents who have a concern, we want to work together to help your student. However, please realize there are often hundreds of other students I work with too. I cannot respond to emails from the same parent every 40 minutes (yes, this actually happened). Parents, if your student needs some extra support throughout the day, please stop by your school to discuss options.

4.) Again, this keyword here was OVER-committing. I agree 100% with what was said, volunteer when and if you can, as it all helps. Even if you have personal reasons for not being part of your PTA, you may still be able to help behind the scenes in interested.

5.) Yes, to all of it. Time to scale back and do YOUR best.

Margo Porro 12 months ago

I am highly offended by the add at the top of the page suggesting teachers are asking for twice as much in wages and benefits as other unions. We are not asking for twice as much in wages. The government propaganda includes educational assistants and librarians in the cost of our benefit package. I can’t believe this is being advertised on a website such as this. This does, indeed, make your website name, Scary Mommy, true!

Michelle White 1 year ago

As far as volunteering for everything. I have found from being a PTO parent and president that only a select few volunteer so, if anything is going to get done then it’s up to me and the very few PTO members we have. That makes me stuck volunteering for everything.

DD 1 year ago

6. Telling your child they are perfect.
7. Disabling them from learning for themselves.
8. Dismissing their feelings and/or not talking about emotions in general.
9. Spoiling them with material things day in and out.
10. Passing on FOMO (fear of missing out), making sure they have the latest of anything.
11. Getting caught up in the drama of their friends parents which ultimately leads to broken friendships.
12. Remarrying/partnering with someone who makes little to no effort in their step children’s lives. Also choosing their new spouse over their own children.
13. Making excuses for their behaviour.
14. Restricting their worlds so much so that kids can’t be, kids.
15. Forgetting to love them enough, there can never be too much love, a consistent balance of unconditional and tough love.

Carrie 1 year ago

YES to #5: Stop “Comparing yourself to other parents.” That’s a tough one, but we can help each other by being supportive and not judging what another parent is doing. I met a woman with a baby about the same age as mine, so I struck up a conversation. When I asked if she worked outside the home, she let me know that she USED to be a teacher but she decided she couldn’t be a good teacher AND a good mother. (I’m a teacher.) Comments like that don’t help when we’re still struggling with guilt at daycare drop-off.

Kelli 1 year ago

I dont do any of the things mentioned! So I guess Im good!

Karen 1 year ago

This is te result of what happens when teachers and parents don’t have an open communication. Be sure to document everything.

Karen 1 year ago

Agree!!! Emails are essential in the case of due process. Paper trails!!!

Kate Isgreat 1 year ago

Nice try but the guilt remains! GAH :(

Ashley Fiumefreddo 1 year ago

Thank god this isnt me

Lorraine Marie 1 year ago

Isn’t it bad for your health to stop doing number two?

Dorraine Bond Werner 1 year ago

who seriously does number 1?!

Sharon Austin 1 year ago

I’ve been there and done that, actually made it through with no scars! My one suggestion is on the homework. Kids are not different than most adults, we adults take breaks, so when the kids seem “bored” with their homework, tell them to take a break. It worked for my kids.

Sharon Haley Connolly 1 year ago

First kid is over enrolled. …third kid – I forgot to sign him up again. ..

Jenn Bullivant 1 year ago

Yes to ALL 5 for me, thank you very much!!!

Socccermamatoo 1 year ago

So agree. Please don’t be a helicopter parent! As a parent and teacher, every child has their moments both good and bad. And we can tell when the child actually does the homework. Let them enjoy being kids as much as possible.

Alyosha Violet 1 year ago

My kids get a birthday party once every 3 years. So heartbreaking that she gets ‘no’s because of tutoring and sports on A SUNDAY AFTERNOON. I know my child isn’t the most important kid to other parents but it’s a birthday party, your kid was invited. They are 10. And not many kids have parties round here, so it’s not like they are missing these important lessons regularly… My kid is crying. Thanks.

Susan Burns 1 year ago

I am guilty of #5. Because of illness with myself, I feel that I am not “the perfect mom.” Got a lot of flack when I joined a moms group at my church when my son was a toddler and I wasn’t a “normal mom” in their eyes because I was a widow and an old mom (had my guy at 37). I am getting better at just doing my own thing, but every once in a while that stupid peer pressure comes up. It is such a nasty monster!

Susan Burns 1 year ago

Lindsey, it was that way with my son. He is 10 now and wants to do sports. Just flag football for now. I don’t want to do too much between that and bowling and scouting.

Tricia Smucker 1 year ago

I relish my saturday mornings, sleeping in, pajamas til noon with my kids!

Sandy 1 year ago

I have a child with a 504 plan. I emphatically want an e-mail record of conversations, not a phone call in which either party can forget what was resolved. And if the phone call is made after school my child is usually within earshot — hardly an ideal situation.

Jennifer Bennett 1 year ago

I dont do a single one of those!

Lisa B 1 year ago

I don’t agree with #3 at all. In Florida we have the sunshine rule and all emails to school staff, public officials, ect are public record. I feel it holds the teacher and parent accountable to each other to follow through. I don’t want a he said she said moment, education is too important. I like email. When I send an email, I know the teacher will receive it and I have a copy to refer to at any time. Teachers can read and respond during the day when students are engaged in other activities, at lunch, or even at home. It’s more difficult to find time to call or meet with a parent, I don’t email everyday, however, I email when I have a question, concern, or even to say thank you.

Amanda Brady 1 year ago

I dont understand how people are so damn obsessed with sports, my Goddess why is that a defining role in a child’s life, when they can be taught other things, like thinking for yourself, compassion, and kindness. Most kinds that play sports are alpha male bullies who dont even know how to think!!!

Lindsey Beasley Dianna 1 year ago

“Who does Number Two work for?!?!?!”

Corinne Pavon-Phillips 1 year ago

As a teacher and parent I think #3 is super important. It is wonderful to be involved, but teachers have there own families and lives that should be respected.

Lori Villarreal Noel 1 year ago

Jackie definitely! ! But #5 is us trying to top everyone else’s stuff!!

Barb Carmen McDevitt 1 year ago

Also to stop blaming the teacher for your child’s grades…

Angie Bergman Gozdor 1 year ago


Jan Kightlinger Bowser 1 year ago

I’m so good with all this because I suck as a parent.

Shannon Miller Toledo 1 year ago

As a teacher is disagree with not emailing your child’s teacher. First, as a teacher I am busy and do not have that much time between prepping for the next day, lesson plans, and common core trainings that I would rather a simple email then call a parent back and have a 30 min. Convo. If I can assure the parents or answer a simple question through email I will happily do it

Christy 1 year ago

My son’s teacher called to follow up and she said she actually preferred texts and she would respond during the day. I will just email unless it might be an emergency though.

She needs to add don’t do their projects for them. Let your kid come up with the concept and actually build the dang thing. We had artist parents the last few years, yea you’re not fooling anyone, we know your kid had absolutely nothing to do with it. AJ was upset that one of his projects was not as pretty as everyone else’s. I just told him to be proud because he did it completely on his own and didn’t get it off of Pinterest.

Amy Brown 1 year ago

Amen!! If my kids are interested later on, then I’ll sign them up but I’m not going to force it on them, either.

Aimee Hempy-De La Cruz 1 year ago

Thank you Barbara! He is bright. He’s in Adv Math and gets A’s but reading he has struggled with forever. Ive read to him since birth and had him read since he was 2. He’s been thoroughly tested by the school and district – there is positively nothing wrong with him. No learning disabilities at all. There were probably 12 tests and they all came back that he was completely normal – including psych tests. His father and I knew this but we wondered until we got the tests back maybe we were missing something. He reads 2 yrs behind his grade. He’s gone to tutoring i’ve paid for since third grade and is in seventh now and has been in every extra program I could find – including this summer where I broke the bank sending him to a class at the college which actually finally helped!!! But reading two grade levels behind where he should causes massive problems with the homework with these new Common Core standards. It means 4 to 6 hours of homework a night so I do step in and help or we would be up until midnight literally. Since getting into middle school last yr, he’s done homework from the time he gets home from school around three until bedtime at nine. With my help! This is why without it he would get Ds and Fs. Hoping this class he took this summer will help quell some of me having to read the assignments and textbooks to him

Michelle Valentine Cochran 1 year ago

In the end, it is all about not keeping up with another family. What my kid can do and how well they can do it – has nothing to do with what my neighbor’s kid can do. Activities or no Activities, each kid is different – so avoid the comparison. My daughter participates in competitive dance – so she is busy 100% of the time – exceeds in school (doing her own homework) and we still have tons of plenty of fun and relaxation. If Little Johnny can’t hack it – don’t hate on my kid.

Jamie 1 year ago

My girls have always done their own homework, if they need help we help them figure out how to get the answer…if they want to play sports every season that’s fine, but only one activity per season…up until this year I was a working mom so volunteering wasn’t on my list, probably still not on it…I’m not perfect so I won’t compare myself to anyone else…and I’m one of those parents that if I have a problem with something at the school, I just go to the school …

Jennifer Calderaro 1 year ago

I’m working on #5.

Vanessa Kidson 1 year ago

So true!

Raylene Hansen 1 year ago

It’s not even over-scheduling in some cases – tween/teen sports are very demanding of time. For the whole family, not just the player. Why do they need to practice a sport every night? We hardly ever eat dinner as a family.

Donna Fellows 1 year ago

lol #2. No, we just have ONE Sport, all year long, seven days a week. That’s enough!

Kelly Hatch 1 year ago

You can volunteer without being a helicopter parent. You can be part of a PTA and not have to be at the school 24/7. Some parents help just by bringing in a dish for a teacher luncheon or donating extra glue sticks when they have an extra few dollars. Being in a PTA myself, we always see the same parents volunteering for everything. That’s a lot of the reason these parents are the ones you see all of the time because no one else will step up and help.

ash 1 year ago

I thought the same thing! Seriously, how do you do that without everyone knowing? Don’t other parents know, and I’m sorry, but I wouldn’t think that makes the parents look good at all…

Barbara Westphal Lowitz 1 year ago

I think helping and feeding them the answers are two different things. I’m sure you have a bright kiddo, sometimes they just need that refocus or a fresh approach, mine do :)

Barbara Westphal Lowitz 1 year ago

I was bad about #3. I’m going to try and filter what I really need to contact this years teacher about (but my son is special needs, so a lot was necessary, but not urgent) so in that case I think she preferred emails.

Ann Johnson 1 year ago

I do one activity per season. Soccer and BBall are good because it is one practice and one game a week. Gives them exercise, social and they learn a skill . That is it. It’s a good balance.

Jamaican Bacon 1 year ago

What time should they have them? Most people work so you have to have them when parents are off work. We just eat a light dinner and have an apple or something before hand. Gets us through.

Renee Ballinger Panella 1 year ago

I know one parent who does all five of these. The writing is on the wall, and she doesn’t even see it. The repercussions will be ugly for all.

Felicia McTernan 1 year ago

We don’t have time for sports because my kids get so much friggin homework. It’s awesome that after a full day at school they get to come home and spend an hour or more doing schoolwork instead of unwinding or playing in the yard before dinner and family time. And I’m pretty sure if I feel like emailing my kids teacher for an email update I’ll do just that.

Beatriz Medina 1 year ago

I don’t do any of these…*sighs in relief*

Brandy Hill 1 year ago

Thankfully I don’t do any of that

Traci Muller Rylands 1 year ago

I’m helping less with my son’s homework now. But last year, in first grade, I had to help a lot. Why? Because he was assigned to do a written report, an oral report and a visual aid on a specific U.S. president. All for one grade. INSANE. I wasn’t doing that until fourth grade! I had to tell him how to spell seventy-five percent of the words in the report. I know we’re trying hard to improve education but making little kids who can barely read do work that’s beyond their maturity level frustrates me to no end.

ash 1 year ago

I’d do what you are doing if it were my son as long as he was sitting right there with me doing it step by step with me. No way he is playing and I’m doing it myself

Jodi Miller Fowler 1 year ago

Jeez do I wish I could show this to some very specific people in my life but it would NOT go over too well! Love it, and yes, especially #2!

Jamie Frye Garrett 1 year ago

I’m right on track! No don’t do any of those things!

Ginny Schultz Vandenburg 1 year ago

One extracurricular activity at a time per child (we have three). That’s the rule in our house. Still leaves plenty of time for homework and family. And we don’t sign up for activities that require being there more than twice a week. And even then we sometimes get busy!

Christina Stepnitz Crise 1 year ago

What grade level are your kids in? I’m a teacher (high school) and would NEVER expect parents to do that. I might suggest it to the kid as a study aid but it is not the parent’s responsibility.

Raidee Abigail Swan 1 year ago

I have wondered exactly the same thing! They miss out on down time too if it takes them too long to get their homework done (their choice, not mine). We had one activity for one child last year and it was once a week. That day was hellish because they felt super rushed when we got home and then would be overtired the next day because bedtime had to be pushed back to accommodate. No more. If it’s not happening on a weekend, it’s not happening.

krysia 1 year ago

By all means, help him! As a teacher I see absolutely no problems with a parent who helps their kid understand. It’s the doing the work FOR the kid that becomes an issue because then the child never learns. I can remember sitting at the dining room table for hours with my dad as he tried to explain my math homework to me. All I wanted for him to do was give me the answer so that I could go play or watch Tv but he refused. I had to come up with the answer on my own but he would guide me. I take the same approach with my students (though I still don’t try to help them in math. Languages are my forte) .

Katie Dornemann 1 year ago

My parents had a 2 thing rule. We could do any 2 and only 2 extra curriculars at a time. If we didn’t like them we didn’t have to do them again but we did have to finish them (end of the season, final project etc). And I always knew that if my grades dropped below what was acceptable (they let me know what that was) I would be removed from them immediately until my grades improved. It worked great, taught me time management and how to decide what was really important to me. I am grateful for that and will be implementing that rule for my daughter in a few years when she gets old enough.

Michelle Langham 1 year ago

Ha! I don’t do a dang one of these.

Angela Durham Brown 1 year ago

Well. I’m good. I don’t do any of that. Lol.

Valerie Carter 1 year ago

I have 5 kids, 2 in school still. I do not do their homework, but do help. I do not volunteer anymore either because of issues with the school. After 25 years of parenting I have seen moms with great intentions taking on way too much and burning out.

Rachelle Karls 1 year ago

Number 2 and number 4 are the same thing, just for different ages. It’s okay to have down time!!

Heather MacKenzie 1 year ago

1 and 2. You nailed it, as u always do.

Marcy Jancowski 1 year ago

After raising two adult children, my parenting style is way more laid back as far as scheduling is concerned with my 5 & 7 year old kids. This gave me perspective, and a better ability to prioritize. What a difference, and they are happier too!

Darlene Small Ferguson 1 year ago

Totally agree!

Stephanie Musselman 1 year ago

I was supposed to be doing his homework??!! Oh. Crap. …….well, I’m ahead of the game! lol.

Amy Clothier 1 year ago


Kristen Brown Rielly 1 year ago

Definitely #2

Jennifer Borrego 1 year ago

I don’t do any of those things so I am good!

Jennifer Galbraith 1 year ago

I’m hoping my son will find at least one club he likes in high school this year. He’s not into sports, although I had him in little league in 1st grade, but he didn’t want to do it again. He tried band in 5th grade and wanted to quit halfway; which I said “No you committed to it for the year so you finish the year and after that you don’t have to do it again if you don’t want to.” Now….it’s a wait and see.

Janice Welton 1 year ago

Good advice

Rachel 1 year ago

My kids’ school doesn’t publish them, but my kindergartner’s teacher started an Edmodo account, and also e-mails me with my boy’s progress. (I LOVE her!) My fifth grader’s teacher actually gave her cell phone number to the parents at orientation. Both went above and beyond to keep the lines of communication open, and I couldn’t be more thrilled that my boys have teachers who care so much. I don’t plan on calling or e-mailing unless it’s an absolute emergency, or possibly to request a meeting, but it’s good to know I can if there’s an issue. :) It’s going to be a great school year!

Jenny 1 year ago

Amen Tracy! Exactly, they moan and groan that they have no time when they are the ones who signed up the kids for everything under the sun!

Jaime Sanders Giger 1 year ago

As a teacher #3 drives me batty. Especially when parents want an immediate response. I am teaching, I am not on my computer all day.

Tiffani Sierras Stoner 1 year ago

i know i know lol im just so tired and they dont pay attention

Jennifer Kitchen Morante 1 year ago

#3! I am a teacher BUT I am not saying this to “get out of emails” PLEASE email when you have a legitimate concern but 2 emails a day to check in takes away from me teaching your child.

Amber Kasper 1 year ago

I’ve got four kids and a full time job, this mama doesn’t have the time for all that lol

Robbi Garman 1 year ago

Am I the only one who thinks homework at all is ridiculous? There is not enough time in the day. I just read a comment where someone’s child did not get off the bus until 4:30pm!!!??? I can’t even imagine where there would be time to play, spend time with family, and do homework all in one evening (without feeling insanely rushed) especially if you add shower time and winding down for the day! SMH…screw that..

Shawna Parrish 1 year ago

I’ve never even thought to email my daughters teacher. I had her cell number from her calling me when my daughter was having a really emotional day and even then I never thought to use it. If I needed to talk to her I simply went to the school in the morning while the kids were slowing making their way to school.

Meghan Burns 1 year ago

I’m so guilty of #5…

Tom Smith 1 year ago

Definitely #2 for sure.

Nancy Schema Paradis 1 year ago

My 13 & 7 yr ild have no desire to be in sports, dance lessons, cheerleading, etc.
They want to just be outside playing, riding bikes, or exploring.

Tired of parents who complain they have to go from one activity to another and no time to breathe, just say NO!

Lacey Stanton 1 year ago

I’m glad I don’t do any of those!

Susan Goodman 1 year ago

Do people really do their kids homework for them? What do they do, try to write messy so the teacher doesn’t know they did it?

Cynthia King-etheridge 1 year ago

Did he finish his lunch today? Oh my gosh!

Eileen Witte James 1 year ago

Parent’s and teacher’s perspective.

Jennifer Brickman Cox 1 year ago

Good advice…definitely things for me to think about as a parent as well as a teacher!

Ann Johnson 1 year ago

I have to email my sons teachers to get them to follow his IEP.

Eileen Witte James 1 year ago

#1 Wise choice both from a parem

Ashley Griffin-Neal 1 year ago

I’m guilty of # 5! I am not a perfect parent by any means. But some parents boggle my mind! So it hard to not say ” I’m glad in not like that! ” and trust me some of the parents I have seen and met this year are real “winners”! 😉

Jessica Mullins 1 year ago

And I don’t do any of these by the way.

Jessica Mullins 1 year ago

Where do parents find time for all of these activities that they sign their kids up for? By the time mine get home from school they don’t have time for extra activities. It’s homework and studying. Then they have their down time until dinner. Play or games or whatever they want to do for a little while. Then it’s dinner, bath, story and bedtime. I don’t get it.

Tracy Andresen Dhooge 1 year ago

Wtf is a helicopter parent?

Nancy Petrone 1 year ago

Completely agree with #2!

Susan S Bryant 1 year ago

Good article!

Stacie Myers 1 year ago

I don’t do any of these things

Austin Lawlor 1 year ago

#1 & #5

Ami Kendra 1 year ago

the over activity thing I see a lot. my kids both play piano, and are in cub scouts. that’s about it. we are thinking about adding a 6 week swim lesson and cutting back on piano during those weeks. The kids who do everything are so tired. It isn’t fair to them.

Melissa Farrell-Ortiz 1 year ago


Carrie Mertens Bentley 1 year ago

I worked nights for many years, meaning that volunteering in the classroom wasn’t going to happen, as school hours are my “middle of the night” sleeping time. I got so fed up with the cool mommy clicques giving me crap about not coming and helping out. I sent in 100’s of gluesticks at the teachers request, I helped how I could, and never once did i feel guilty about it. We shouldn’t judge other parents by their level of helping either, you never know their story.

Rebecca Greene 1 year ago

Once the second kid comes long it is amazing how little this stuff happens…definitely a case of first kid itis!

Jill Hoover 1 year ago

I have emailed the teacher a few times just to say hey thanks for doing a great job, child said she enjoyed x y or z activity.

Lee Ann Stiles Hauer 1 year ago

I say number 5. Everyone is so obsessed with keeping up with other people that their lives suffer for it a LOT. That’s not just parents either.

Jess Martinez 1 year ago

Ugh, number 3. As a high school science teacher, I dealt with a few of these. They claimed I wasn’t properly teaching their children. So, I then emailed a play-by-play of their child’s activities. Only had to do it twice before they were like “OK! Fine! I get it!” (Usually it was only during the first 5-10min of class when they were supposed to be doing their work-alone warm ups. “Johnny is now talking about the party he had while you were out of town. Showing people pictures…)

Keyser Söze 1 year ago

My daughter was cut no slack even in kindergarten. If she messed up a homework assignment beyond recognition (doodling, etc.), or forgot to bring something home I wrote a little note to her teacher what the deal was. They’re never too young to learn personal accountability appropriate for their age.

Jackie Madden Boechler 1 year ago

# 2…guilty. Will be better this year :)

Maria Young 1 year ago

Totally not me.

Suzy Weinberg Snyder 1 year ago

Too much is made about sports in this country more emphasis needs to be put on education. Not like any of these kids are going t get a baseball scholarship. All these travelling teams are crazy. Not going to get u into college.

Allison Diehl 1 year ago

I would add: Don’t sacrifice family time together at the dinner table so that your child can participate in a sport or club. Why do they schedule games and practices this time of night anyway?!?

Amber Liberty 1 year ago

I always make my kids do their homework, but teachers are always bitching about how we should be making flashcards for them or creating some kind of math game…fuck that!!! They should be learning y the stuff at school, I give them time to complete homework/study and lots of books to read. Oh, and I keep them alive! That’s my job.

Aimee Hempy-De La Cruz 1 year ago

#1 but he’d get straight Ds and Fs if I didn’t help! And no that’s not happening.

Nancyrae Smith 1 year ago

and take your ‘copter blades off and put them in the closet. You don’t only irritate the teacher and the school, but the other parents also.

Tracy Andresen Dhooge 1 year ago

I personally think more people should volunteer. You don’t have to run the PTA but a parent’s presence in a school is very important. If more people volunteered, the hourly commitment per person would decrease immensely!

Jaime Silvano 1 year ago

I’m in the clear!!!

Cara McQueen 1 year ago

Guilty of number 1, making a vow to stop immediately!!

Kristin Eckhardt 1 year ago

I confess there are some nights that I practically complete my kids homework to get it done.

Tracy Smith Saunders 1 year ago

#2 DRIVES ME CRAZY. Got these moms constantly bitching that they are so busy and never home..uh, you signed your kid up for the 40 activities weekly, they didn’t.

Helen Russo 1 year ago

I’m a good girl! I don’t do any of those to excess…because I just don’t have the time!
And I refuse to do my kid’s homework! I did my own, she can do hers!!!

Karen Daly Haeusler 1 year ago

The perfect read for me before mine starts Kindergarten tomorrow…wait…what?! How the fork did that happen?!

Nicole Rusnak 1 year ago

I think we all know those parents who have their kids in everything!! They seem to forget kids need down time too!

Karie Bennett 1 year ago

I am number three but my daughters teacher last year spoiled me with it. I loved the constant communication between us because we discovered my daughter has ADD and it kept me in the loop and her grades stayed in the A and B range. Sadly we ended up moving during the last semester and her new teacher I never heard from. I tried everything to get ahold of her and help my daughter. Sadly her grades dropped all the way to D’s and F’s.

Ariane Herrholz Grabill 1 year ago

I agree with #2. My kids get one thing at a time. Sometimes I feel guilty, but every weekend should not be spent shuffling them from activity to activity, or hours at the ball field.

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Wendy Roehr Martin 1 year ago

Yep! Plus, I refuse to have my whole life dictated by kids’ schedules. They need to come home and flip on the couch to read a book or go play with their friends. I like to cook dinner most nights, I can’t do that if I’m running kids all over kingdom come!

Vicki Pyle 1 year ago

You forgot to include making over the top dessert/snacks/party favors fancier than you had for your wedding for every them day or little holiday. It doesn’t need to be a contest.

Jessica Armstrong 1 year ago

As a teacher, I love number three. Parent involvement and communication are wonderful and essential, however, there is overkill. Not to mention, most teachers, especially this one, prefer the old fashion phone call. It’s amazing what can be accomplished in a short conversation rather than a slew of emails where tone can easily be misunderstood and a situation never resolved.

Lindsey Kile 1 year ago

I have caught so much flack for not signing up my 4yo & 6yo for sports…but my kids simply aren’t interested!

Can’t I just let them be kids? There’s plenty of time for sports etc. later on…

Kim Nealis 1 year ago

Only one we are guilty of is number 5

Rachel Wilkinson 1 year ago

My 8 year old will be starting 3rd year next week. I assist with homework if she is struggling but never do it or give her the answer, she goes to scouts once a week and sometimes an after school club eg gym if she wants to, I think i only emaeil her teacher once last year as I was worried about her change in behaviour and wanted to know if it was the same in school, and we are not asked to volunteer for anything that is for the parents in the parents group.

Yesenia Little 1 year ago

Number 5 for ME!

Mandy Renfro 1 year ago

#2… My kids are about the only kids NOT involved in anything this coming fall… The both play little league in the spring, but with so much happening with upcoming holidays, I chose to just let them have free time and down time after school instead of rushing around sun-up to sundown! And they’re perfectly happy with this plan!

Rachel Chylewski Garlinghouse 1 year ago

LOVE this article! <3 Good job!

Alicia Thompson 1 year ago

#3 & #5!!! All the way!

Angela Wickwire 1 year ago

My 6 year old is in 1st grade and has always done his homework by himself. He can only do one sport at a time(my rule), I’m not really the volunteer type, and I try not to compare myself to anybody because I am far from the perfect parent

Valerie Pajak 1 year ago

My daughter’s school doesn’t distribute teacher emails. So, if we want to get a message to the teacher, we either have to write it by hand or telephone/voicemail. If you have to put forth effort, then it must be important enough to respond to.