A mom perfectly slams anti-abortion arguments and explains why men cause unwanted pregnancies
There are some men who have a lot of opinions about our wombs. Especially those in the political arena. They don’t believe women should have reproductive rights and fight hard against access to safe, legal abortions. Gabrielle Blair, a New York Times bestselling author and a mother of six, took to Twitter to explain just how hypocritical these men are — arguing that men are the cause of unwanted pregnancies.
Blair does not believe that men have any interest in actually preventing abortions. Because, she wrote, if they did then they would stop being the cause of unwanted pregnancies.
“Men are 100% responsible for unwanted pregnancies,” Blair noted. “Perhaps you are thinking: IT TAKES TWO! And yes, it does take two for _intentional_ pregnancies. But ALL unwanted pregnancies are caused by the irresponsible ejaculations of men. Period.”
In fact, she continued, if you’re a man who ejaculates irresponsibly multiple times per day then you could be responsible for many, many pregnancies. So, isn’t the ball already in your court, buddy?
Okay, so perhaps by this point men are arguing that women should just take birth control. Blair said that, yes, a lot of women do take birth control (despite some of the the awful side effects) but those contraceptives can be costly and difficult to obtain.
Even when women do take birth control, there’s a lot of room for error. “It requires consistent daily use and doesn’t leave much room for mistakes, forgetfulness, or unexpected disruptions to daily schedules,” Blair wrote. “And again, the side effects can be brutal.”
Male birth control (aka condoms) is super easy to deal with. All guys have to do is keep them stocked and put them on when the time comes. Oh, and really the ONLY other pre-requisite is to not secretly take the condom off in the middle of sex. Seems pretty easy, right? Not quite.
Some men also decide not to pull out because it feels better for them. “Men are willing to risk the life, health and well-being of women, in order to experience a tiny bit more pleasure for like 5 seconds during orgasm,” Blair noted.
So, again, if that results in a pregnancy then the man is to blame. And if that same man is also someone who gets on his soap box about being against abortions, then he is hypocritical to the max. “Pregnancies can only happen when men have an orgasm,” she wrote. “Unwanted pregnancies can only happen when men orgasm irresponsibly.”
After a man gets his few extra seconds of pleasure, all of the burden falls on the woman. The man has to deal with little to no ramifications.
“If the woman does tell him that he caused an unwanted pregnancy and that she’s having the baby, the closest thing to a consequence for him, is that he may need to pay child support,” Blair said. “But our current child support system is well-known to be a joke. 61% of men (or women) who are legally required to pay it, simply don’t. With little or no repercussions.”
So, for all those men who are so upset about women getting abortions – why don’t you take a look at your own sexual habits and the precautions you’re taking to make sure that women don’t even have to think about that choice?
Blair’s thread has since been retweeted 67,000 times and people everywhere thanked her profusely for articulating so many incredible points.
It’s a long Twitter thread and there’s a lot of really, really crucial ideas packed in there. The take away message from all this? “STOP TRYING TO CONTROL WOMEN’S BODIES AND SEXUALITY,” Blair concluded. “UNWANTED PREGNANCIES ARE CAUSED BY MEN.”
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