Woman at pool is told to cover up or change
Newsflash ladies: if you leave your house in something other than a burlap sack, you may want to prepare for some body-shaming. This week’s installment of “your female body should not be seen” comes from an apartment complex pool in Seymour, Tennessee.
After Tyler Newman’s fiancé, Tori Jenkins, was shamed for wearing an “inappropriate” one-piece, he took to Facebook to call out the complex for their ridiculous behavior. She showed up at the pool in a pink one piece, and was told she needed to either change her bathing suit, cover up, or leave their pool on Tuesday at Smoky Crossings apartment complex where they both live.
“Today my fiancée was faced with either changing her bathing suit, covering up with shorts, or leaving the pool that we paid a $300 fee to maintain on top of a monthly rent of nearly $1000,” Newman writes. “Tori was accused of wearing a “thong bathing suit” and told there were complaints about the way she was dressed after roughly 3 minutes tops, of us arriving there. ”
There is nothing “inappropriate” about the way she looks.
Jenkins decided to go to the apartment office to address the issue further in private. “In the office, the leasing consultant (who, for now, I will not name) insisted upon letting Tori take her picture to show ‘how inappropriate’ her bathing suit was, and instructed her to look into a mirror at her own body.” The agent then told Jenkins she wouldn’t want her own kids around her because of the way she looked in the suit.
Then, the female agent said, “There are lots of teenage boys in this complex, and you don’t need to excite them.”
A grown woman being told she needs to cover up as not to excite boys? Really?
Instead of brushing it under the rug, Newman calls out Smoky Crossings apartment. “Today my fiancée was told that she is less important than how men feel around her. That Tori is less important than a man’s urges to be sexual towards her,” he writes. “I think she’s the most beautiful woman in the world, but I also respect her. I would never make her or any other woman feel less than what she’s worth because of her outfit or her looks.”
And he is right on.
Jenkins posted about the incident on her page thanking everyone for the overwhelming support she received and said, “There was a front facing picture. I took it down after reading so many hateful comments about my stomach and so many intensely explicit sexual comments. That is the whole issue.”
“My fiancée being told she should cover up on a 90 degree day in our own apartment pool because she will ‘excite teenage boys’ is bullshit,” Newman concludes. “I will not stand for this. My fiancée should be able to wear a bathing suit without being sexualized and demeaned. She shouldn’t feel violated.”
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