I’m not afraid to admit that I love a good romantic comedy. You know — the kind of movie that makes you feel like there really is hope, romance isn’t dead, and relationships don’t suck. However, I’ve lived long enough to know how freaking unrealistic these shows and movies are.
They are like Instagram filters for your love life, since they only show a moment of the happy stuff and none of the hard work.
I believe this is why we’re trained to think this is how our partnerships are supposed to be all the damn time. Which is probably why a lot of us like them so much (myself included), because it makes us believe there’s such thing as a love so strong that the person next to you chewing doesn’t make you want to scream, “Shut the fuck up!”
I love my Hallmark movies too. I’ve come to the conclusion it’s possible to know how finding love really works, and also enjoy watching woman after woman get her heart broken, then bump into a handsome, eligible, available, impeccably-dressed man who is a great father and has a successful business on the corner exactly 24 hours after she got dumped. The two aren’t mutually exclusive, and we don’t have to choose.
However, I was a woman who dated in my 20s before getting married at 27. Then, I was a woman who was dating in my 40s after my divorce, and you know what I love even more? An actual realistic take on what it’s like out there while you’re trying to find someone to love who loves you back — which is why I’m obsessed with the American comedy, “Love Life.”
This show, starring Anna Kendrick, premiered on HBO Max on May 27, 2020.
However, since I don’t have HBO, I didn’t hear about the show until very recently when it came to TBS, where I can watch it for free.
It looked like I might enjoy it since it was about love, but I had no idea how much it would resonate with me. This show is so damn real, doesn’t sugar coat anything about how hard it is to date, and the writing and acting is stellar. I believe Kendrick’s character, Darby, is actually in these relationships, and I want to text her and see how she is doing.
Let’s face it, mutual feelings are hard to come by. Finding someone you are compatible with is hard to come by, and so is finding someone who will accept you with all your strengths and flaws.
Relationships also ebb and flow and go through different stages. We make assholes out of ourselves, twist ourselves into a pretzel for another person, or settle for things we shouldn’t.
Without giving too much away, this show touches on all of these truths as it takes us through Darby’s life and goes back to her first heartbreak.
This was one of those shows that I was into right away, but I became more attached to the characters and Darby’s life with each one. I could see parts of myself in her, parts of my friends who were trying to find “the one,” and I found myself messaging them telling them they had to watch it.
Even if you are happily partnered with someone, there will be scenes you will relate to in this show. It debunks the myth that you find someone and are certain you want them to be in your life no matter what. It truly shows the stages of a relationship and how our insecurities and past can unfold and affect it.
The first season, which has ten episodes, has me completely hooked, and I’m counting down the days until October 28 when season two starts.
Without revealing too much, let’s just say the end of season one doesn’t have the happiest ending, but will leave you feeling empowered and excited for Darby. I realize that doesn’t make much sense, but I don’t want to spoil it for you. Instead, I want you to watch this relatable show right this second because I’m pretty sure you will be hooked and think, Wow, I’ve felt like that.
And believe me, while I know it’s a fictional story, it will make you feel a whole lot better about your own love life because you are seeing a much more real picture than what we see in a lot of shows and movies. If you ask me, that’s always a recipe for a damn good show.