The third pregnancy is quite different from the first and even the second one. Arguably, it’s the best. Here’s why:
1. You No Longer Care Who Finds Out or When
While it may be nice to have a surprise or make a fun announcement, I let people find out organically the third time. I didn’t try to hide it, but I didn’t shout it from the rooftops either. I didn’t love the idea of anyone finding out too early, but if they did, oh well—been there, done that.
2. It Goes By So Much Faster
I’m way too busy taking care of my two toddlers to track my pregnancy and pay attention to dates. I find myself checking sometimes, but occasionally, I’ve also forgotten which week I am in. This was unheard of in my first and second pregnancies. As a result, time is flying and I feel like this baby will be here before I know it.
3. No Planning Equals Less Stress
Okay, I still have to plan a little, but it’s different now. For one, I’ve run out of bedrooms for a nursery, so I’m not creating one. I’ve done almost nothing to get ready for this baby since I already have almost everything I need. I have a boy and a girl, so I have clothing and gear is mostly covered.
I’m setting up a sleep space and items in my bedroom, and that’s pretty much it. While planning for a baby is absolutely fun and exciting, especially during the first pregnancy, there is also a freedom in not having that stress hanging over me. During my first and second pregnancies, my to-do list was insane. I probably planned and did much more than was even needed.
This leads to my next point.
4. I Feel Much More Carefree and At Peace
The lack of stress surrounding planning has lifted a huge weight. As I said, planning is fun and exciting, but I also remember having meltdowns in previous pregnancies over how on earth I was going to get everything done before the baby arrived. Ha!
5. I Have a Sense of Peace From Not Worrying About the Logistics
I’m not fretting over how I’m going to breastfeed, where my baby will sleep, whether or not my baby will sleep, how I will juggle naps for multiple children (something that stressed me out with my second), or how I will get things done with multiple children.
Yep, I’m not worrying about any of this. I’m sure a third child will add to the chaos, and it’s a little overwhelming if I think about it too much, but at the same time, I know I’ve got this. I can wrangle multiple kids. It’s cliche, but I know everything with babies and kids is a phase, and whatever challenges I encounter will be temporary. Therefore it’s pointless to worry about it ahead of time.
6. I’m Not Worried About How Much I Will Love the Baby
During my first pregnancy, I had no idea what I was in for. Sure, I wanted a baby, but would I like having a baby or know how to take care of one? It was all so foreign to me. The second time around, I wondered how I could love anyone as much as my firstborn. But of course I do. The third time around, it’s not even a question. I only wonder who this person will be and how she will fit in with my current children (but I know she will).
7. Nobody Is Giving Me Advice or Asking Me Questions
When you’re on your third pregnancy, even your doctors leave you pretty much alone. Nobody is giving me advice, nobody is asking me any questions, and it’s relaxing! I sort of know what I’m doing and what to expect.
8. Shopping Is Still Fun, But It’s Different
Shopping during pregnancy can be fun, but during my first pregnancy it was also overwhelming. I don’t have much to buy for this pregnancy. That means I can focus on what I want without questioning whether or not I need it. During my first pregnancy, I bought a huge bottle set but barely bottle fed. I was overwhelmed creating a registry and checking off lists of must-haves when I had no idea what many of the items were.
This time, I have almost everything I need and the few purchases I am making are the ones I know I need and will love and use, including a new ring sling, a warm weather soft-structured carrier, and an upscale stroller. Yes, I’m enjoying those purchases a little too much. While they are few, that makes them less stressful and the research involved enjoyable.
9. The Anticipation Is Still Wonderful
The anticipation during any pregnancy is exciting. Even with knowing what to expect and the lack of stress during this time around, it is still wonderful! We’re having tons of fun picking out a name, looking forward to ultrasounds, and all the excitement that having a baby brings.
And a final bonus: How excited my two children are.
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