For those of us who came of age watching (and then re-watching) Titanic, the scene where Rose and Jack have sex in a car was a major moment in our sexual awakening. (That unrealistically graceful maneuvering between positions in the confines of a backseat! That heavy breathing! That handprint!) But as soon as we had the chance to try it out ourselves, we very quickly learned that the steamy Titanic car sex scene was just another example of movie magic.
In reality, things get a little more complicated (so many limbs, so little room), and as a result, decidedly less sexy. Now that you’re a parent, though, you may want to spice up your sex life and the monotony of your usual sexual routine. Maybe even add a new type of escapade to the repertoire. Enter car sex! But either through experience or hearsay, you know it’s not as comfortable as sex on a soft mattress. Luckily, there are a few ways around this. Here are some tips for how to have sex in a car that will make the whole experience a lot hotter.
When it comes to car sex, finding a position and getting comfy (well, as comfy as possible in a car) is key. The idea here is to maximize the little space you have. “Recline the seat back as far as it goes, have it lying all the way down, or try having sex in the trunk or the bed of the truck for added comfort,” relationship coach Carmel Jones tells Cosmopolitan.
Keep it Quick
There are times for long, drawn-out sex sessions…and then there’s car sex. As Amanda Chatel writes for Bustle, “typically, cars are for quickies, so it’s best to go into the experience with speed in mind. This works well if you’re looking to hookup with your partner on your lunch break, or before heading back home to your parents’ house after a date. But speed is also helpful when you don’t want to get caught, which is something you’ll definitely want to avoid.”
Car sex is frequently spontaneous, but if you’re planning on having it, dress for the occasion. No, we don’t mean a fancy outfit — more like garments that make you and your partner easily accessible. Examples include dresses or skirts, or pants with an elastic band. It’s all about quick and easy access.
Car Sex Positions
Not all positions translate from the bedroom into the car. This is when you kiss the Lotus, Doggy, and the Spread Eagle goodbye. If you’re opting for the passenger seat, recline it and try Cowgirl position — either regular or reverse, or the missionary position. Getting busy in the backseat gives you more options because you can lay down a bit more (Note for parents: if you can remove the carseats, do so). These include doggy style, the Om, and the reverse scoop, according to Women’s Health. Also, don’t forget oral sex! Going down on your partner in the backseat can be really hot and fun.
Park Somewhere Private
Sure, part of the thrill of car sex is the possibility of getting caught, but in reality, you really don’t want to get caught because having sex in public is usually considered a misdemeanor. Play it safe by waiting until it’s dark outside and parking somewhere secluded, like, umm, your garage if you’re a parent. But first make sure the kids are asleep and the garage door is closed. You can still have the excitement of car sex but without the threat of arrest. A win-win.
Best Cars for Car Sex
Obviously when it comes to car sex, you can only be so picky. “Your place or mine?” applies to cars, too, though. So, when you’re trying to choose whose car to violate there are a few things to consider. Your first choice should always be a truck, if one of you drives one. Even if it’s not a giant extended or crew cab, it offers more room. Trucks have more cabin height which is a bigger necessity than you think. They also have bench seats, more open foot areas and, as previously mentioned, beds. Those same reasons are why an SUV is your next best option. Deciding between a minivan and a sedan? Answer this: Are you taking the kids to school tomorrow in that van? If so, go with your car, instead. No matter how careful you are, sex always leaves evidence: A smell, a stain, a forgotten undergarment, or heaven forbid, a condom.