Newsflash: Women are sexual creatures who enjoy getting off. Sometimes the mood strikes us at very inconvenient times, though, like when we are in the grocery store sans kids and we actually have a few minutes to be alone and clear our minds while feeling up the produce. Before we know it, we are having naughty thoughts, because we are human beings, and although we are tired a lot of the time, we are not dead. Just because we don’t talk about masturbation as much as men do doesn’t mean we don’t do it. It certainly doesn’t mean we don’t have the desire to do it. In fact, we really fucking enjoy it. I mean, Fifty Shades was a bestseller for a reason, people.
Because our partners can’t always meet us at our office when the mood strikes or speed home during their lunch hour for an afternoon delight (as hot and romantic as that would be), sometimes we need to take matters in our own hands. Literally. There is no reason we have to wait for anyone else to make us feel all the feels when we can just do the job ourselves.
Need more reasons to validate pleasing yourself? I doubt you do, but just in case, here you go:
1. It is healthy.
Self-stimulation is a normal, healthy experience for all to enjoy. Women hold a lot of tension in their vaginas. We have the power to release that tension by ourselves, and we should. It promotes healthy blood flow throughout the body and releases endorphins which lead to a natural high. So ladies, do it for your health, do it for the high, and do it for the good mood you will be in for the rest of the day.
2. It is a form of self-love.
Getting to know our bodies includes more than just knowing what kind of exercises will make us feel better, knowing what types of food will not agree with us, or liking the reflection we see in the mirror. We all have other parts of our bodies that need attention — and who else is better to give your body the attention it needs than yourself? After all, you only have one body, so why not give it the best care you can? Exploring yourself by yourself is not only empowering, it also makes you appreciate yourself on a different level.
3. You don’t have to worry about pleasing anyone else.
It is always fabulous to enjoy doing things solo, especially since these occasions are far and few between for women, especially if you are a mom. Sometimes women just need to be alone and worry about themselves. It is rare, but we need it. And having an orgasm is no exception and is a super exciting way to enjoy 20 minutes to yourself.
4. It gives us the confidence to ask for what we want.
If you don’t know how to frost your cake, how can you expect anyone else to? Through self-exploration, we learn exactly what we want. Women are not just in the bedroom to please their partners. We don’t play the supporting role — we want the spotlight on us. What better way to own that than to talk about what we want and how we want it?
5. Vaginas need exercise too.
This is a great form of exercise for your vagina and pelvic muscles. Just like all other muscles in our body, the more you work them, the better they work for you and your partner. So really, it’s like homework for our sex lives.
6. No toys required.
Vibrators and toys are fun and all, but you don’t need them. You have two of the best tools attached to those lovely arms of yours; use them.
7. It can relieve menstrual cramping, and headaches too.
And really, this is so much better than a heating pad and throwing back three Advil.
8. It helps you sleep.
Sure, so can sex, but we all have nights when the house is soundly sleeping and we are not because our minds are racing with the zillion things that need attending the next day. Getting it on with yourself can be the perfect solution to get you in a more relaxed state of mind.
9. It is fun.
And by that, I mean it is fucking fantastic, because you know, orgasms. Orgasms that don’t have to be reciprocated!
Women’s bodies are capable of doing amazing things, including having multiple orgasms, that we can make happen by ourselves. The more we enjoy our incredible bodies, the happier we are, which can lead to wanting to be more intimate with our partners. So really, ladies, while masturbating is about us, everyone wins here.
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