I’m Supermom (And So Are You)

Going out of the house with two-year-old triplets attracts the kind of attention typically reserved for circus trains and flash mobs. Besides the perennial observation “you’ve got your hands full,” I often get referred to as Supermom. I have to admit to a bit of discomfort with this moniker. I get asked, “How do you do it?” I very honestly respond, “Just like you — you just keep doing it.”

It’s the truth. It doesn’t matter if you have one or five, singletons or quadruplets. Dirty bums get clean diapers, empty cups get more milk, and ouchies get kisses. Laundry gets clean if not folded (wrinkles never killed anyone). Dinner makes it to the table. By the grace of God, we make it through the day with a full complement, and (sometimes) an empty sink.

Moms I meet try to minimalize their own experience, convinced the daily routine at their house must be a cakewalk compared to the constant bombardment of life at my house. “I just have one and that’s hard!” they say, or, “I have three, but not all the same age!” They are certain I must be made of sterner stuff, or have some sort of secret to getting my shit together. Surely a mere mortal could not accomplish such feats of motherhood.

I typically deny this assertion of superpowers, but let me start a new trend. Behold as I rip open my button-down shirt to reveal the food-stained “S” emblazoned on my tank top (you know, the one I’m wearing to keep my twin skin from oozing over the waist of my mom jeans like pizza dough). Yep, you got me. I’m Supermom.

You’re “just” the working mother of a newborn, surviving four feedings a night before dashing off to the office. You can run efficiently on twelve minutes of sleep and a cold piece of toast. You even remember to put on lipstick and wear matching shoes. You move about in a trance state while still being effective at your job, then head home and do it all again tomorrow. You know what that means? You’re Supermom!

You’re “just” pregnant with baby #2 and caring for your firstborn. All you want to do is hurl. Or sleep. Or hurl yourself to sleep. You can’t though, because your little one is up. He’s hungry, cranky, and he has a massive blowout. Oh dear lord the smell. But breakfast is served, you manage to keep yours down, and the big wheel keeps turning. If you’re not Supermom, I don’t know who is.

You’re “just” a two-under-two mom with a wobbly infant and an always-on toddler. Holy crap. How do you wrangle one kid off the dining room table while keeping the boob or the bottle in the baby’s mouth? How do you keep them both happy while getting zero time to yourself? You know how? You’re Supermom!

You’re “just” a stay-at-home mom to three young kids, like me. Unlike me, you’re hurling yourself over a baby gate with your toddler in arms, chasing behind your kindergartener with the lunch box she forgot, while your three-year-old decorates the family dog with a permanent marker. You do more housework before noon than most people do in a week. You don’t even get a nap during the day, because someone is always up and needing supervision. All in a day’s work for Supermom!

You’re “just” the mom of older kids: one in high school, one starting college. You still have the laundry and cooking, but now you have car insurance and tuition to keep you up at night. Your heart must be cloned, since it’s in two or three places at any given moment. Do your kids know how much you worry? Nope. They’re just living their lives—all thanks to Supermom.

Every good mother is Supermom. There is no harder or easier. It doesn’t matter if you’re you, or me, or that lady down the street with the two rowdy boys on dirt bikes. Rip open that button-down, show off your “S”, and proclaim it proudly. “I’m Supermom!”

Because you are.

About the writer

Belynda Cianci is a freelance writer and editor from Boston, Massachusetts. When she's not refining narrative or cleaning up grammar, she's refining table manners and cleaning up legos for her (nearly) two-year-old triplets. In the golden hours after pajamas and bedtime stories, she loves to read, knit, sing, and bake bread. She documents her triplet mom misadventures over at So Many Babies. You can follow her on Facebook, Twitter and at belyndacianci.com.   

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Nancy Lafuente 1 year ago

How true.

Lindsey Poole 1 year ago

:)

Brianne McNally 1 year ago

Aw, that was a nice one. No one can write a snarky response to that!

Didi Doehle 1 year ago

Just what I needed! Thanks for writing this :)

Belynda Cianci 1 year ago

Congrats!! Awww newborn snuggles, how I miss them. But the sleep deprivation though. Don’t worry mama, they’ll be sleeping through the night in a minute! You’re doing awesome.

Belynda Cianci 1 year ago

Oh my God. Three of them in school… homework and activities… and after-school lessons. What if there’s SPORTS?! I’m going to go hide under my bed now, and pretend they’ll always just spill raisins everywhere while watching “Curious George.”

Sounds like you have a VERY busy household! I’m going to Rolodex you for when I’m in the school-aged trenches!

Jaclyn Hackey 1 year ago

I needed this tonight. Thank you!

Lizard 1 year ago

Seems to have wound up over here too!

Laura Gibbons 1 year ago

I love this, I get told I’m Super Woman or Wonder Woman from time to time due to our unique circumstances, I may just start telling people they are just as super 😉

heather holter 1 year ago

It’s funny. I used to get asked all the time “how do you do it” when I has twins and 3 other kids all within 6 yrs. But now that the twins are 6 and the others are 8, 9 and 11 noone asks. After the twins turned 5 it’s as if everyone thought it must be easy now. Truthfully I think it’s harder once everyone is school aged because there is more to taking care of them than simply keeping them alive. There’s homework activities and lots of lessons to teach. It’s exhausting!

Meadow Mclean 1 year ago

Sarah Childress-Boley 1 year ago

brand new mommy of a 13 day old… holy heck, I get it now

Beth Cleofas-Rivera 1 year ago

amen!

Kimberly Schwan 1 year ago

I agree! Rockin article. :) way to allow me to find my “S” :)

Laura Lopez 1 year ago

Love it! Thank you for sharing and putting every good mother on the same level. :)

1 or 3 2 or 5 if you are doing from your heart and soul you are a good mom ♡

Liza Sargent 1 year ago

I needed to read this today! Thank you :)

gretchen 1 year ago

2 in college 3 in high school and 1 in first grade. Thank you I appreciate this

Tiffany Novak 1 year ago

Preach!

Julie S. 1 year ago

Thank you for this great post! We all need to realize our situations are hard, regardless of who else has it harder or easier or whatever. We’re all super in our own ways :)

Kelly 1 year ago

Thank you! I’m definitely ‘just’ a mother of a toddler who has more energy than anyone I’ve ever known.

I love your style of writing – fantastic :)

Courtney Mclean-Gerena 1 year ago

Thanks luv. Amen!!!!!!! A mothers work is NEVER DONE!

Catie Desjardins 1 year ago

I love this!

Megan Wicklein Lowe 1 year ago

Thank you for writing this. I’m a stay at home mom to 5 kids ages 17-4. I get the supermom thing all the time. I truly don’t think I do anything extraordinary, I just live my life…and maybe yell a lot.

Jennifer Massett 1 year ago

Excellent!

Jennifer Spick 1 year ago

LOVE! And thank you for the reminder Sage- we all just keep on keepin’. What’s the alternative?!?

Patricia Pigeon 1 year ago

Thank you for this!!!

Angela 1 year ago

I’m pregnant with my 2nd and hormones are running high… when I got to the last bit that said “Do your kids know how much you worry? Nope. They’re just living their lives—all thanks to Supermom”, I started crying. Great article – thank you!

Judy Jones 1 year ago

Love this!

Jennifer McFarland 1 year ago

Awesome !!!

Dorothy Kelly 1 year ago

Yea! I love the author! Yea for building everyone up when we would all completely forgive her for kvetching, just a little, that triplets are super hard. This article is wonderful. Thanks for posting.

Jodi Lause 1 year ago

Whoops, must be contagious!

Sage Allison Kroell 1 year ago

Love this!

Michelle Bechky Lynch 1 year ago

I always say the hardest situation to be in is your own! Because you can’t escape it. We are all supermoms.

Michelle Oosterloo 1 year ago

Excuse me…I think I have something in my eye