<![CDATA[Scary Mommy]]>https://www.scarymommy.comScary MommyFri, 29 May 2026 19:00:04 GMT<![CDATA[A Mom Asked Reddit How To Get Their Kid To Like Reading & Got So Many Good Tips]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/kid-hates-reading-parent-tipshttps://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/kid-hates-reading-parent-tipsFri, 29 May 2026 18:59:47 GMT
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I was an insatiable bookworm as a kid. I gobbled up everything, from magazines and my own collection of books to my mom’s dog-eared paperbacks and the shampoo bottles while taking a shower. I carried a book with me everywhere I went, and it was one of the things I looked forward to the most when I had my own kids — reading to them and turning them into readers.

Luckily, it worked, and all three of my girls love a book. But even parents who love reading may find that their own kiddos just aren’t into it. And while every child is obviously allowed to have their own interests, there are so many benefits to reading, and it’s totally fair for parents to want their kids to be a little more interested in the hobby.

So one parent asked Reddit how.

In the subreddit /parenting, the original poster (OP) shared with the community, “My kid has no interest in reading, need advice from parents here.” OP explained that, despite how much they themselves love reading, their 8-year-old son finds it a form of torture. “Every single night is a miserable power struggle. When it's time for his 20-minute school reading log, he groans, throws tantrums, stalls by asking for snacks, and stares at the clock counting down every single second,” OP wrote. “He has zero interest in characters, plots, or world-building. If a book doesn't have a screen or an immediate reward attached to it, he completely shuts down.”

OP wrote that this has been nothing short of devastating to them, and they’re afraid that their son will grow up to hate literature entirely if he keeps seeing it as pure homework. “How do you accept this, or better yet, how do you fix it?” OP asked.

Oh, my heart.

I think everyone, even if you aren’t a big reader, can relate to finding such joy in something that your kid simply doesn’t. I remember feeling this way with baby dolls and my first daughter, who liked them fine, but did not spend the hours and hours I did caring for my dolls, taking them with me everywhere I went, buying them clothes at the thrift store, and more.

But reading is also just so good for everyone — OP’s son doesn’t have to be as into it as OP was as a kid, but it’s beneficial for him to at least find something he likes to read.

And that’s how most of the advice came in.

For starters, a lot of commenters shared that it’s all about finding a book your kid actually wants to and likes to read.

“I was a nanny for years, and a real breakthrough for one of my kiddos was Mad Libs, believe it or not. It absolutely tickled him to make the book say, ‘He took his butt to the butt store,’” one commenter wrote.

“What is he interested in? And have you tried reading books, graphic novels, simple texts on those topics?” another recommended.

“Our son started reading just like we imagined he would at 7 years old. He used to hate his school books and homework, so we were worried that he'd end up hating all books. Because he was,” another parent shared. “First, we had to find the right books. At his age, he loves silly stuff and jokes, so we discovered the Captain Underpants comic series, which is super silly and full of poop and fart jokes.”

Comic books, graphic novels, audiobooks — one commenter even suggested a book about how to be a “spy” that their own kid loved. Not everyone is into fiction or chapter books, and finding what piques your kid’s interest is really key to turning them into a reader.

Other parents shared that once they stopped timing their kids' reading, it changed everything. The pressure was off, and it felt less like homework and more like enjoyable time together.

Other parents suggested these ideas for encouraging reading:

  • “Try reading to them. Even books that are a little above their reading level. Both of my daughters struggled with reading, taking the pressure off of them and just making it about us sharing a story together helped motivate them to read independently without struggling to get them interested.”
  • “I have regular reading parties with my son. We get blankets, hot drinks, maybe some snacks, put on some relaxing music, and just read together. We also used to (not so much now he's getting older because he reads in bed before sleep anyway) shut off the TV 30 minutes before bedtime and all pick up our books and read together.”
  • “You and your husband should read in public areas of the house as much as possible. Read whatever you like to read, even if it's romance.”

But the biggest advice of all? If screens are your kid’s go-to dopamine hit, books may never get a fair shot. A full detox might not be totally feasible, but even scaling back could be what your kid needs.

Finally, several parents shared that, you know what? Some kids just aren’t readers. And that’s OK. As long as they are capable of reading, one commenter shared, you shouldn’t worry so much that they aren’t choosing a book over other hobbies. It’s all a balance, and honestly, the more reading you can model and share as a family, the more likely they are to pick one up, too.

]]><![CDATA[Is It OK To Send Kids To Their Rooms Before Bedtime To Get A Break? Parents Are Divided]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/is-it-ok-to-send-kids-to-their-rooms-before-bedhttps://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/is-it-ok-to-send-kids-to-their-rooms-before-bedFri, 29 May 2026 18:30:30 GMT
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Ever since my girls were born, we’ve had a pretty routine bedtime schedule. We’re not super strict — we’ll stay out late or let them linger before bed — but with three daughters and a million responsibilities, my husband and I definitely need that “clock out” moment. We need them to all be in their rooms, settled for the night, so that we can fully unwind and be off duty. As they’ve gotten older, it’s been a little tougher. Sometimes they’re up until 9:00 or 9:30, and we’ve had to change our expectations.

But one mom on Reddit wants to know if it’s totally out of pocket to just send your kids to their room at night anyway... even if they aren’t ready for bed.

The original poster (OP) took to the subreddit /parenting to ask, “Is it OK to send kids to their rooms at like 7 p.m. to have some child-free time at night?” The OP shared that even though their child is still a baby, they’ve been wondering how nighttime relaxation will go as their kid grows. “Is it possible to send your kids to their bedrooms at like 7 p.m. once they're fed and showered, take their phones for the night, and then just say you don't have to sleep, but can hang out in your room, do your homework, read, play whatever you want, and go to sleep when you want, but can only come out to use the bathroom or something serious because it's now ‘parent time’?”

OP explained that this is how their own parents handled them when they were kids, and that they and their siblings “never questioned it.” It was just the norm. “I kind of feel like, if I'm the one who is doing everything to meet every person’s needs and wants and cooking and cleaning for everyone and my partner is at work all day to provide, then surely it's OK to map out some time for them to leave you alone, too?” OP asked. “So is it OK to do? Is it cruel? Isolating?”

I vote yes. But the rest of it can really depend on your kids.

As my girls have grown, we still continue to put them all to bed — including our 11-year-old. We read books, sing songs, cuddle, and then everyone goes to bed together. On school nights, this starts around 8:30ish, with us leaving their room at 9. Our girls can continue to read and talk, and honestly, we usually still hear them at 10:00 talking to each other and reading stories out loud.

Where I’ve struggled is on weekends and during school breaks. It feels “wrong” to send them to bed when they don’t have to get up for school in the morning, but also... I need a break.

And the general Reddit consensus? Parents deserve alone time. Where they seem more divided is whether a nightly “parent time” rule is the right way to get it.

A lot of the comments reminded OP that there’s nothing wrong with wanting (and needing) some time to yourself. “I wouldn't necessarily brand it as a negative to yourself,” one commenter wrote. “All human beings need the things you're trying to arrange for in terms of time to be themselves, have private moments, etc. Teaching your kids that making that space for yourself to unwind is important isn't really a negative thing in and of itself.”

Of course, this might require some creativity to get that alone time.

“You have to find ways for some grown-up time. That's absolutely fair. But it's going to change from age to age as to when and how you have it. Be flexible, look for ways to carve out that time. Life will change and you need to change with it,” one commenter wrote.

But there were also a lot of commenters who shared how bummed out they were to think about cordoning off your kids on the other side of the house so you can have some alone time.

“I would feel very sad if I grew up and was banished to my room for hours before bed when I want to spend time with my parents every single day. Mom died when I was 14, and Dad died a decade later. So all of the time spent with my parents, I hold very dearly to,” one commenter wrote.

“Every night? Even as teenagers?” another commenter asked. “In my opinion, that doesn't seem fair to have members of the household sectioned off in their room and not allowed to be in the house they live in. I understand wanting time to yourself, but don't you also want to spend quality time with your children?”

The reality is that most families probably land somewhere in the middle.

We all know parents need some alone time to recharge. Most of us are also painfully aware of how quickly the years fly by. The challenge isn’t in deciding whether parents deserve a break (we do!); it’s figuring out how to carve out that time without making kids feel shut out of family life.

To that end, some commenters suggested that OP wake up before their kids if they need that alone time, while others shared a reminder: At some point, your kids are going to have their own lives... and you’ll be kind of hoping they just want to hang out in the living room with you.

]]><![CDATA[18 Books Scary Mommy Editors Couldn’t Read Fast Enough In May]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/book-recommendations-scary-mommy-editors-may-2026https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/book-recommendations-scary-mommy-editors-may-2026Fri, 29 May 2026 17:51:10 GMT
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Summer reading season is officially underway, and we here at Scary Mommy have been busy building (and depleting, and replenishing — rinse and repeat!) our TBRs. And if our May reading list is proof of anything, it’s that women contain multitudes. This month we fell hard for octogenarian murder suspects, dragon-riding romantasy, Southern beach reads, juicy thrillers, and honestly so much more. We even found a few books we already know will rank among our favorites for the whole year. So, in case you need some new titles to toss in your grab-and-go tote, here are the titles we loved most in May.

Nothing Tastes As Good by Luke Dumas

I'd wanted to read this book for a hot minute, but hadn't been in the mood for anything thriller-y. I'm so glad I finally cracked the spine on this. It's an illuminating read about what it's like to be in a bigger body, through a gruesome horror lens, of course. Emmett's slow unraveling kept me hooked right up to the bitter end. — Katie McPherson, Associate Editor, Lifestyle & Entertainment

The Violet Hour by Victoria Benton Frank

Victoria Benton Frank’s sophomore novel just got a sexy new paperback cover, right in time for summer! Set against the backdrop of South Carolina’s Lowcountry, the novel follows Violet Adams as she tries to rediscover who she is after heartbreak and tragedy. It has everything I love in a good beach book: complex female friendships, family drama, romance, humor (VBF is deeply funny, in real life and on the page), and loads of coastal charm. The fact that it takes place in the Charleston area, where I live, just makes me extra happy! — Julie Sprankles, Deputy Editor, Lifestyle & Entertainment

New! A Parade of Horribles (Dungeon Crawler Carl) by Matt Dinnaman

Book 8 is finally here, and Dungeon Crawler Carl fans have been absolutely losing their minds! This is the longest entry in the series at 704 pages, and it does not disappoint. Carl and Princess Donut land on the tenth floor, where the challenge is deceptively simple on the surface: races, vehicle upgrades, don't come in last or die. But the system glitches are getting worse, the mysterious eleventh floor is looming, and Carl is cooking up a plan so dangerous and so unhinged he can't tell anyone about it. The stakes have never been higher, and Matt Dinniman delivers in every single way. If you haven't started this series yet, clear your calendar because you are not putting it down! — Katie Garrity, News & Social Editor

Lake Effect by Cynthia D'Aprix Sweeney

When a book club of moms in 1970s Rochester, New York, is given copies of The Joy Of Sex by the divorced member of the group, it sets off a number of larger events that shed light on marriage, love, and happiness. In the middle of everything is Nina Larkin, who is in a loveless marriage, and her daughter Clara, who is falling in love with a boy in the neighborhood. This is a well-written family drama that hits even harder if you grew up in the late 70s/early 80s and are a child of divorce. Thank you to Libro.fm for the audiobook! — Sarah Aswell, Deputy Editor, News & Social

Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke

This book has been everywhere this month, and I'm so glad I read it! If you like a book with a deeply satisfying ending, this is the read for you. We follow trad wife influencer Natalie through the rise and fall of her social media empire, and the fallout for her children and staff. The writing is superb, and some of the lines felt like delicious little truth bombs. 11/10 recommend. — Katie McPherson

The Bee Sting by Paul Murray

At almost 700 pages, this seems like a great undertaking of a book. But the pages fly by as you meet the characters and sink into the simple story of a family of four that is *really struggling* all in their own unique ways. I've never met an epic family drama from an Irish author that I didn't like, and this is no exception. Funny, heartbreaking, and touching, this story will stay with me for a long time. — Sarah Aswell

When The Moon Hatched by Sarah A. Parker

This is a high fantasy romance I read a couple years ago and loved. The sequel, The Ballad of Falling Dragons, just published on May 19, and after getting a few chapters in I realized I needed to go back and reread Book 1 if I was going to actually enjoy Book 2. I'm loving picking up on more of the details while rereading, and have re-fallen in love with Kaan (naturally). On to the new book next! — Katie McPherson

New! Dolly All The Time By Annabel Monaghan

Annabel Monaghan is my favorite romance author, full stop. And she has delivered what is my favorite book of hers so far in Dolly All The Time. I love how she often focuses on middle-aged single moms (we deserve romance, too!) with human, care, and a lot of fun. In Dolly, we get to spend time in a fictional town that's much like Newport, Rhode Island, and watch as Dolly meets someone who she never thought she'd like, let alone love, a millionaire trust fund baby who can't seem to put work aside to have any fun. — Sarah Aswell

*New! Helpless by Jessica Knoll

*Releases July 7

This is one of my most anticipated books of the summer, and I have been counting down to July 7th since the second I heard about it. Jessica Knoll is the author of Luckiest Girl Alive and Bright Young Women, and this one sounds like her most unhinged, addictive story yet. It's a psychological thriller about a woman reconnecting with her ex, a dangerously intense college love she had to walk away from, and the mind-bending last page is already being talked about everywhere. — Katie Garrity

*New! Dad, Love, Me by Matthew Quick

*Releases July 21

I will gobble up any memoir about having a shitty parent, thank you very much. Quick is the bestselling author of Silver Linings Playbook, but this memoir is his first nonfiction work, and a vulnerable, beautiful one at that. The stories are written as retellings addressed to his father, giving us deep insight into the author's healing while also watching his dad change and open up as a result of dementia. — Katie McPherson

Mad Mabel by Sally Hepworth

This was my favorite read of the month — just an absolute delight of a book. This mystery centers on 81-year-old Mad Mabel, who is just trying to live her life despite the fact that she was a notorious killer as a teen. When her neighbor shows up dead, people can't seem to side-eye Mabel, who is incredibly grouchy and difficult for everyone around her. Switching between the past and the present, this book delivers my favorite literary character of the year while also supplying some great twists and supporting characters. I can't wait to go back and read all of Sally Helpworth's other books. Thank you to Macmillan Audio for the listen! — Sarah Aswell

Winter Garden by Kristin Hannah

If you have somehow not read this one yet, please stop what you are doing! Winter Garden is one of Kristin Hannah's most emotionally devastating and absolutely beautiful novels, and it will wreck you in the best possible way. It follows two sisters who discover their cold, distant mother has been hiding a real story inside a fairy tale that holds the key to her past, and as that story unfolds across decades of Russian history, you will not be able to put it down or hold yourself together. — Katie Garrity

*New! The Seekers of Deer Creek by Thao Thai

*Releases August 4

If you read Banyan Moon and have been waiting for Thao Thai's next book, August 4 is your date! Two estranged sisters reunite after their father's death to track down a mysterious lost painting by a forgotten Vietnamese Surrealist artist, and the search takes them from the woods of Wisconsin to a glittering French estate to an ancestral home on the edge of a ravine in Vietnam. It's a story about sisters, art, family secrets, and the way the past refuses to stay buried, and honestly it sounds like everything I want in a summer read. — Katie Garrity

Automatic Noodle by Annalee Newitz

Who needs a cozy bit of science fiction right now? I have the perfect read for you. Automatic Noodle is about a group of abandoned food service robots who decide to open their own noodle joint without the help of any humans. Their popularity grows — but can they stay afloat even with forces working against them? This book manages to be calming and low-stakes even as it takes on interesting topics like discrimination, artificial intelligence, and what gives someone a spirit. — Sarah Aswell

Every Day I Read by Hwang Bo-Reum

This is a short, light book by the author of Hyunom-Dong Book Shop. It's simply a list of reasons to read more books (in case you're looking for excuses). Most of these are obvious, but there are lovely little gems of wisdom about books and reading. I especially like looking at reading from a different cultural perspective (Korean). A lovely love letter to sitting down with a good book. Thank you to Libro.fm for the audiobook! — Sarah Aswell

*New! Land by Maggie O'Farrell

*Releases June 2

This is one of my most anticipated books of 2026 and it drops June 2nd, so mark your calendar right now. Maggie O'Farrell is the author of Hamnet and The Marriage Portrait, and she is simply one of the best historical fiction writers we've got right now. Land sounds like her most ambitious novel yet: a sweeping multi-generational epic rooted in her own family history, beginning in 1865 post-famine Ireland and following one family across generations and continents. Early readers are already calling it her best book and one of the best books of the year. — Katie Garrity

Wahala by Nikki May

After reading This Motherless Land last month, I had to pick up Nikki May's first novel, Wahala, which translates to "trouble" from Nigerian. This completely delightful romp involves three best friends who decide to let a fourth member into their circle, not knowing that it will wreak havoc on all of their lives. May is such a funny, emotional, and real writer, and she will be a must-read author for me from now on. Thank you to Libro.fm for the audiobook! — Sarah Aswell

*New! Etna by Paul Yoon

*Releases Aug. 4

Simply put, I've never read a book like this. Yoon's novel is concise and unique and just sticks with you after reading. It's told from the perspective of Etna, a dog trained to sniff out landmines in a war. After the fighting ends, he decides to walk off the base and find the idyllic farm where he was born, and his journey walks us through the war's toll on a canine soldier's psyche, the surrounding towns, and their inhabitants. — Katie McPherson

]]><![CDATA[Can Your Dog "Catch" Your Anxiety? Experts Explain How Dogs Absorb Human Stress]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/can-dogs-catch-anxiety-human-stresshttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/can-dogs-catch-anxiety-human-stressFri, 29 May 2026 16:23:42 GMT
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I used to notice it with my dog Jaws: Whenever I would walk in the door brooding after a bad day, he would seem... off somehow. I guess you could classify it as clingier. More restless. I wasn't sure if it was just my imagination or maybe there was something more to his behavior.

As it turns out, it probably wasn't all in my head.

A growing body of research points to the surprisingly sophisticated ways dogs pick up on human stress, whether it's reading our facial expressions and body language or detecting actual chemical changes tied to stress hormones (!).

What does all of this mean? Dogs may not literally "catch" anxiety in an infectious sense, but the science suggests they experience "emotional contagion" right alongside us.

Do dogs actually pick up on our stress?

According to the experts I polled, yes… and our pups probably pick up on it more than most of us realize.

“Dogs are extremely intuitive and are able to interpret human feelings through facial expression, vocal tone, body language cues, and even by picking up scents associated with cortisol and stress hormones,” says Dr. Stephanie Liff, veterinarian and advisor to pet wellness company Spot & Tango.

Yep, you read that right: our dogs can smell when we’re stressed.

“Research has shown that dogs can actually distinguish the odor of a stressed person from a relaxed one and respond differently. So when you come home still stewing over a work conflict, your dog may be picking up on signals you don’t even realize you’re sending,” elaborates Liff.

And this doesn’t just happen during isolated moments. A widely cited 2019 study published in Scientific Reports found that dogs’ long-term cortisol levels closely mirrored those of their owners.

A 2025 study found that work-related stress in humans may “cross over” to their dogs, particularly when owners continue mentally replaying workplace stress at home.

“What’s interesting about this study is that job stress alone wasn’t the whole story,” says Liff. “The key factor was work-related rumination, meaning owners who kept mentally replaying their work stress at home. Dogs are attuned to our behavioral and physiological cues, and when we’re mentally checked out and emotionally preoccupied, they notice.”

How exactly do they sense human stress?

Here’s the thing: Dogs have evolved alongside us for thousands of years. It makes sense that, by now, they've adapted to become exceptionally skilled social observers. I can genuinely just glance at my dog sometimes, and I swear she can tell what I'm thinking.

According to Dr. Hilary Humm-Beatty, veterinarian at Embrace Pet Insurance, researchers believe that two pathways are likely happening simultaneously. “One pathway is direct transmission, where the dog feels the stress of their companion — similar to empathy,” explains Humm-Beatty. The other is indirect transmission, where stress influences the human’s behavior and the dog is picking up on behavioral cues from their owner.”

So, with the latter, your pup could be responding to changes in routine, tension, and your emotional availability.

Or, as Dr. Kathryn Dench, chief scientific advisor at Paw Origins, put it: Dogs are essentially “constantly taking emotional ‘weather readings’ from their environment — if the forecast is stormy, they adapt accordingly.”

And, sure, sometimes that adaptation can look a lot like stress.

What are some signs your dog may be absorbing stress?

Just as with people, not every dog responds to stress in the same way. However, experts say that some dogs become noticeably more anxious when their humans are under chronic stress. Possible signs they’ve picked up some of that stress include pacing, whining, hypervigilance, clinginess, restlessness, changes in appetite, destructive behavior, difficulty settling, and increased barking or reactivity.

“In households where anxiety is a persistent issue, I would estimate that at least 60–70% of dogs show some corresponding behavioral or physiological signs,” says Dench.

But this all comes with a pretty big PSA: If you’re noticing these signs in your dog, that doesn’t mean you’re causing your dog harm. You are not “to blame.” Seriously, you have enough to worry about; don’t add this to the list.

“What’s important is that this doesn’t mean anxious owners are ‘causing harm’ in a blame-based sense,” Dench reassures. “Rather, it highlights how closely bonded dogs are to us.”

Can dogs reduce human stress, too?

I mean, anyone who’s lucky enough to have a dog in their life already knows the answer to this, right?

“There’s uplifting news on the other side of this: Dogs have also been shown to actively reduce stress in their humans, like increasing dopamine and oxytocin, lowering cortisol levels, and even improving blood pressure,” says Liff, adding, “The relationship really does go both ways.”

That may help explain why so many people instinctively turn to their pets during difficult periods of life. Dogs are pretty much our emotional co-regulators!

So, what’s an anxious dog owner to do?

Do not, I repeat, treat this research as an invitation to spiral into guilt about stressing out your dog. The experts I spoke to all insisted that the opposite approach is more helpful.

“Do not beat yourself up,” says Humm-Beatty. “This just creates more stress for you and for your dog. Be gentle with yourself! All the things that are good for your own stress and that make you mentally healthier and stronger are, based on all this research, good for your dog too.”

Instead, focus on consistency, regulation, and shared calming activities. You can do this by maintaining predictable routines, prioritizing walks and playtime, using calm (or at least neutral) departures and arrivals, creating quiet spaces where your dog can decompress, and practicing grounding exercises together.

“If it’s hard to do these good things for yourself,” Humm-Beatty adds, “maybe knowing how much it will help your dog will be an added motivation.”

Liff also recommends creating transition rituals between work and home — even something as simple as a dedicated walk after work can help interrupt stress rumination for both humans and dogs.

Ultimately, says Dench, the science just reinforces something many dog owners already feel intuitively: “Dogs don’t just live alongside us… they experience life with us.”

]]><![CDATA[Stuck At The Airport With Kids? These Expert Tips Can Save Your Sanity]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/how-survive-airport-delays-with-kidshttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/how-survive-airport-delays-with-kidsFri, 29 May 2026 14:05:39 GMT

There was a time in my life when the thought of jet-setting off on a travel excursion was exciting. Heck, I even looked forward to it. Then I became a parent, and that easy-breezy attitude I had when it came to going on trips was quickly replaced by a cargo load of stress and worry. What if I forget their favorite stuffed animal? What if our luggage gets lost? How the heck are we going to pass the time? Yes, the idea of spending hours in a small metal tube thousands of miles up in the sky with complete strangers is truly the stuff of parenting nightmares.

But just in case that isn’t enough of an obstacle to overcome, these days traveling with kids isn’t just about surviving the actual flight — it’s also dealing with the prospect of massive delays and cancellations, leaving you with even more time to kill with your tiny humans who aren’t exactly known for their patience.

I recently faced such a predicament myself during my son’s spring break. He’s 5 years old, and we met my husband’s family on the Big Island of Hawaii for a week of fun and relaxation. All went relatively smoothly until it was time to return home. We had made it through security, were on the plane in our seats, made it to the runway, and were even scheduled to land earlier than expected. I was sure this five-hour flight would be a piece of cake.

Then we just sat there... and sat there.

After a while, I looked out the window and noticed we were heading back to the airport (never a great sign on any flight that has yet to take off). Finally, the pilot came over the intercom with the dreaded news no traveler wants to hear: Due to a technical issue, everyone was being asked to deboard with all their luggage and wait for a new plane to arrive.

This meant we would now be spending several extra hours at the airport that I had not accounted for. Instant panic flooded my entire body. Now what? My son is a pretty good little traveler, but this was going to be a significant amount of time, and I had been banking on his iPad usage dominating most of the flight. Snacks and movies were tried-and-true methods of passing the time on the plane, but where did that leave me when it came to surviving extra time at the airport?

Unfortunately, these types of travel scenarios are becoming more and more common. Unforeseen delays aren’t just a possibility, but a probability. I wasn’t the first person to experience such an inconvenience, and I certainly won’t be the last. If you’re the next to fall victim to such, shall we say, turbulent travel conditions, fear not — because after having a few experts weigh in on the matter, it seems these dreaded delays don’t have to be as stressful as you may think.

Get Moving

So much of your actual flight involves sitting still for long periods of time, which is why when it comes to airport delays, parents should take advantage of all that extra space at their disposal. “The biggest mistake I see parents make is expecting kids to sit still and act like adults at the gate,” family travel specialist Christy Slavik tells ScaryMommy. “Airports are actually great places for movement! You can walk the full terminal, ride the tram, hop on one foot from tile to tile, find a different concourse. Burning off energy early prevents meltdowns later!”

In that same vein, Balkan Trails’ travel and tourism expert Vlad Trestian advises making a game out of your surroundings. “I recommend to parents to turn the terminal into a scavenger hunt,” says Trestian. “Ask your child to identify five different airline logos, determine how many airplanes depart from the same gates that they can see, etc.” Personally, my son always loves a good round (or two or 20) of “I Spy,” and the airport would give you plenty of items to choose from.

And if you have an older kiddo who perhaps has outgrown those types of games, or at least likes to pretend that they have? No problem! “Older children can be given a ‘project,’” Trestian adds. “[They can] keep track of the flight numbers listed on the flight status boards, create a contingency plan for possible delays, etc. This provides them with a greater sense of control when their normal daily routine has been disrupted due to unexpected travel disruptions.”

Pack a “Secret Weapon”

While you always want to hope for the best when it comes to air travel, it’s extremely beneficial to pack for the worst. For Slavik, this means coming armed with a secret weapon. “I always recommend parents pack one or two items that are only used if things go sideways,” Slavik explains. “That novelty, whether it's a small toy, sticker book, or special snack, can buy you a surprising amount of time.”

If you end up not having to use these items, then great! You can always save it as part of your backup plan for the return flight home, in case things don’t go as smoothly that time around — which, as I can attest to, is something that can absolutely happen.

Socialize

Another great way to pass the time is to get to know some of your fellow passengers. After all, they’re going through the same inconveniences as you are, so you already have something in common. Plus, why not make a few friends along the way? “Find another set of kids at the gate to play with or a talkative grandma,” Slavik suggests. “Not only is this great for improving social skills, but your delay could turn into a blessing of a new friend!”

Take Advantage of Available Perks

Most airlines have private lounges available to certain passengers. Prior to your flight, double-check to see if you qualify for such amenities. “If your family has lounge or restroom access, I recommend looking for those locations, as those areas are generally less crowded and provide a respite from the chaos of the main terminal,” says Trestian.

Even if you aren’t an official lounge member, you could be granted temporary access if your delay is significant enough. Remember, airlines want your continued business, which means they might be willing to accommodate you for any inconveniences you and your family may face. Either way, it never hurts to ask, especially considering all the benefits that could come from securing a quieter area in the airport, like comfier chairs, ideal reading conditions, and maybe even the opportunity to catch a little nap, if you’re lucky.

But even if the lounge access proves to be off-limits, Trestian wants you to remember that “most large airports are now providing areas specifically designed for children's play or interaction.” For example: Newark Liberty International has a play track and ropes course, and Phoenix Sky Harbor International Airport has an aviation-themed mini-playground! So make sure to do a little research on the airport you’re stuck in so you can fully utilize those available perks.

Look, no one wants inconveniences like this to happen, but they can and most likely will at some point or another. At least now you have a few helpful tools at your disposal, leaving you one less piece of baggage to carry with you on your next big family adventure.

]]><![CDATA[11 Pesto Dishes To Try When You Have A Basil-y Batch To Use Up]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/pesto-dishes-recipes-using-pestohttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/pesto-dishes-recipes-using-pestoFri, 29 May 2026 13:43:34 GMT
All The Healthy Things

If you’re anything like me, you sometimes buy a random ingredient to make one recipe you saw on TikTok, and then the tub of tzatziki or chimichurri sits in your fridge going bad. Pesto is one of those grocery items; I love to grab a little container in the refrigerated section and use it for pasta salad, but I never seem to make it through the whole thing before it expires. Whether you make your own or buy it premade, these interesting pesto dishes will help you use up the entire batch for once.

Pesto Orzo Pasta Salad

All The Healthy Things

If you haven’t made a pesto-based pasta salad at home before, I recommend you start there to use up a good amount of pesto. All The Healthy Things’ recipe is orzo-based and loaded with lots of crunch from pine nuts, bell peppers, and cucumber. This is a desk lunch extraordinaire.

Creamy Pesto Chicken Skillet

Princess Pinky Girl

Princess Pinky Girl’s pesto chicken skillet is honestly what I want for dinner most nights after a long day. It’s ready in 25 minutes, requires precious few ingredients, and is both high in protein and satisfying to the soul (mmm, cheesy pasta).

Kale Pesto Avocado Grilled Cheese

Damn Delicious

Speaking of easy, cheesy, and satisfying, Damn Delicious’ pesto, kale, and avocado grilled cheese is honestly a perfect girl dinner for those nights you actually get to make something you want without worrying about whether your kids will eat it. She made hers in a waffle iron, but you could definitely use ye olde skillet.

Baked Brie Cheese With Sundried Tomatoes & Pesto

Biscuits & Burlap

Biscuits & Burlap’s baked brie with pesto looks like the dreamiest appetizer ever. You could proudly pop this in the center of a charcuterie board to take to any gathering, or make one all for yourself before you sit down to binge your new favorite show (Off Campus, anyone?).

Sheet Pan Pesto Salmon Dinner

Family Fresh Meals

It never would have occurred to me to top my salmon with pesto, but Family Fresh Meals’ recipe has inspired me to try it. This sheet pan recipe yields fork-tender, flaky salmon with roasted onions and tomatoes in under 30 minutes. Pop it over some pasta or rice and call it good.

Roasted Carrots With Carrot Top Pesto

A Beautiful Plate

A Beautiful Plate’s roasted carrots with pesto would be an impressive side dish at any holiday meal. Her recipe teaches you how to make carrot top pesto from the leaves of your fresh carrots, which is surprisingly easy. All in all, you’re looking at 15 minutes of prep for a very delicious result.

Pesto Eggs

Feel Good Foodie

Pesto for breakfast? Never would have thought of that. Feel Good Foodie’s pesto eggs on toast are a super simple and easy way to use up your pesto and make a weekday breakfast feel a little bit more special. The addition of a little ricotta makes these sound so good.

White Chicken Lasagna Roll-Ups

Averie Cooks

Averie Cooks’ white chicken lasagna roll-ups look absolutely divine. It’s a little more involved, taking about 45 minutes of prep and 45 minutes in the oven, so save this recipe for a weekend night when you want to make a big batch of something insanely yummy.

Kale, White Bean, & Pesto Salad

Budget Bytes

Every bougie recipe website is constantly posting something involving white beans. This salad from Budget Bytes is an easy, affordable way to try them out while using up some pesto. All it takes is six ingredients and 15 to 20 minutes — sign me up.

Chicken Pesto Sandwich

Damn Delicious

How often we forget the humble sandwich. Pesto makes a perfect spread, as exhibited by Damn Delicious’ chicken pesto sandwich recipe. I could see making this with leftover or rotisserie chicken as a quick lunch or dinner option, one that’s quick and tasty enough to become a permanent part of the rotation.

Kale Pesto Pizza

Jessica in the Kitchen

Any dish that’s described as “garlicky and ridiculously delicious” is an automatic yes. Jessica in the Kitchen will walk you through making this kale and pesto pizza at home, with a little added crunch from fresh pistachios. The flavor combos will make you feel like you ordered a restaurant flatbread straight to your kitchen table.

Did pesto just become a refrigerator staple? I think so.

]]><![CDATA[75 Trivia Questions For Teens That Actually Don't Suck]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/trivia-questions-teenshttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/trivia-questions-teensFri, 29 May 2026 13:39:22 GMT
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While your teenagers are at home over the summer or on long weekends, why not put their minds to the test with some knowledge questions that'll keep their brains sharp? Trivia questions for teens are a great bonding tool for the whole family, not to mention a smart way to keep them engaged with pop culture, world history, current events, and more. You could start a tradition of throwing out a few trivia questions at breakfast or dinner each day to build their knowledge base, and even up the ante during the summer months so that their brains don't turn to mush while they're running around outside and not in school.

Trivia questions for teens can run the gamut and be related to just about any topic that tickles your fancy and suits your kid's age bracket. If you want to use this exercise to help sharpen your kids’ thinking skills, pairing actual knowledge questions with fun pop culture ones can strike a balance that keeps your teen engaged and willing to play along.

To get you started on this new quest with your family, try these trivia questions about a little bit of everything. Then, pop over to these riddles for teens that'll really get their brain juices flowing.

General Trivia Questions For Teens

  • What was the first state in the United States? Delaware
  • In a basketball game, how many players from each team are on the court at the same time? Five
  • How many dots appear on a pair of dice? 42
  • What iconic company did Steve Jobs start? Apple
  • What is the largest country in the world? Russia
  • What is the largest mammal? Blue whale
  • What is the largest organ in the body? Skin
  • In what year was Joe Biden elected president? 2020
  • In what city can you find the Eiffel Tower? Paris
  • What are the five Great Lakes? Erie, Huron, Ontario, Superior, Michigan
  • Which fast-food chain is known for its golden arches? McDonald's
  • How many nights of Hanukkah are there? Eight
  • What galaxy do we live in? Milky Way
  • What is the world's largest ocean? Pacific Ocean
  • What’s the largest city by land area in the United States? Sitka, Alaska
  • Where was the game of checkers invented? Egypt
  • How many wives did King Henry VIII have? Six
  • Where did the Olympics start? Greece
  • In what country will you find the world's tallest building? United Arab Emirates
  • How many stars are in our solar system? Just one — the sun!
  • What was the first hair dye made out of? Bird poop
  • What do you call a group of crows? A murder
  • What is the average height in the U.S.? 5 feet 3.5 inches for women, and 5 feet 9 inches for men
  • How long is a giraffe's tongue? 21 inches long
  • How long does the average person spend sitting on the toilet in their lifetime? An entire year
  • What country has the world's largest population? India, at 1.47 billion
  • Approximately how many miles is the Earth's circumference? 24,901 miles
  • How many bones do sharks have? Zero
  • When in groups, this jungle animal is referred to as an ambush. What kind of animal is this? Tiger
  • Charlie Chaplin insured which part of his body? His feet
  • Name the potion that grants good luck in Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince. Felix Felicis
  • How many keys are on a standard piano? 88 keys
  • How many minutes are in one week? 10,080
  • Which direction makes jet lag worse? Traveling east
  • How tall is the Eiffel Tower? 1063 feet (324 meters)
  • How many time zones are there in the world? 24
  • What was the first country to give women the right to vote? New Zealand
  • What is cynophobia? A fear of dogs
  • What animal can be seen on the Porsche logo? Horse
  • Who was the first female pilot to fly solo across the Atlantic? Amelia Earhart
  • What is the rarest M&M color? Brown
  • What was the first soft drink in space? Coca-Cola

Pop Culture Trivia Questions For Teens

  • What is Baby Yoda's real name? Grogu
  • What are the names of Harry Potter's best friends? Ron Weasley and Hermione Granger
  • What boy band was Harry Styles a member of? One Direction
  • Who is the most-streamed artist on Spotify? Justin Bieber
  • Whose real name is Colson Baker? Machine Gun Kelly
  • How many Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles are there? Four
  • Whose real name is Steve Rogers? Captain America
  • Who plays Spider-Man in the Amazing Spider-Man movies? Andrew Garfield
  • What Netflix show takes place in Hawkins, Indiana? Stranger Things
  • Who was the first winner of American Idol? Kelly Clarkson
  • What is Billie Eilish's full name? Billie Eilish Pirate Baird O'Connell
  • What is Kylie Jenner's daughter's name? Stormi
  • In what state is the Coachella Music Festival held? California
  • Who is Stefani Germanotta? Lady Gaga
  • What is Thor's hammer called? Mjolnir
  • Who is the most followed person on TikTok? Khaby Lame
  • What day is Star Wars Day? May 4
  • How many Harry Potter books and movies are there? 7 books, 8 movies
  • Who named their son X Æ A-12? Elon Musk and Grimes
  • Who is Jennifer Lopez married to? Ben Affleck
  • Who has the most Instagram followers after Instagram? Cristiano Ronaldo
  • Where does the Fenty in Fenty Beauty come from? Rihanna's real name, Robyn Rihanna Fenty
  • Who is Justin Bieber’s famous father-in-law? Stephen Baldwin
  • What kind of animal is SpongeBob SquarePants' Squidward? An octopus ("Octoward" allegedly sounded too weird!)
  • How old was Taylor Swift when she took home her first Album of the Year Grammy? 20
  • Who famously played Lizzie McGuire? Hilary Duff
  • What is the highest-grossing movie of all time? Avatar
  • What was Lady Gaga’s iconic outfit at the 2010 MTV Video Music Awards? A meat dress
  • What are the names of Kim Kardashian and Kanye West’s kids? North, Saint, Chicago, and Psalm
  • How many times did Ross get divorced on Friends? Three
  • What does the acronym “smh” stand for? Shaking my head
  • What are the names of the Sanderson sisters from Hocus Pocus? Winifred, Mary, and Sarah
  • Who is the goddaughter of Dolly Parton? Miley Cyrus
]]><![CDATA[I Couldn’t Be There For My Mom When She Was Sick. The Longing Stayed With Me For Years.]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/i-couldnt-be-there-for-my-mom-when-she-was-sick-the-longing-stayed-with-me-for-yearshttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/i-couldnt-be-there-for-my-mom-when-she-was-sick-the-longing-stayed-with-me-for-yearsFri, 29 May 2026 13:26:10 GMT
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I still remember the physical feeling of it. It wasn’t just sadness. It was panic, longing, and helplessness. There was this constant ache in my chest because someone I loved was hurting and I couldn’t fully get to her.

At the time, I was raising two very young children in Florida when my mom was diagnosed with cancer. My mom was living in Canada, and I had just returned home to Florida after traveling to be with her for my grandmother’s funeral. The very next day, my mom called with the news of her diagnosis. Everything changed very quickly after that.

I remember immediately thinking: How do I get there? How do I help? How do I do both?

But I had an eight-month-old baby and a three-year-old at home. Anyone who has raised little kids understands how physically all-consuming those years are. Even leaving the house can feel like a production. Suddenly, I was trying to navigate early motherhood while also feeling this overwhelming pull to be with my own mother during one of the hardest moments of her life.

It felt impossible to fully be in either place.

It’s something many women quietly live with: You’re caring for the people right in front of you while also trying to hold concern for someone you love somewhere else. You’re making snacks, answering emails, loading car seats, sitting at soccer practice, picking kids up from school, and underneath all of it is this constant emotional current running through your body.

At the time, I kept thinking I needed to do something tangible. That instinct has always been part of who I am. When people I love are hurting, I want to show up somehow.

So I went online looking for a way to send comfort to my mom. I found flowers and fruit baskets and candy, all thoughtful in their own way, but for this particular moment, none of it felt quite right to me. I kept thinking: What do you send someone who is sick?

The answer for me was obvious: chicken noodle soup. It was what my mom always made for me growing up. Soup meant comfort, care, and being looked after. It meant someone slowing down long enough to nurture you. But at the time, there really wasn’t a way to send that kind of care from far away.

My mom passed away just six weeks later from lung cancer.

After she died, I could not stop thinking about that moment and why there hadn’t been a way to send a gift that felt appropriate for someone going through something so difficult. The idea stayed with me and would wake me up at night. Eventually, while raising my kids, I started trying to create something myself, initially delivering soup and comfort packages out of my minivan to people navigating illness, grief, and other difficult moments when they could not physically be there for someone they loved.

In those early days, I was literally driving packages to the post office with my kids strapped into car seats in the back. I remember negotiating with postal workers to let me pull around back because I could not unload boxes and unbuckle babies at the same time in the Florida heat. Every afternoon became this routine of snacks, packages, drop-offs, and trying to hold everything together.

Looking back now, I realize it was never really about the soup itself. It was about what soup represents to people. It’s warmth, familiarity, comfort, and care. It’s a way of saying, “I wish I could sit next to you right now, but since I can’t, I want you to feel loved anyway.”

And honestly, I think that’s something so many families are trying to figure out now.

Modern motherhood often feels like living in constant tension. We’re balancing work and caregiving and parenting and friendships while families are spread farther apart than ever. So much of life happens through screens now. We text. We FaceTime. We squeeze phone calls into school pickup lines and grocery store runs.

We are constantly connected, but many of us still feel deeply helpless when the people we love are hurting and we cannot physically be there.

Caregiving is rarely something we do alone. My friends became part of my village in ways I still carry with me. Sometimes support looked big, but often it was small. It was someone checking in, someone helping with my kids, or someone noticing I was struggling before I even had to say it out loud.

I was never very good at pretending I had everything together, and I think that openness helped carry me through grief and motherhood at the same time.

There are still moments, even now, where I think about how badly I wanted my mom during those years of raising young children myself. Becoming a mother made me understand my own mother differently. I suddenly saw all the invisible ways she had cared for me my entire life. And maybe that’s why the smallest gestures matter so much. It’s not because they fix grief or illness or loneliness. They don’t. It’s because they remind people they don’t have to carry hard things alone.

Sometimes love looks big and dramatic. But more often, I think it looks like someone finding a small way to show up anyway, even from far away.

Marti Wymer is the founder of Spoonful of Comfort, a company that sends soup, meals, and care packages to people navigating illness, grief, caregiving, new parenthood, and other difficult life moments. Marti lives in Park City, Utah with her husband and business partner, Steven, their beloved Newfoundland and St. Bernard dogs, and occasionally their young adult children when schedules allow.

]]><![CDATA[24 Amazon Finds Scary Mommy Editors Can’t Shut Up About In May 2026]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/amazon-picks-scary-mommy-editors-may-2026https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/amazon-picks-scary-mommy-editors-may-2026Thu, 28 May 2026 22:12:27 GMT
Amazon

Welcome back to another installment of Scary Mommy editors enthusiastically recommending the oddly specific products currently improving our lives! Every month, we collectively discover a bunch of products that we inevitably end up Slacking each other about — from little parenting lifesavers to home upgrades to, this month, summer essentials. And because we don’t believe in gatekeeping, we love to share them with you.

So, here are the things we currently can’t shut up about... may you find something here that makes your life feel a little easier, too.

Hatchimals Bloomables, Bloom Bash Collectibles Pack

I am buying these for my daughter, and I already know she is going to be completely obsessed. Each Bloomable comes in a little flower pod that you hatch yourself to reveal a surprise collectible character inside, and the unboxing experience alone is going to send her over the edge. There are tons of characters to collect across different floral themes, plus accessories to mix and match, which means this one purchase has serious replay and trade value with friends. The perfect gift for any kid who loves a surprise reveal and can never have too many tiny collectible things! — Katie Garrity, News & Social Editor

Simpler Hair Color for Women

I tried another brand of hair dye this month in two different shades that just didn't cover my grays well, and they both made my roots look so red. No thanks! I immediately repurchased Simpler's dark brown, which gave me perfect coverage and color in the past. The little brush makes it so easy to thoroughly coat your hair, and if you're just doing your roots, one bottle will give you at least three applications. — Katie McPherson, Associate Editor, Lifestyle & Entertainment

Welly Bandage Clip N' Go Tin & Refill Pack

We pretty much exclusively buy Welly brand bandages because they actually stick and move with your body, which matters when you're mostly using them on scraped-up little boy knees. I'd been meaning to buy some kind of bandage holder to keep in my purse for my son anyway, and I snagged this adorable tin from Amazon to take along with me to a music festival in case of blisters. I wish I'd thought to buy one sooner. — Katie McPherson

Prettygarden Elastic Waist Summer Shorts

I wanted some loose, comfortable shorts to wear to the aforementioned music festival, so I ordered multiple pairs and this one was the clear winner of the bunch. You can wear them on your hips or high-waisted, and the black-and-white gingham looks super cute peeking out from under an oversized band tee. Now every time they're clean, I reach for them first. — Katie McPherson

Hiyo Social Tonics

I have been drinking less in recent years due to some chronic health issues, and my workaround has been to bring fun seltzers and NA drinks to social functions so I still have a special bevvy to look forward to. Hiyo sent me their tropical pack of social tonics, and I would definitely repurchase them for myself or for a party with other non-drinking folks. They taste fantastic, which is shockingly rare in the NA world. I definitely feel a relaxing effect after two of them, but mostly I love that they don't trigger debilitating migraines like alcohol does to me now (sob). — Katie McPherson

Make It Real: Say Yes! Alphabet Bead Bracelet Set

This is such a great gift for any kid who is deep in the friendship-bracelet era — the set comes loaded with colorful alphabet beads, letter charms, elastic cord, and everything needed to make personalized bracelets for themselves and their friends. It's the kind of creative activity that keeps kids busy for hours and produces something they actually want to wear and give away, which is the best possible combination. Perfect for sleepovers, rainy days, or any kid who can't stop making bracelets! — Katie Garrity

Dabble & Dollop Mini Bath Bombs

Bath time has become a negotiation, and these are my secret weapon — each mini bomb fizzes and releases a fun tropical scent, turning an ordinary bath into an event she actually gets excited about. They're made with clean, skin-safe ingredients and are free from sulfates, parabens, and artificial dyes, so I feel good about tossing them in the tub. The mini size means you get tons of them in one pack, which is perfect for making bath time a nightly treat without running out in a week. — Katie Garrity

HexClad Hybrid Nonstick 2-Quart Rice Pot

This pot has completely changed the way I cook rice! The HexClad hybrid surface gives you the sear of stainless steel with the easy release of nonstick, which means perfectly cooked rice every single time with zero sticking and minimal cleanup. It's oven safe up to 500°F, dishwasher safe, induction compatible, and the stay-cool handle actually stays cool, which sounds like a basic feature until you've burned yourself on every other pot you've ever owned. It's a genuinely beautiful piece of cookware that performs as good as it looks, and I reach for it constantly. — Katie Garrity

Tumella Umbrella

This umbrella is the first one I've ever had that I actually trust in bad weather. The reinforced fiberglass frame is genuinely windproof and doesn't flip inside out the second a gust hits, which has been the downfall of every other umbrella I've owned. The automatic open-and-close button means you can pop it up one-handed while juggling a coffee, a bag, and a kid, and the canopy is large enough to actually keep you dry. It's beautiful, sturdy, and the kind of everyday carry upgrade that makes a surprisingly big difference in your daily life. — Katie Garrity

Grand Tongo Fragrance Free Insect Repellent

This bug spray has completely replaced the DEET sprays I grew up with — picaridin is just as effective at repelling mosquitoes, ticks, and flies but without the harsh chemical smell, the greasy feel, or the worry about what you're putting on your skin and your kids' skin. It's fragrance-free, non-greasy, won't damage clothing or gear, and provides up to 12 hours of protection, which means one application and you're covered for the whole day outside. If you've been looking for a cleaner alternative to traditional bug spray that actually works, this is it. — Katie Garrity

Caraway Nonstick Ceramic Frying Pan

This pan is genuinely one of my most-used things in the kitchen. The ceramic nonstick coating is completely free of PTFE, PFOA, and other toxic chemicals, so eggs slide right off without any of the worry that comes with traditional nonstick pans. It heats evenly, the handle stays cool, it's oven-safe up to 550°F, and it cleans up in about 10 seconds flat. It also happens to be beautiful enough to go straight from the stovetop to the table, which is the kind of small joy that makes cooking actually feel good! — Katie Garrity

The Original Mello Hair Claw Clip

These have completely replaced every hard plastic claw clip I've ever owned. The squishy CloudFlex material flexes and compresses rather than snapping, which means you can lean back in the car, sleep on the couch, or work at your desk for hours without that scalp pressure or midday headache. The inward-curving teeth direct pressure away from your head, the stainless steel spring is rust-proof and silent, and the hold actually lasts all day without breakage. Once you try a Mello clip, you will genuinely never go back to a regular claw clip again. — Katie Garrity

Landneoo Weekly Pill Organizer

Because adulthood apparently means owning enough supplements to require a filing system, I needed something to corral the pills that do shit like ease my daily aches and pains and keep me alive longer or something. I’ve tried the big square version but ultimately hated how cumbersome it was. This little guy is super convenient with the AM/PM slots, and its compact size means I can toss it in my bag and take it wherever I need to go. — Julie Sprankles, Deputy Editor, Lifestyle & Entertainment

Colugo Clip-On High Chair

This is one of those baby shower gifts that the new mom won't think to register for but will use literally every single day. The Colugo portable booster seat straps securely to any dining chair with a 3-point harness, folds completely flat for travel, and grows with your baby from 6 months all the way through toddlerhood. It's made from wipeable, easy-clean fabric, and it takes up almost no space in a diaper bag or suitcase. We gave one to my parents for their house so they can still have the kiddos over without a giant high chair taking up space. — Katie Garrity

Bentgo X Bluey Lunchbox

What do you get a kid who loves Bluey and snacks? When I saw this collab between Bluey and Bentgo, I knew my nephew had to have it for first grade. I love that Bento's lunch boxes are leakproof, and it feels so special to carry around such a cool, organized box of snacks to school. — Sarah Aswell, Deputy Editor, News & Social

Mellanni Sheet Set

My kids both needed new sheet sets, and I needed to find something quality but also affordable. These are light, breathable, and come in a huge assortment of colors. The Amazon reviews don't lie! — Sarah Aswell

Merrell Women's Terran 4-Post Sandal

Give me a summer sandal I can walk in and play in... but that looks pretty. Enter Merrell's line of sandals. I love how comfortable the footbed is on these sandals, as well as how they are super practical but also don't look like a shoe you ONLY wear out in the woods. These were comfortable and walkable from the first step. I love that I can wear them to the river or wear them with a cute skirt. — Sarah Aswell

Switch Carrying Case

Here’s the thing: I like to take very grown-up girls’ trips, but I also like to bring my Switch to hook up to the TV so we can stay up way too late playing and laughing deliriously. I’ve just been tossing everything into random bags to bring along, so I finally decided to get an actual carrying case. This one is super affordable, holds my Switch and all of the accessories I need, and it’s just cute. — Julie Sprankles

Where The Polka Dots Roam Floral Sheet Set

This is another affordable sheet company available on Amazon! I absolutely love their bright, fun colors and patterns, and my daughter loved mixing and matching patterns for her bed and duvet set. Love that the microfiber is very soft, wrinkle-free, and quick-drying. — Sarah Aswell

Febreze Trash Odor Fighter

This is one of those products where I just wonder: Why didn't we think of it sooner? This is an air freshener just for your trash can... and in this house, I really need that. This isn't too strong or too subtle, it's just right. And it lasts for 45 days between refills. Love this for the kitchen. — Sarah Aswell

Native Flip-Flops

Living in a coastal town, I wear flip-flops 90% of the time... and these are my absolute favorite “daily flops.” I’ve seriously worn them so much in the last year, yet they look the same as they did the first day I wore them. So, after rocking the same pair on repeat so much, this month — as we head full-force into summer — felt like the perfect time to get a pair in a new color. — Julie Sprankles

Maestri House Compact Cold Brew Coffee Maker

This pitcher has completely elevated my at-home coffee routine. It's a compact, leak-proof stainless steel frothing pitcher with a precision pour spout that makes steaming and pouring milk so much easier and cleaner than anything I used before. The size is perfect for single or double servings without wasting milk, and it's sturdy, easy to clean, and looks genuinely beautiful on the counter next to an espresso machine. If you are trying to make your morning coffee feel a little more like a cafe experience at home, this is such an easy and affordable upgrade. — Katie Garrity

Cats Knocking Things Off Ledges

This is a fun, all-family dexterity game that is a sort of cross between Jenga and Operation. And it has a lot of cats. I love that it's fun and lighthearted, but also pretty cozy and low-stakes, great for more anxious kids. I love listening to my kids playing this one with friends. — Sarah Aswell

Lume Acidified Deodorant Wipes

I live in the South. Sweat is just sort of a fact of life... every.single.day. And because I’m a masochist, I also like to frequent Florida’s muggy-ass theme parks. All of that to say, I just need to always have something on hand that I can toss in my bag to make myself feel fresher. These whole-body deodorant wipes are the perfect quick reset for underarms, underboob, wherever. Bonus points for the fact that they actually help stop odor instead of just masking it. — Julie Sprankles

]]><![CDATA[The Best Rides For Young Kids At Universal Orlando, According To A Mom Who Just Went]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/best-rides-for-young-kids-at-universal-orlandohttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/best-rides-for-young-kids-at-universal-orlandoThu, 28 May 2026 19:39:30 GMT
Katie McPherson

If you grew up in Florida like I did, chances are you had a big middle or high school field trip to Islands of Adventure at some point. But somehow — now a mom in my mid-30s — I haven’t managed to make it back to a Universal theme park since I was 14. When I was invited to cover the one-year anniversary of Epic Universe and to bring my husband and 5-year-old son, I jumped at the chance. There are so many movies and shows he loves, from Minions to Transformers and certainly all things Super Mario Brothers inside these parks to enjoy.

That said, Universal’s parks are meant to feel immersive and thrilling, like you’re in those movies you love so much. So, my husband and I spent a good bit of time watching ride POVs on YouTube and reading up on what to expect from every single ride in order to determine what would be fun and thrilling — not overwhelming and scary — for our little guy. Because parents of kids know that once the overwhelm hits, it can be hard to bounce back. We did our due diligence and also rode some things we weren’t sure about, and all in all, we had our best vacation as a family ever.

So, here are the best rides for young kids at Universal Studios, Islands of Adventure, and Epic Universe, from a mom and a little boy who rode it all.

Best Rides For Young Kids At Epic Universe

Yoshi’s Adventure
Mario Kart: Bowser's Challenge
Mine Cart Madness

Constellation Carousel: You can’t help but see this carousel in the center of Celestial Park right when you walk into Epic. It’s a big, beautiful, astrology-themed carousel beneath a shaded dome, so if you need a break from the sun, this is a solid option for the whole fam. It plays multiple different songs and moves differently to each, so riders can get a few unique experiences out of this one ride too.

Fyre Drill: This is a super cute ride in slow-moving Viking boats, where riders must take aim at targets with water guns to put out the “fires.” We didn’t feel like getting wet but watched the ride from the bridge, and it did look like a great way to cool off midday — we just had a lot left to do and no change of clothes. That said, there was a people dryer nearby that costs $7 and should speed up your drying time quite a bit!

Hiccup’s Wing Gliders: This is billed as a family coaster, and I think it definitely counts as one... but for kids a little older than mine. It’s all about banking turns and feeling like you’re riding Toothless over the Island of Berk, but you stay right-side up the whole time. I rode it solo and thought it would have been a little too intense for a 5-year-old, purely due to the speed and the portion where it goes backwards. If you have grade school kids, I think this will be a hit with them — I loved it as an adult! You can actually see big sections of the coaster while walking around the Island of Berk, so take a gander first if you’re unsure. (The same age recommendation goes for Dragon Racer’s Rally, which was too high for my little guy to want to get on, but would probably thrill slightly older kids.)

Yoshi’s Adventure: All three rides in Epic’s Super Nintendo World were a hit with my kid, and Yoshi’s Adventure is appropriate for literally all ages. It’s a slow-moving ride in your very own Yoshi, who just meanders down a track. It offers great views of Peach’s castle, and you’re meant to look around the ride for three colorful Yoshi eggs and press the corresponding egg button in your Yoshi when you see it. This adds points to your power-up band!

Speaking of those power-up bands, I highly recommend springing for them if you’re fans of the Mario games. There are power-up blocks to punch and five Nintendo-style game challenges all around Super Nintendo World, and completing them all earns you access to a final boss fight with Bowser Jr. It adds so much extra fun and interactivity with this very immersive part of the park. Buy them ahead of time if you know your kiddos won’t be patient enough to pair them with the app on your phone while surrounded in coin boxes to punch (but you can also just get them in the gift shop there).

Mine Cart Madness: Another family coaster, and this is one my 5-year-old loved. It’s inspired by the classic DK video game’s track jumps, giving the illusion that your mine cart is hopping over sections of broken track. It’s purposefully a little shaky — you’re supposed to be in a runaway mine cart after all — so keep that in mind if your kids don’t love rough rides. That said, we all loved the theming of the ride and the intensity level. I give it 5/5 golden bananas.

Mario Kart: Bowser’s Challenge: This is the ride we were all most excited for in all of Epic Universe, as parents who grew up playing Mario Kart on the Nintendo 64 and a kid who is now learning to play. It’s a completely unique concept — your kart moves down a track through real effects and animatronics, but you’re also wearing augmented reality glasses that display enemies you can hit with shells. It’d take a few rides to get the hang of how firing shells really works, but we enjoyed it nonetheless. (This is another ride that adds coins to your power-up band, BTW.)

As Scary Mommy previously reported, Epic also includes an interactive water play area with dancing fountains (Astronomica in Celestial Park), a Viking-themed playground on the Isle of Berk, and two immersive shows: Le Cirque Arcanus in Ministry of Magic and The Untrainable Dragon in Isle of Berk, which had some of the most incredible animatronics I’ve ever seen up close. There are also plenty of character meet and greets, from Mario and Luigi to Hiccup and Toothless. To me, this was a fantastic park to take a kid our age and still get plenty of thrills as a parent (Stardust Racers is for us adrenaline junkies).

Best Rides For Young Kids At Universal Studios

Despicable Me Minion Mayhem: I had no idea what to expect with this ride. It’s a simulation in which you’re turned into a minion (“not for real, of course,” I had to assure my son), and the seats move all around to create the illusion that you’re on a roller coaster through Gru’s villain lair. We ended up opting for stationary seats just to make sure my son didn’t flip out, and he enjoyed it quite a bit that way, even without the motion.

Illumination’s Villain-Con Minion Blast: This is essentially a people mover! You stand on a circle armed with a blaster and take aim at all the targets as you move through rooms with massive 3D simulation screens. It’s fun for all ages, and my kid wanted to go back in again and again.

Men in Black Alien Attack: I hadn’t been on this ride and wasn’t sure if it’d be scary, but we went for it, and I’m so glad we did. My son loved aiming his blaster at all the aliens in the windows and trying to rack up points. If you watched Men in Black on repeat, it’s like getting to step into their training simulation for real — very gratifying for this millennial, honestly. There are some quick spins as your vehicle moves through the “training,” but we knew this going in and told our son so he wasn’t taken by surprise.

E.T. Adventure: I think not taking your kids on this ride counts as child neglect, right? Seriously, this is a classic ride for a reason. To me it’s Universal’s It’s A Small World, a calming, nostalgic, whimsical break among all the other thrill rides the park has to offer. You’re riding through the forest at night on a flying bike, and it just doesn’t really get better. Plus, they sell candles of that infamous E.T. smell in the gift shop (we bought three).

Kang and Kodos’ Twirl ‘n’ Hurl: This ride is a classic Dumbo-esque one — riders control their up and down movement while spinning in a circle. Easy, delightful for little ones, and a no-brainer stop on your walk between Universal’s different IPs.

Hogwarts Express (King’s Cross Station): If you have admission to both Universal Studios and Islands of Adventure, this ride takes you from one park’s Harry Potter-themed area to the other’s. Inside, you’re treated to a simulated look out the “window” at the passing scenery, and you see your favorite characters moving past your train car door. Plus, this is a nice dose of sweet, sweet air conditioning and a comfy set.

Best Rides For Young Kids At Islands Of Adventure

Storm Force Accelatron: While I went on the Hulk coaster, my husband took our little guy on Storm Force Accelatron. It’s a spinning ride a la the infamous teacups at Disney, just with a supervillain bent rather than the Wonderland theme.

Flight of the Hippogriff: This coaster is intended for kids; my son rode it twice and would gladly have gone again. It’s the perfect speed to be exciting but not scary, spirals but doesn’t get crazy with the G-forces, and offers some of the best views of Hogwarts IMO.

All the Seuss Landing rides: The Dr. Seuss portion of the park was designed for kids, of course, which means it’s the spot to head for little thrill seekers.

  • One Fish, Two Fish, Red Fish, Blue Fish is another Dumbo-like ride, except you move up and down to dodge little jets of water.
  • The High in the Sky Seuss Trolley Train Ride!: Two tracks take you around Seuss Landing for a bird’s eye view, while telling you one of two stories, either about the Sneetches or an alphabet of the famous author’s other characters.
  • The Cat in the Hat: This is a little cart ride on a track through the story of the classic book. The old-school animatronics feel really nostalgic, and the ride is indoors and dark, so it’s a great cool-down attraction on a hot Florida day.
  • Caro-Seuss-el: It’s a carousel, but there are no normal horses here. Instead, climb aboard one of Dr. Seuss’s wildest creatures. Where else can your kid sit astride a scraggle-foot mulligatawny?

There’s also an entire play area inspired by If I Ran the Zoo, a perfect place for kids to run out their zoomies before waiting in a longer attraction line.

One thing about Universal’s parks: Some of its biggest and best rides are simulation-style. Think all three major wizarding rides (Harry Potter and the Escape from Gringotts, Harry Potter and the Forbidden Journey, and Harry Potter and the Battle at the Ministry), The Amazing Adventures of Spider-Man, and Skull Island: Reign of Kong.

We hopped on the Spider-Man ride first thing after watching videos of it with our son to prepare him for the fact that none of what happens inside is real; Doctor Octopus is not really electrocuting our car, and we are not really falling off a building into Spider-Man’s web. Still, he isn’t quite old enough to separate fiction and reality in a ride engineered to feel real, so he was pretty afraid the whole time. We steered clear of any simulation rides after that, but if your kid is a year or two older and likes that sort of thing, then your family’s list of ride options opens up immensely.

All in all, we had our most fun family vacay to date at Universal, and I know their parks will only get more fun to visit the older and more adrenaline-seeking our son gets. That said, there was more than enough for us to do as a family and get all our thrills, fun, and movie-magic moments.

]]><![CDATA[Is Your Teen “Sh*tting The Nest”? Experts Explain This Behavioral Phase]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/teen-shitting-the-nest-phasehttps://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/teen-shitting-the-nest-phaseThu, 28 May 2026 17:13:53 GMT
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Watching all the graduations happen around me has certainly put me in my own feels when it comes to my three daughters. My oldest is nearly 12, so I know her “leaving the nest” is sure to come faster than I can possibly imagine, but does she have to participate in “shitting the nest” on her way out?

I know, it sounds horrible — and it kind of is. While we all know teenagers often push boundaries and treat us, their parents, like we’re the dumbest humans that have ever lived, calling this act “shitting the nest” really drives it home. The theory, Reddit explains, is that teens are meant to act like total a-holes the closer they get to leaving the nest in some weird, evolutionary effort to make sure you don’t miss them too much. Like, of course you may not still be fully ready for them to be out on their own, but you might feel a little relief because they’ve had such a nasty attitude for so long.

And when you’re in the thick of those teen years, it’s hard to remember that this is all totally developmentally normal.

One parent took to Reddit to share how “crushing” this era of parenting is. The original poster (OP) finds it devastating that their now 15-year-old seems totally uninterested in hanging out with them, and all they can think about is how much they miss their child when they were younger. “I was warned that this is what teenage years are like, that they don't really appreciate you again until after college,” OP wrote. “But this is more upsetting than I'd expected. This is normal for teenagers, I'm sure, but what is normal for parents going through it? Am I pathetic? Is anyone else crushed by this part?”

So very normal. Not pathetic at all. And yes, of course.

One commenter wrote, “Not to sound flippant, but I’ve heard this stage referred to as ‘shitting the nest.’ It’d be unbearable to lose them if they were their sweet selves, so they make it easier on us by being little jerks for a few years.”

There’s some truth to that: It’s a combination of their brain not being fully developed and the anxiety they feel with all the upcoming transitions, Dr. Carrie Anne Dittner, founder and pediatric psychologist at Peak Psychology, tells Scary Mommy.

“Communication skills, problem-solving, and emotion regulation are still developing. They have not yet developed the coping skills to manage all of these impulses, so they are more likely to be snappy and irritable,” she explains. “In addition, they are establishing their identity and independence. It is normal for them to push boundaries and establish some control.”

And when it comes to the anxiety, Dittner says that emotion typically manifests as “fight or flight”... and I think we all know which one a teen’s going to choose. “Therefore, their tendency to be ‘difficult’ is likely more about their nervous system and worry about what’s next. Think about it as a ‘shaken up snow globe’ — they literally cannot think straight,” she says.

OK, so you know it’s normal and you know it’s developmentally sound, so surely it shouldn’t bother you in the slightest, right? Right?

“No, it doesn't help with the transition. Nothing does! It's supposed to be a huge storm of emotions because it is a developmental shift — for everyone. Parents become a passenger and not the driver anymore. Teens are navigating being alone for the first time and having to say goodbye to everything that has been familiar,” Dittner says. And if you notice your kid suddenly becomes themself again once they leave the nest, consider that a sign that they’ve adjusted to their new normal “and the snow globe settles down.”

But while everything feels unmoored and like it’s slipping through your hands, take a deep breath. They’re still your kid. You still love them.

Blame that pesky still-developing front lobe.

]]><![CDATA[“I’m Married To A Man But Crushing On A Woman” & 28 More Mom Confessions]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/im-married-to-a-man-but-crushing-on-a-woman-mom-confessionshttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/im-married-to-a-man-but-crushing-on-a-woman-mom-confessionsThu, 28 May 2026 16:51:34 GMT
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Every mom I know has about 8,000 things going on in her brain at any time. The grocery list, the soccer schedule, the weather — but if you ask her what’s on your mind, she won’t mention any of that. Maybe she’ll say “oh, nothing,” or maybe she’ll share something deep and personal. Like how exhausted she is caring for her parents and her kids. Or how she and her husband don’t have sex anymore. Or how much she hates her job, but knows she can’t leave.

The moms are sharing it all this week in Scary Mommy Confessions, and if you need a reminder that you aren’t alone with the constant juggling, read on. Some of these confessions will be relatable — some will be totally shocking — but they’re all going to make you want to commiserate with your own group of friends.

Scary Mommy Confessions are a tried-and-true part of what makes our site so fun. If you want to anonymously confess, look for our weekly callouts on Instagram. And to browse past Confessions, head here.

]]><![CDATA[The 25 Grocery Items That Save You The Most When You Buy Store Brand]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/grocery-items-that-save-you-the-most-when-you-buy-store-brandhttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/grocery-items-that-save-you-the-most-when-you-buy-store-brandThu, 28 May 2026 16:41:33 GMT
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Families around the country are paying hundreds of dollars per week for groceries these days, because yes, everything is seriously just that expensive right now (to say nothing of gas prices). Naturally, moms nationwide are doing everything they can to cut costs, whether that means shopping at multiple stores for the best deals, couponing, and more. If you’ve been brand-loyal to certain grocery items before — I grew up in a staunch Jif peanut butter household — you are probably at least considering swapping to the generic store-brand for some of those items. A new investigation by NetCredit uncovered exactly which store-brand items will save you the most money if you make the switch.

A team at NetCredit compiled a list of 171 common grocery products and visited Walmart, Kroger, and Target to calculate the price differences between the most popular name brands for each product and the store-brand alternatives. “We then aggregated these differences by product across the retailers to find the average savings available by switching to the store-brand version of each item,” the report explains.

Their thrifty shopping research found that opting for store-brand items at these three major retailers could save you more than 40%, compared to a shopping cart loaded with name-brand equivalents. Of the 171 items they compared, these were the 25 where the savings were largest and how much less they cost than their name-brand counterparts:

  1. Sports/hydration drinks — 74.3%
  2. Fruit Loops-style cereal — 69.3%
  3. Ketchup — 66.6%
  4. Plain corn flakes — 64.2%
  5. Tortilla chips — 62.7%
  6. Frosted shredded wheat cereal — 61.1%
  7. Gallon of 2% milk — 60.8%
  8. Gallon of whole milk — 60.3%
  9. Ranch dressing — 59.2%
  10. Chocolate milk — 58.5%
  11. Ice cream sandwiches — 56.7%
  12. Can of corn — 55.6%
  13. Spray cheese — 52.8%
  14. 12-pack of cola soda — 52.1%
  15. Mustard — 51.9%
  16. French baguette — 50.2%
  17. Cheesecake — 50%
  18. Boxed mac and cheese — 49.8%
  19. Cheddar cheese brick — 49.3%
  20. Spaghetti pasta — 49.2%
  21. Honey Bunches of Oats-style cereal — 48.7%
  22. Apple juice — 48%
  23. Bagged popcorn (pre-popped, like in the chip aisle) — 47.5%
  24. Cheerios-style cereal — 47.2%
  25. Potato chips — 47.1%

The report includes more detailed breakdowns of each section of the grocery store, like which frozen foods or canned items had the biggest savings’ margins. Overall, the financial experts behind it recommend choosing store-brand grocery items for things you buy the most often, like milk, soda, or bread. The small savings per purchase add up quickly over the month when you have to replenish the item frequently.

They also recommend swapping to store-brand items where you won’t taste any difference. For example, bottled water is bottled water. Lemon-lime sports drinks are lemon-lime sports drinks. That said, they encourage families to keep buying the brand-name items that do have a taste difference or that are your favorite snacks, spreads, et cetera. If you are going to buy a generic cereal but not eat it, is that money saved or wasted, you know?

While it’s not groundbreaking information that opting for store-brand foods can save money, it is startling to see how much you can save, and to know exactly which items are most worth swapping out. Since peanut butter didn’t make the top 25, maybe I can hang onto my Jif, but be more discerning about which cereals and sports drinks I put in my cart.

]]><![CDATA[Are We All Just Dreaming Of Starting Over In Our 40s?]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/why-women-want-to-start-over-in-their-40shttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/why-women-want-to-start-over-in-their-40sThu, 28 May 2026 14:01:22 GMT
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Every few weeks, someone I know makes some version of the same joke: "So, should we just quit and open a bookstore, or...?" Sometimes the punchline changes, and we're talking about running away to Portugal. Starting a plant shop. Or maybe we should all be realtors?

We always laugh, but the joke has started to feel, uh, less joke-y lately.

At first, I chalked it up to working in media, with its ever-changing landscape. I mean, it makes sense that a group of exhausted women would fantasize about blowing up their lives and starting fresh.

Except, it’s not just at work that I hear these conversations. So many women in their 40s seem to suddenly be reconsidering careers they’ve had for decades. One of my close friends recently left graphic design after 25 years to work for an insurance company. Another is on the brink of leaving the medical field to pursue art. And, sure, we pretty much all wax poetic about the prospect of moving to some cute little Hallmark town and opening a cozy shop where we can sit and drink coffee on a quaint sidewalk bench.

No matter which alternative reality we're entertaining, it's clear that women are reevaluating: friendships, marriages, hobbies, priorities, routines. In some cases, our entire identities.

Is it high-functioning burnout? Or something else? Why do so many women in their 40s seem to genuinely be craving reinvention right now?

Looks Like a Midlife Crisis, Might Actually Be A Values Reset

When I was growing up, there was a term often disparagingly tossed around to describe someone experiencing restlessness or dissatisfaction around this age: “midlife crisis.” But is it a crisis, really? When I posed that question to therapists and other mental health experts, they said it's much more nuanced (and systemic) than that.

“By our 40s, many women have spent years performing at a high level, often prioritizing expectations, roles, and responsibilities over their own inner voice,” psychotherapist and author Emmy Brunner told me. “What can look like a desire to ‘blow everything up’ is often less about wanting a completely new life, and more about a deep recognition that something essential has been lost along the way.”

Is it any wonder, then, that feeling hits so hard during midlife? Women are dealing with the convergence of a sh*t ton of life changes: emotional, hormonal, and practical, all at once.

“During this phase of life, there are often multiple things happening at once that can lead to women re-evaluating their life choices,” says licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Katie Carhart. “There is increased mortality awareness as their own parents age, physical and hormonal changes related to perimenopause, career plateaus, children getting older and needing less attention … as well as starting to face empty-nest syndrome coming down the pipeline.”

In other words, the systems and identities that carried us through our 20s and 30s suddenly stop fitting quite the same way. And once you become aware of that misalignment, it’s almost impossible to go back to ignoring it the way you did before.

Burnout and Reinvention Can Live in the Same House

The truth is, we’ve reached an age where we’re just tired of being tired. We’re tired of asking for help. We’re tired of feeling like something doesn’t fit. We’re tired of putting everyone before ourselves. And we actually know ourselves enough now to acknowledge that.

“I work with a lot of women experiencing burnout, and I think as you reach your 40s, you have a much better sense of self and what you want out of life,” Carhart says. “What can come with this level of insight is that you may start to become more aware that this life — that you’ve worked so hard to build and create — may not be as fulfilling as you expected.”

That doesn’t mean every woman secretly wants to abandon her family and move to a villa in Tuscany. But it does at least kinda explain why so many of us are suddenly fantasizing about entirely different lives.

The crucial distinction, experts say, is figuring out whether the urge to start over is based entirely on burnout or on a genuine need for change. Or… both.

“When looking through the lens of burnout versus a need for change, the reality is that it can be both/and rather than an either/or experience,” explains Eileen Borski, a licensed professional counselor and founder of Authentic Brain Solutions.

“Burnout is real and can occur during the years committed to building a career, raising children, or engaging in community. I hear women discuss commitments and obligations that take significant time, including managing a family’s schedule, building a career-advancing brand, and ensuring there is time for self-care. Over time, a woman may discern that one or more of those commitments is no longer the focus, from a practical standpoint. She is satisfied with her level of advancement, her children are more self-sufficient, or she emerges as a mentor rather than a doer in the community,” Borksi says.

It’s this phase of life, she suggests, when we “shift from knowledge to wisdom or from manager to consultant.” With that shift comes more time, space, and freedom, which can lead to wondering what the next season of life will look like.

To determine if we’re at that hopeful jumping-off point or in the throes of burnout, Borski says you have to do a little internal digging. Are you running towards something (aka a genuine need for change), or running away from something (burnout)?

Because while, yes, some of us may seriously need some changes in our lives — whether it’s ditching a toxic job, unhealthy relationship, whatever — the experts I spoke to did generally caution against impulsively “blowing up” your life without understanding what’s driving you to feel that way in the first place.

Same Sh*t, Different Setting

What’s that saying? “Those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” It’s the same gist, says Debbie Lucas, known professionally as The Joy Alchemist.

“The risk is acting on that urgency without addressing the underlying pattern,” she says. “Without nervous system regulation, the same dynamics will simply recreate themselves in a new environment. The real work is rebuilding self-trust, tapping back into your intuition, and rediscovering joy, as this steadies your nervous system and lets you make decisions you don’t have to undo later.”

How exactly are we supposed to do this, though?

“I focus a lot on alignment in my work with women experiencing burnout,” says Carhart. “It’s about matching how you spend your time, energy, attention, and money with the things that are most important to you.”

Liz Delia, founder of Sabbatical Studio (which supports people in taking sabbaticals and career breaks), says this is an evolution she’s noticed really start to pick up — and, happily, women are hitting this point earlier than prior generations did.

“People are recognizing they can, in fact, start anew and pursue new passions or curiosity. I think millennials and Gen Z behind them, especially, are tired of the narrative that we choose a career path in our 20s and stick with it, regardless of our happiness, until retiring decades later,” Delia says, emphasizing, “They’re choosing meaning and happiness on their own schedules, and that’s a pretty powerful thing.”

TL;DR: Yep, a lot of us are out here dreaming about starting over in our 40s.

Sometimes that really does mean changing careers or moving to a new town. It could be as simple as taking up a cooking class or as complicated as ending a marriage. At the end of the day, what it comes down to is revisiting the you that's been ignored for decades while you were neck-deep in the endless demands of adulthood.

After so much time spent caregiving, performing, achieving, accommodating, and proving ourselves, many of us are finally asking a question we didn’t have the space to ask before…

What do I actually want now?

]]><![CDATA[You Know Hacky Sacks Are Back. But Why?]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/hacky-sacks-are-back-but-whyhttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/hacky-sacks-are-back-but-whyThu, 28 May 2026 13:18:50 GMT
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Ask any parent of a teenager and you’ll get the same answer: Hacky sacks are back in a big way. Yes, those stoner symbols of the ‘90s (hello, do you remember Clueless?) are back. This time with our kids.

Personally, I’m more than OK with dropping money (and lately it can be big money: I spent $45 on Etsy for four bags for my sons two weeks ago; I hear that amount is much more now) on something that gets them off screens and playing together. And, sure enough, teens are creating social media accounts and clubs to play the resurgent game.

I was curious, though: How did the balls filled with seemingly little pellets come back, and come back so quickly? I asked Jonathan Berkowitz, CEO of PlayMonster, which partnered with Wham-O in 2025 to bring the beloved toy back, about how the company relaunched the product in February.

“From the beginning, we saw Hacky Sack not just as a nostalgic brand but one with all the ingredients to become a viral trend,” he told Scary Mommy. “That informed how we approached its relaunch earlier this year — modernizing the product line, building a social-first presence, and positioning the brand for today’s consumers and creator culture.”

In other words, they knew how trends start now, and so far it’s paid off. According to TikTok, #hackysacks is up 32,400%, and searches for “hacky sack” are up 6,995% since the start of the year. So PlayMonster used a Gen Z playbook: They built an active presence across their TikTok and Instagram channels and connected and collaborated with fans directly through content. Indeed, PlayMonster’s channels have netted 100 million video views across TikTok and Instagram; their last product drop on TikTok sold out in less than three hours, and pre-orders on Amazon went nearly as fast, Berkowitz said.

The resurgence of hacky sacks isn’t a one-off, either. “We’re seeing nostalgia evolve into what we’re calling ‘reclamation’, people are looking to the past for comfort, but remixing it in ways that feel relevant today,” Sydney Stanback, Global Trends & Insights Lead at Pinterest, told me via email. “The resurgence of hacky sacks fits perfectly into that. It’s playful, low-pressure, and rooted in a simpler, more analog kind of connection that people are really drawn to right now.” It makes sense, really. People — kids definitely included — are searching for nostalgic items because everything, no matter if it’s true or not, used to feel simpler.

I asked Stanback what she predicts could come back next. “If hacky sacks are any indication, we’ll continue to see the return of nostalgic, low-tech activities that encourage people to unplug and connect in real life. Searches for ‘analog aesthetic’ are up 260% on [Pinterest]... from ‘grandma crafts’ like knitting and embroidery to nostalgic rituals with a modern twist,” she said. “Next, I imagine we can expect to see continued interest in retro-inspired hobbies, collectibles, and social activities that feel tactile, playful, and customizable. Think disposable cameras and backyard games with a reimagined feel. What’s interesting is that these trends aren’t returning exactly as they were before; younger consumers are remixing them through personalization, humor, and aesthetics that make them feel fresh for today.”

This certainly is the case in my household. My boys and their friends are into sports card collecting; they spend hours looking at their cards, swapping, but with the modern twist of selling them online or watching videos of other people unboxing them. And don’t get me started on mini collectibles.

So what could be next to relaunch from PlayMonster? Berkowitz isn’t so interested in chasing fads; he cares “more about identifying iconic brands with the potential to feel culturally relevant for new generations when paired with social storytelling, product innovation, and consumer engagement.” After all, he notes, “classic play is classic for a reason. [T]he best ‘comebacks’ harness timeless play patterns like creativity, self-expression, connection, and pure fun, and evolve those experiences for modern audiences.”

But heads up: PlayMonster owns Koosh (the stretchy, porcupine-y like balls I played with allllll the time as a kid) and Spirograph, so you might want to buy some now before they’re hard to come by. And if TikTok is to be believed, junk journaling, bedazzling, and even Tae Bo (Billy Banks, anyone?) are on the up-and-up with Gen Z, too.

Nostalgia all the way to the bank.

]]><![CDATA[I Had PPD. Here are 6 Ways You Can Help A Mom Going Through It.]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/i-had-ppd-here-are-six-ways-you-can-help-a-mom-who-is-going-through-ithttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/i-had-ppd-here-are-six-ways-you-can-help-a-mom-who-is-going-through-itThu, 28 May 2026 13:05:54 GMT
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I was diagnosed with postpartum depression after the birth of my son, nearly a decade ago. In the time since then, more and more moms have publicly opened about their experience with this debilitating condition. There are more resources, personal stories and online support communities available. This is all fantastic — for the moms, at least. But what about those who want to help and support them?

From a mom who has been in the PPD trenches herself, here are six things you can (and in some cases shouldn’t) do to help:

Don’t ask if you did something wrong. This is a common and well-intended concern when someone you care about is suffering. Did I contribute to this? Could I have done something differently to avoid this outcome? The answers are no and no. No one can cause PPD, not the mother going through it or those around her. Hormones, sleep deprivation and the resulting emotional stress are the reason, not whether or not you dropped off a casserole in the week following her child’s birth.

When I finally began opening up about my condition to those around me, I found myself spending the majority of the conversations consoling the other person and reassuring them that this was beyond their control. It didn’t make my situation worse, but it certainly didn’t help things, either.

Bottom line: It’s not because of you, so don’t ask.

Be specific with your offers to help. When someone has a baby, people want to help. But remember, we live in a culture where help can be ordered and paid for. Food and groceries, laundry services, dog walkers and anything else you can think of. And because of that convenience and ease, we feel enormous guilt asking someone to help with something that we feel we can pay for.

For many of us, the only thing harder than accepting help is asking for it in the first place. And while your “let me know if you need help” offer is truly kind, it’s not realistic that a new mom with PPD will call you up and say, “hey, remember when you asked me if you could help… ?” She’ll just continue to suffer in silence because she doesn’t want to bother anyone.

Don’t be open-ended with your offer. Instead try, “I’m going out to grab a coffee, and I’ll drop one off for you, too.” Frame it more as a direction than an open-ended inquiry. Or “I need some exercise, let me borrow your dog to walk with me.” “I want some baby cuddles, I’ll come over so you can shower and nap.”

Many people asked if they could come over to see my baby. Only one said she wanted to come over and fold my laundry while I slept. You can probably guess who I said yes to.

Check in–but let them know they don’t have to respond. PPD made every aspect of my life feel overwhelming. I procrastinated or outright ignored any tasks I could. Everything felt like a massive weight on my shoulders, especially returning calls, emails and text messages.

My PPD had convinced me that everyone would hate me if I didn’t reply, so I tried, to my detriment, to keep up. My son was nursing every 90 minutes and I should have been sleeping in between feedings. Instead, I was texting out a bunch of lies that we were “doing great!” and that I was “tired yet blissfully happy!”

After my experience, I still text friends who are in the midst of a big life event, but now I always begin with “DO NOT REPLY TO THIS!” I follow that with a short message of support. Taking away the added responsibility of writing people back may seem small, but it’s a big relief.

Help their partner. My husband fumbled around me when I was going through PPD. He didn’t know how to help, but he also didn’t have any spare time to try. He was working, parenting, sleep deprived and trying to keep the household afloat.

Through our experience we learned firsthand that in order to be a better help to me, my husband needed to help himself. Yes, even a support system needs its own support at times. Text them hello, remind them that they haven’t been forgotten amongst all that is going on. Can you do them a specific favor? Meet for coffee? My husband said that finally talking to his friends who were also fathers provided a lot of sanity and direction in a time full of unknowns.

Don’t diagnose. Unless you are a medical professional, don’t try to name what someone is going through or propose a treatment plan. Between my husband and myself, we were told that I was dramatic, that I needed sunshine, that I was jealous of my baby getting attention, that I needed to spend more time with my son, that I needed to spend less time with him… you get the idea.

People just want to help and I know that. However, while these suggestions were well-intended, they did nothing other than confuse us and delay my diagnosis. It’s okay to say that you don’t know what is going on and suggest they see a doctor. In fact, you should do just that.

Learn about it. It’s hard to help someone when you don’t understand their situation. Read about what exactly PPD is and how it can manifest in a new mom. The symptoms, the feelings that ensue and the medically approved ways to treat it. With a greater awareness of what they are going through you’ll be more attuned to their specific needs.

Becky Vieira has been wearing mom jeans since 2016. She writes for a variety of parenting outlets, released her debut book in 2023, and can often be found oversharing intimate details of her life on Instagram. She's immensely proud of the time she thought to pee in one of her son's diapers, as opposed to her pants, while stuck in her car. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband, son, dog, three cats, and a partridge in a pear tree.

]]><![CDATA[95 Weird Genius Things That'll Make You Look Way Hotter]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/weird-genius-things-thatll-make-you-look-way-hotterhttps://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/weird-genius-things-thatll-make-you-look-way-hotterThu, 28 May 2026 08:08:50 GMT

Looking hotter doesn’t have to mean a full makeover or spending hours in front of the mirror. Sometimes, it’s the unique little things that make the biggest difference. These weird-but-genius finds will give you a glow up in ways you didn’t even know you needed. From secret skin care hacks to unexpected fashion tips, this list is packed with game-changing products that’ll have you looking (and feeling) next-level.

The Tailor Ring That’ll Save You Time & Money

The Tailor Ring is the ultimate no-sew fashion hack. It cinches, crops, bustles, and alters clothing without pins or sewing. Reusable and invisible, it offers a tailored look in seconds. It’s a dream for resizing loose clothes and creating a more tailored shape, especially if you’re in a rush.

A Racerback Tank Top With A Built-In Bra

This tank top has a playful racerback design that’s sure to turn heads. And you don’t even have to worry about finding the right bra to show it off. That’s because it has a built-in shelf bra — besides the added shaping and support that it offers, you’ll barely notice it's there. You might want to grab this tank in all your favorite colors, because you’ll be wearing it on repeat.

  • Available sizes: Small — XX-Large
  • Available colors: 9

A Baseball Hat With A High Ponytail Slot

Mask bad hair days with this stylish baseball cap. It’s made from 100% soft-washed cotton for a relaxed, distressed denim look, and most impressively, it features an adjustable velcro back with a ponytail slot for high updos. It’s also perfect for sun protection during beach days, hikes, or any outdoor activity.

  • Available colors: 39

A Ponytail Extension For A Voluminous Up-Do

This long ponytail extension adds volume and length. Not only does it look super natural, but the claw clip ensures a secure, comfortable fit. Wear it two ways — right side up or upside down — for versatile styles. It’s a perfect way to elevate your hairstyle when you quite literally need a little oomph.

Hairstyling Clips For Fuller-Looking Hair

These clever hairstyling clips will help you achieve more volume and bouncier curls without the need for heat. Just scrunch wet hair, then attach the clips near your roots and air dry. They feature strong teeth that won’t snag hair, plus vented sides for better air flow. With 10 pieces in a pack, you can cover your entire head to voluminous effect.

A Long-Lasting Lip Tint Available In The Best Hues

This innovative lip stain offers long-lasting pigment that dries quickly and won’t smudge or transfer. And it features a precision applicator that’s perfect for creating a defined lip, but it can also be used as lipstick for fuller coverage. Choose from soft pinks to dramatic burgundies to find your ideal hue.

A Caffeine Eye Stick To Rejuvenate Your Under Eyes

Apply this eye stick to the delicate skin under your eyes and it’ll hydrate and brighten your skin. The stick is packed with caffeine, hyaluronic acid, and royal jelly extract, to deliver maximum benefits to your complexion. Best of all, this is the size of a tube of lipstick, so you can throw it in your purse on the go.

A Luxe Lip Liner For Fuller Looking Lips

This luxe lip liner creates the illusion of fuller-looking lips and is available in the best hues, including natural pinks and bold berries. The smudge-proof formula is enriched with jojoba oil, helping ensure the perfect pout, maximum hydration, and all-day staying power — even after eating, sipping, and kissing.

A Secure Hair Clip That Keeps Your High Ponytail High

These velvet claw clips are great for all hair types and are perfect for achieving a defined high pony that stays in place all day or can help you secure a bun without the use of tons of bobby pins. They provide a secure fit even more so than regular hair ties, according to some reviewers, and are especially great for long hair.

A Stitch Tool That’ll Save You Money At The Tailor

This gadget provides a no-sew, hassle-free hemming solution that’ll save you time and money on tailoring. Portable and fast, it alters hems without any adhesives or sewing. It’s especially perfect for travel or fashion emergencies. Plus, the reusable design lets you make multiple adjustments as needed.

This Hair Thickening Spray That Works So Well

Spray a little bit of this hair thickening spray onto damp hair and run your hands through it. Then let your hair dry (or style it with a hair tool), and you’ll be left with thicker and more voluminous hair. The spray features algae and kelp extract and sea salt to add softness, definition, and shine.

A Heated Eyelash Curler For A Long-Lasting Lift

Get an instant lash lift in just eight seconds with this heated eyelash curler. It features a compact design and a gentle silicone pad for safe, pinch-free styling. It’s the perfect on-the-go beauty tool for bold, lifted lashes that’ll make your eyes pop. It’s little tricks like this that go a long way.

Highly Rated Lip Gloss With Gorgeous Shine

Available in an array of gorgeous shades, this lip gloss is a shopper favorite with over 13,000 reviews and a glowing overall 4.6-star rating. Made with flaxseed oil and bidens pilosa extract, it moisturizes and smooths for a fuller, softer look. The nonsticky formula has a silky texture that stays put for hours.

A Body Milk Spray That Hydrates & Adds Shine

This vegan collagen body spray is a game-changer for hydrating your legs and giving them a dewy glow. Spray a little on your legs and it’ll absorb in seconds. Best of all, it’s not remotely sticky, so you can spray and then go about your day.

A Push-Up Bra For Lifting & Smoothing

This seamless push-up bra is so comfy, but also does a great job of giving you a little lift without any uncomfortable underwires. The medium-width straps are adjustable so you can find the perfect fit, and can be crisscrossed to create a more racerback-friendly style. The tiny keyhole in the front allows for airflow, and the gentle scalloped edges contour to your body.

  • Available sizes: Small — 3X-Large
  • Available colors: 10

Jelly Face Cream That’s TikTok-Viral For The Best Reasons

If glass skin is part of your skin goals, this viral jelly cream could be worth adding to your routine. Niacinamide and hydrolyzed collagen work in tandem for that smooth, luminous finish for your skin. Leave it on overnight for maximum benefits. “My face feels like porcelain in the morning when I wake up and take this off,” one shopper raved.

A Collagen Face Mask Reviewers Say “Really Works”

These collagen-infused face masks feature a V-shaped design for your jawline and are formulated with powerful ingredients like retinol, hyaluronic acid, aloe vera, and vitamin E. Most impressively, they have garnered an impressive 4.5-star average rating with over 2,000 reviews, with one reviewer sharing, “These are so easy to put on and stay in place. They do work, I have noticed a difference after a week.”

A Whitening Pen For Those Pearly Whites

This teeth whitening pen makes brightening your smile a breeze. With a precision brush and gentle formula for sensitive teeth and gums, it’s safe, easy, and effective, according to the more than 1,000 customers who gave it a five-star rating. Its travel-friendly design is perfect for carrying with you on the go.

Caffeine Eye Masks For Perky Under-Eyes

Packed with collagen, hyaluronic acid, and caffeine, these eye masks hydrate, depuff, and mask the visible effects of a late night or too-early morning. Nearly 6,000 five-star reviewers attest to the benefits of the nutrient-rich formula and cooling application. Add these to your morning routine for some soothing self-care.

A Forehead Patch That Helps Reduce Wrinkles & Fine Lines

Aging is natural, but if you are tired of the look of wrinkles and fine lines that have appeared on your forehead, consider trying these hydrating forehead patches that reviewers swear by. Put one on before you go to bed and leave it on overnight. It’ll help smooth fine lines and moisturize any crepey skin on your forehead — it’s even reusable.

A Cotton Thong That’s Comfy & Won’t Cause Camel Toe

Not only is this cotton thong soft and seamless, but it has a good amount of elastane in the fabric blend to move with you. Best of all, the design was made so it won’t show any camel toe. You’ll want these in so many different colors.

  • Available colors: 13
  • Available sizes: Small — XX-Large

A Color-Correcting Primer That Evens Your Skin Tone

Apply this color-correcting primer before you put your foundation or concealer on, and it’ll even your base to neutralize redness and reduce the appearance of any skin yellowing. This primer also hydrates and prevents oil buildup on the surface of your skin, making it an all-around must in so many makeup arsenals.

The Coolest Hydrating Mask With Hyaluronic Acid

Enjoy deep hydration with this collagen face mask set featuring fun designs. Infused with marine collagen, gentle bamboo fiber, and hyaluronic acid, each mask boosts elasticity and moisture and is suitable for all skin types. Your skin-care routine just got so much more exciting.

Hydrating Lip Gloss With A Honey-Like Texture

This hydrating lip gloss blends Manuka honey and rosehip fruit extract for a glossy, dewy finish. Its honey-like texture melts into lips, providing moisture and vibrant color. It comes in a wide range of shades and offers long-lasting wear with a nonsticky feel, according to reviewers.

Stylish Ear Cuffs For Non-Pierced Ears

No piercing? No problem. These 14-karat gold-plated ear cuffs are perfect for everyone, including those without piercings. Adorned with cubic zirconia, they offer a sparkly look that’ll elevate any ensemble. Adjustable and lightweight, they comfortably fit the ear and are perfect for daily wear or special occasions.

Shaving Spray That Makes It Easy To See Fine Hair

This unique spray precisely highlights facial hair to ensure a flawless shave. The natural, plant-based formula creates a refreshing protective layer, reducing friction and gently exfoliating skin for a smooth, irritation-free shave. It also comes with four nonslip razors, so you’ll be all set.

A Facial Stick To Keep Your Skin Hydrated On The Go

If you’re looking for hydration on the go, you’ll love this moisture stick. Infused with snail mucin, 24-karat gold, ceramides, and soothing botanicals, this multi-balm hydrates, repairs, and strengthens the skin barrier in just a few swipes. Toss it in your bag and use it anytime your skin needs a boost.

Pearl Chrome Nail Powder For An Iridescent Manicure

Love the iridescent manicure trend? You can get the look all on your own with this pearl chrome nail powder. All you do is brush on a thin layer of powder after finishing up with your gel color and top coat, then lock it in with another layer of top coat once done. A must-try for any DIY manicurist.

A Lip & Cheek Tint That’s Multipurpose

This multiuse cream stick delivers a sheer, natural finish for both lips and cheeks. Based on hundreds of rave reviews, shoppers love its color, creamy soft texture, and easy application. The lightweight formula blends effortlessly for a fresh, dewy glow. The compact size is great for tossing in your bag for touch-ups on the go.

An Elastic Band For Cropping Your Tops

Whether you're styling an oversized tee or a chunky sweater, this Croptuck tool helps you achieve the perfect cropped look in seconds. The adjustable elastic band discreetly holds bulky tops in place — no scissors or hair-ties needed. It’s the fashion hack you didn’t know you needed.

V-Waist Lace Underwear With A Cheeky Fit

Elevate your underwear game with this multipack of lace boyshorts. The lace construction and cheeky cut look spicy, while the dual-layer gusset keeps thing comfy. The V-waist adds an additional sultry touch, while the high percentage of stretch in the material makes them worthy of everyday wear. With five in a pack, you’ll be reaching for these on the daily.

  • Available colors: 5
  • Available sizes: Small — 3X-Large

A Facial Massage Brush For Glowing Skin

If you want to give lymphatic drainage treatments a try but want something gentler than a traditional stone gua sha roller, this facial massage brush is worth checking out. It features thick yet soft bristles in a contoured shape and is designed to increase circulation and reduce puffiness for healthier-looking skin.

A Sultry Waist Chain That Takes Any Look Up A Notch

Whether you’re rocking a crop top or a bikini, a waist chain can go a long way in taking your look to the next level. You can put it on full display or let it subtly peek out beneath a pair of low-rise jeans; either way, the end result is sultry, surprising, and so much fun. This one comes in eight different styles, all made of 14-karat gold-plated brass.

Chest Patches For A Smooth Décolletage

Offered as a four-pack, these silicone chest patches promise to smooth out your décolletage with a dose of deep hydration. The soft, flexible pads are washable and reusable (up to 30 times each), so you’ll have everything you need to keep up with a skin-firming ritual. One shopper noted, “I love that these patches are [sensitive-skin] friendly and leave no residue behind. Application is as simple as peeling off a sticker, and it truly stays in place all night long.”

Foundation Sticks For Contouring & Touch-Ups On The Go

This foundation stick from Anastasia Beverly Hills is ideal for contouring and providing buildable coverage. The creamy texture offers a natural matte finish, and the stick applicator allows precise application. Throw it in your bag to take with you on the go and apply anywhere you need a little extra coverage throughout the day.

Hydrating Blush For A Gorgeous Glow

This hydrating solid blush stick is enriched with aloe vera to moisturize the skin. Formulated with pH-reactive pigments, it delivers a custom flush of color, while the botanicals and fruit extract provide a natural glow. Best of all, it’s fragrance-free, making it suitable for sensitive skin types.

Moisturizing Self-Tanner Drops For An Instant Glow

Achieve a natural, healthy-looking glow with these self-tanning drops. Simply mix with your favorite moisturizer for a buildable sun-kissed finish. Packed with grapefruit, goji berry, and other botanicals to help hydrate and boost collagen production, these drops do double-duty for the skin by nourishing and tanning at the same time. The formula is also infused with vitamin C to help brighten.

Post-Shave Moisturizer For A Smoother Finish

If you’ve struggled with ingrown hairs, itchiness, or razor burn in and around areas you shave, this after shave moisturizer is a godsend. It’s designed to moisturize the area you’ve shaved, whether that is your underarms, legs, or the intimate skin around your pubic area. Thousands of reviewers love this formula, with one calling it a “MUST after a wax!”

Lip Liner That Lasts All Day Long

This long-lasting peel-off lip liner stain locks in color all day and night. It’s infused with hyaluronic acid and vitamin E to nourish and keep you hydrated even after long wear. The clean, vegan formula is safe for all skin types and delivers a smudge-proof, plump-looking finish in minutes.

Faux-Freckles That Are Super Cute & Trendy

These faux freckle patches are easy to apply, water-resistant, and long-lasting. Simply peel, dampen, and create natural-looking freckles in minutes. Best of all, they are gentle on all skin types and last all day, according to reviewers.

A Facial Razor That Helps Your Makeup Go On Smoother

If you love the feeling of soft, smooth skin, this facial razor is designed to gently remove peach fuzz. Reviewers agree it also helps makeup apply smoothly. The 18-karat gold-plated, low-friction protective head ensures painless, precise hair removal. The portable design is easy to pack, and it even is equipped with an LED light for better visibility.

Exfoliating Pads That Prevent Ingrown Hairs

These single-use exfoliating pads help prevent razor bumps and ingrown hairs by removing dead skin cells after shaving. Formulated with glycolic and salicylic acids, they chemically exfoliate your skin without feeling harsh. Not only are they dermatologist-tested, but they’re vegan, alcohol-free, and safe for sensitive skin.

Bar Soap That Can Help Ease A Myriad Of Skin Concerns

This powerful sulfur-infused soap is enriched with Dead Sea minerals and olive oil to nourish and clarify the skin. It’s great for anyone dealing with acne, rosacea, and eczema. The deep-cleansing formula detoxifies pores and is vegan and fragrance-free.

A Seamless, Wireless Bra That Still Offers Great Support

This seamless, wireless V-neck bra features a unique jelly band design that lifts and supports without any annoying wires. With breathable, high-stretch fabric and adjustable straps, it offers the all-day comfort needed in an everyday bra. Choose from so many covetable colors.

  • Available sizes: X-Small — 3X-Large
  • Available colors: 20+

A 4-In-1 Makeup Brush For Touch-Ups On The Go

This four-in-one makeup brush set includes essential tools for flawless application: a blush and bronzer brush, a blending sponge, a brow and eyeliner brush, and an eyeshadow brush. The bristles are vegan & cruelty-free, while reviewers are impressed by their quality. The compact design is travel-friendly, making it great for on-the-go touch-ups.

A Peeling Foot Mask That Removes Calluses & Dead Skin

This lavender foot peel mask gently removes dead skin, calluses, and rough patches. It’s formulated with lactic acid, glycolic acid, and botanical extracts. It’s also enriched with aloe, lavender, and fermented milk to nourish and soften the skin. Just picture it as an at-home spa treatment that is so satisfying.

Faux Thigh-Highs That Won’t Sag

If you love the look of thigh-highs but hate having to constantly pull them up, this faux version is for you. These tights feature a thick ‘sock’ that comes up to about mid-thigh and seamlessly transitions into sheer tights. And you’ll appreciate the V-shaped briefs that add extra coverage and support.

A 1-Step Hair Dryer For Salon-Worthy Blowouts

Meet your new hair MVP in this hot brush. It dries and styles in one simple step, saving time and effort, while reducing frizz and adding shine. With three heat settings and a detangling round brush, you’ll wonder how you ever got ready without this.

Hydating Face Cream With Broad Spectrum SPF

This multitasking face cream provides up to 24 hours of hydration while visibly brightening dark spots for a radiant, even complexion. It's formulated with broad-spectrum SPF 30, protecting from both UVA and UVB rays without feeling heavy, greasy, or sticky. Consider it two-in-one skin care.

Rhinestone Bra Straps To For A Boost Of Support & Glam

Available in black, silver, and rose gold, these rhinestone bra straps will add a wow factor to any outfit. Made with lightweight, nonslip copper and sparkling rhinestones, they’re adjustable and reusable. They pair perfectly with strapless or off-shoulder styles for special occasions.

An Oil-Absorbing Powder That’s Portable

Throw this blurring powder into your purse and you’ll be so glad you have it when you start to get sweaty or shiny. It’s easy to pat a little of this powder onto your skin, and it absorbs oil leaving behind a matte look to your face and neck. It’s no wonder thousands of shoppers have invested in this best-selling powder.

A Layering Clasp That Makes Putting On Necklaces Easy

Thousands of reviewers say this necklace clasp is perfect for layering your favorite necklace into one, while keeping them from tangling. Made from 18-karat gold-plated stainless steel, it's water-resistant, fade-proof, and super durable. Just snap your necklaces into place with one click.

An Adjustable Mirror For A Clear View At Every Angle

Don’t walk out the door without checking every angle of your hairstyle first with this unique mirror. It offers a 360-degree view with clear, anti-fog glass. It even has an adjustable height and three usage options (door, wall, or table), to make DIY haircuts easy. Reviewers love that they are saving money by trimming their hair at home.

A Duo Of e.l.f. Skin Drops That Hydrate & Bronze

Get glowing with this travel-size duo from e.l.f. The bronzing drops and thirst burst drops are fantastic on their own, but together they hydrate, brighten, and give skin a dewy, sun-kissed finish. The brightening drops are infused with niacinamide and hyaluronic acid, while the bronzing drops contain nourishing antioxidants.

An Eyeliner Stamp For The Perfect Wing

Get perfect cat eyes every time with this dual-ended winged eyeliner stamp. Just line up the stamp from the corner of your eye to your brow for perfect precision. The waterproof, smudge-proof formula will stay put all day. Reviewers love how easy it is to use.

A Honey Lip Butter That Feels So Nice On

This overnight lip balm features manuka honey and propolis extract to hydrate and nourish your lips. Put a little on before you go to bed (or wear it during the day, your choice) and it’ll deeply moisturize your lips. Reviewers love the feel of this one.

Hair Powder For Easy Root Touch-Ups

Get instant coverage with this hairline powder. This long-lasting hair shadow locks onto follicles for 48 hours without leaving a sticky residue. It’s perfect for root touch-ups, coverage, or brightening highlights. Reviewers love it because it’s mess-free, lightweight, and stays put until you shampoo.

Mouthwash Tablets For Ultimate Freshness

Instantly freshen your breath with these innovative, travel-ready tablets. Packed with probiotics and hydroxyapatite, they soothe gums and support healthy oral hygiene. With a bold mint flavor and eco-friendly packaging, they’re an impressive (and practical) upgrade to your oral care routine.

An Ice Roller For A Refreshed Morning Glow

This reusable silicone ice roller is a key to a refreshed, revitalized feeling for your face. It helps reduce puffiness, calm inflammation, and boost blood circulation for a natural glow. Just fill it with water and pop it in the freezer for four hours — you can even infuse it with custom ingredients like green tea or cucumber water for added benefits.

A Basic Camisole That Will Become An Instant Staple

You’ll get so much wear out of this basic camisole, which features adjustable straps so you can find the perfect fit. This is the perfect mid-weight material so that it isn’t see-through, but doesn’t feel too heavy either. The polyester and spandex fabric blend stretches to move with you and is super soft to the touch. In short? You’ll want to wear this the instant it gets out of your washer and dryer.

  • Available sizes: X-Small — X-Large
  • Available colors: 10

Rhinestone Hair Clips That Are So Fun

This set includes three stylish, rhinestone-studded claw clips perfect for securing a high ponytail all day. Made from durable alloy, they’re strong, lightweight, and ideal for both function and flair. They are great for weddings, parties, or everyday chic hairstyles with a touch of sparkle.

A Cute-Meets-Sultry Puff Sleeve Bodysuit

This bodysuit combines the sweet feel of a peasant blouse with the sultry look of a backless top. It features a smooth, curve-hugging bodice with puff sleeves and a strappy back. And since it’s a bodysuit (with a snap-closure thong), it won’t bunch or shift when tucked into bottoms.

  • Available sizes: Small — X-Large
  • Available colors: 5+

A Retinol- & Collagen-Rich Cream You Can Use Day & Night

You can apply this cream night and day, and the retinol-, collagen-, and vitamin-packed formula will boost the hydration and elasticity of your skin. This is made with four-layer water-activated technology that targets specific layers of your skin, creating a moisturized and dewy look from the inside, out.

A Viral Dark Spot Corrector To Even Skin Tone

“This concealer has pleasantly surprised me. I've been using it consistently and have noticed how my dark spots are gradually fading,” wrote one Amazon reviewer. Apply this dark spot remover on top of your desired area, after freshly washing your face. Rub it in and it will absorb into your skin — the brand promises results after three to six weeks of consistent use.

A Tortoise Shell Apple Watch Band For Dressier Occasions

Don’t let that sporty smart watch band ruin your dressy outfit. Instead, swap it for this chic tortoise shell one. The band even features a clasp similar to that of a regular watch. It looks so great in person, according to reviewers who also rave about the compliments they receive wearing it.

A Lip Mask For Ultra-Hydration Overnight

Packed with hyaluronic acid, collagen, and nourishing oils, this lip mask is a game-changer for dry, cracked lips. It works to smooth, hydrate, and plump your lips overnight. Simply apply it before bed and wake up ready to shine with hydrated lips. It even comes with a soft applicator.

A Firming Neck Cream With Built-In Rollers

This neck cream has an innovative applicator with smooth, metal rollers that offer a gentle, cooling feel. And the cream is formulated with a blend of collagen, peptides, and hyaluronic acid — a combination designed to lift, firm, and tighten the delicate skin on your chin, neck, and chest.

A Frizz-Controlling Serum That Boosts Your Hair’s Shine

Spray a little bit of this frizz-controlling hair serum onto your hair wet or dry, and it will pull triple duty. Not only does this spray boost shine, but it controls frizz and flyaways, and it can even prevent your hair color from fading if you have color-treated hair. This is a game-changer for sleeker, shinier hair.

A Nail Strengthening Cream That’s So Effective

For stronger, more nourished nails, this nail strengthening cream is the way to go. With a light coconut scent, this cream works wonders on fingernails and toenails, and even conditions your cuticles. It’s no wonder this cream is a cult-favorite.

A Collagen Wrapping Mask That Gives You A Legit Glassy Glow

This collagen wrapping mask is like a thin veil that hugs your face, ensuring every last bit of the powerful formula sinks deeply into your skin. Besides low molecular collagen, it's packed with niacinamide to reduce redness and jojoba oil to nourish your skin. One reviewer raved, “This product is so amazing. Leaves my skin feeling so soft. You don’t need much of the product to do entire face and neck. I include decolette when doing. Peels right off and your face just glows and feels very moisturized after.”

The Perfect Cami For Versatility & Support

Not only is this camisole one of the most versatile things you can add to your closet — it works solo, as a layering piece, or as an undershirt — but it also comes with a built-in padded bra so you don’t have to worry about extra straps. It’s made of polyamide and elastane for a super-smooth look and feel, and comes in a wide range of neutral, bright, jewel tone, and pastel colors (the butter yellow is so cute).

  • Available colors: 18
  • Available sizes: X-Small — X-Large

Blingy Rings To Customize Hems & Scarves

These ring clips are surprisingly useful, and super cute to boot. They easily attach to scarves or the hems of oversized shirts, allowing you to crop them as opposed to tying them up. This is a set of four in individual designs. From the pearl circle, to the hammered and twisted gold ring, to the heart, they’re all a beautiful touch to level up any outfit.

A Cushion Foundation With SPF 40

There’s so much to love about this Korean cushion foundation: its smooth, velvety, non-greasy coverage; its packaging that makes it easy to apply on the go; and best of all, its SPF 40. A TikTok viral product and Amazon bestseller, the foundation is sold in 40 shades, and boasts a staying power of up to 72 hours.

Trendy Jeans With A Chic Raw Hem

These trendy denim bottoms feature double side seams that look flawless. And with a hint of stretch and high-waited design, you can count on them being cozy and supportive, too. The raw hem adds a casual-chic touch, making them the perfect everyday jeans.

  • Available sizes: 2 — 18
  • Available colors: 18

A Lifting Face Mask For A More Defined Jawline

Wearing these chin masks just a few times each week can help you achieve a more defined jawline. They’re infused with aloe vera, collagen, and hyaluronic acid to provide maximum hydration and tightening benefits. Plus, they’re made from a soft fabric with ear cutouts, so they’re easy to apply and comfortable to wear. You get five masks in a pack.

Pearlescent Press-On Nails For A Salon Look

These faux nails look so good that they’ll have you skipping your salon appointments. They feature a semi-transparent base in a natural hue, plus a gold foil accent for luxe vibes. Use the included strong adhesive to secure them, then trim, file, or even paint them to your liking. And there are tons of colors to choose from, so you’re sure to find a favorite set.

A Base Polish For Longer-Lasting Manicures

This base nail polish will help keep your manicures in tip-top shape for up to 30 days. The gel formula strengthens the nail bed and even helps prevent polish from cracking and peeling. It works on both natural and false nails and is ideal for locking stickers and gems in place.

An Eyebrow Pen For A Microbladed Look

Whether you’ve got sparse growth or just want a microbladed look, this eyebrow pen is a must-try. It features a fork tip that allows you to quickly fill in your brows with strokes that look like real hair, along with a small brush tip for precise touch-ups. The quick-drying liquid formula provides all-day, smudge-proof wear.

A Smoothing Bodysuit That’s Actually So Comfy

This shapewear bodysuit is going to be your new go-to for wearing under tight-fitting outfits. The breathable spandex blend offers superior comfort while creating a smooth look and lifting the rear and bust. And the crotch has a hook closure that makes trips to the bathroom more effortless.

  • Available sizes: Small — 5X-Large
  • Available colors: 5

A V-Neck Jumpsuit You’ll Wear Everywhere

This jumpsuit is as comfy as your everyday loungewear, just so much more chic. It’s constructed from a lightweight linen blend and features a stylish V-neck, flowy legs, and stretchy shirring along the back. Dress it up with heels or go casual and pair it with tennis shoes.

  • Available sizes: Small — X-Large
  • Available colors: 19

A 2-In-1 Top For An Effortlessly Layered Look

Create a smart layered look without any of the matching guesswork when you grab this modern top. It features a turtleneck sweater with an asymmetrical hem layered over an oversized button-down shirt with a stylish pinstripe pattern. Pair it with a fitted skirt or jeans for an effortlessly chic look.

  • Available sizes: Small — X-Large
  • Available colors: 16

Floral Bra Straps That Look So Sweet

Hate the look of bra straps showing, but need the extra support? These decorative bra straps will make you look and feel so much better. The pack includes five adjustable pairs, each featuring the sweetest little embroidered flowers in soft hues. The metal hooks offer a secure fit and are compatible with most strapless bras.

A Mesh T-Shirt With Pretty Lace Embroidery

Say goodbye to boring T-shirts and pick up this sheer mesh T-shirt instead. Featuring delicate lace all over, it has a slightly oversized fit with short sleeves that are on the longer, flowier side. Choose from eight pretty colors, ranging from goes-with-everything black to pretty pastels like baby blue and pink.

  • Available sizes: Small — X-Large
  • Available colors: 8

A Color-Correcting Face Primer That’s So Creamy

This primer is designed to conceal uneven skin tones and dark spots. It provides full coverage but is made from a powder that feels and looks featherlight. And since it’s enriched with vitamin E, peptides, and caffeine, it also helps hydrate, boost collagen, and reduce puffiness. Choose from three natural hues to find the perfect match for your skin tone.

A 6-Pack Of Cheeky Undies With Pretty Lace In The Back

These undies are an Amazon bestseller because they’re totally seamless, yet have a pretty lace design in the back, making them both practical and worthy of showing off. Made of a smooth, almost silky material, they’re sold in a pack of six and come in a bunch of different color combinations.

Nail Art That Doesn’t Require Any Skills

Even nail art novices can master this nail foil, which is as simple as pressing the sheet onto your nails before peeling it off. (Though you will need to prep the nail first with some foil glue purchased separately, FYI.) The detailed floral lace pattern creates the illusion of a more complicated nail art design that can be worn on each nail or as a more strategically placed accent.

Lace Underwear In A Comfy Boyshort Cut

Never underestimate the power of the right underwear. This five-piece set pairs a sultry lace fabric with the coverage and comfort of a high-waist boyshort cut. They come in plenty of size options, as well as several color combos if you want to add multiple packs to your underwear drawer.

  • Available sizes: Small – 3X-Large
  • Available styles: 5

A Travel-Friendly Pen To Push Back & Condition Cuticles

Even when you don’t have a drop of polish on, you can still keep your nails looking polished by keeping your cuticles in top shape. This oil-infused pen lets you push back and condition your cuticles with one convenient tool. Less messy than your usual cuticle oil, the pen dispenses a sweet almond and apricot oil blend over your nails with a few clicks, letting you buff away dead skin at the same time with the ceramic tip.

A Moisturizing Green Lip Balm That Transforms Into Your Perfect Pink

A green lip balm probably wouldn’t be your first choice, but don’t count this color-changing formula out. Once you swipe it over your lips, the balm reacts to your skin’s pH, developing into a slightly unique pink tint. The balm also helps to keep your lips soft and smooth with ingredients like aloe, avocado oil, and honey.

A Bodysuit That Also Serves As Shapewear

There are more than 15,000 five-star ratings on Amazon for this bodysuit that can be worn on its own with a pair of jeans or under a figure-fitting dress for a smoother silhouette. Created to work as shapewear, the bodysuit features a seamless design and stretchy fabric. Because it’s shapewear, the bodysuit goes on snug, but multiple Amazon reviewers recommend going up a size for a more comfortable fit.

  • Available sizes: XX-Small – 4X-Large
  • Available styles: 5+

A Balconette Bra For A Push-Up Effect Minus The Padding

The perfect complement to your lacy underwear, this balconette bra feels sultry on even your most casual days. There’s no thick padding, yet the bra still provides a push-up effect with the help of underwire bra cups and a side sling. It’s also convertible, so you can cross the straps at the back when you need to (that crossed style will add even more lift, too).

  • Available sizes: 32A – 42F
  • Available styles: 5+

Tiny Lash Clusters For DIY Extensions

Mascara can only take your lashes so far. When you really want to amp up your eye look, keep a pack of these lash clusters on hand. The wispy lashes blend in better than full strips, and they come in several different lengths that let you customize the falsies to better suit your eyes (and the level of drama you’re after).

A Gloss-Like Balm That Slightly Plumps Up Your Pout

There’s no mess or stickiness with this lip balm — just a tint of color and a shiny finish to rival your favorite gloss. The hybrid formula has a slight plumping effect, thanks to a mint-derived ingredient that will leave your lips feeling slightly tingly. It’s also packed with moisturizing ingredients like maracuja oil and hyaluronic acid, which further help to enhance your lips.

A Scrunchie-Like Hair Piece For Fuller Messy Buns

For a messy bun that’s guaranteed to look good every time, throw on this hair piece. The scrunchie-like design makes it easy to slip over your natural hair, adding volume and a textured wave that doesn’t require a curling wand. It comes in dozens of colors to match your hair as convincingly as possible, including highlighted options.

A Clear Balm For Cheeks & Lips That Look Subtly Flushed

This balm stick is easy enough to throw in your purse, but it covers multiple makeup steps. While it looks clear in the tube, once applied, it develops into a soft pink hue that can be used on cheeks, lips, and even eyelids. The pH-adjusting formula works on all skin tones, and it even includes moisturizing ingredients like squalane for a more comfortable wear.

]]><![CDATA[The 17 Beauty & Skincare Products Scary Mommy Editors Discovered This Month]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/beauty-products-scary-mommy-editors-favorites-may-2026https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/beauty-products-scary-mommy-editors-favorites-may-2026Wed, 27 May 2026 21:24:13 GMT
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Maycember is finally almost over, and we moms are dragging. Between the end-of-year recitals, graduations, field days, and all the rest, we here at Scary Mommy were spread particularly thin this month, just like you. So while some months we may be reaching for fun lip colors and volume-boosting hair sprays to get us through girls’ night, for us, this month’s beauty staples were products that helped us pamper ourselves in the few quiet moments we could scratch out. Here you’ll find nourishing lip treatments, bougie shampoo and conditioner sets, and a ton of masks that made us look healthy and glowy even when we felt haggard inside (bless them).

A Nightly Retinol Moisturizer That’s Gentle Yet Hardworking

This cream has genuinely become one of the most exciting things in my nighttime skincare routine. Yes, it is a splurge, but the formula combines adult human stem cell factors with 0.25% retinol, which is a combination you simply do not find at the drugstore level. It works overnight to smooth, firm, and lift with a specialized retinoid that delivers visible results without the harsh irritation that turns so many people off retinol in the first place. If you are ready to invest in your skin and want a nighttime treatment that actually does what it promises, this one is worth every penny! — Katie Garrity, Social & News Editor

An On-The-Go Serum For When Your Skin Needs Perking Up

This is by far my favorite beauty buy of the month! This new Glass Slick Serum Stick is so versatile, cute, and fun. I love that you can put it on either beneath or on top of makeup, carry it in your purse for refreshes, and pop some on whenever you feel like you need a little moisture or shine boost. A serum that doubles as a highlighter and that you can use on the go... and it only costs $12. Winner. — Sarah Aswell, Deputy Editor, News & Social

A New Innovation In Nail Clippers (Seriously)

If you ask me, everyone needs an EDJY. The single blade slices through your nail cleanly and smoothly, unlike traditional clippers that crush through them. My nails have always peeled apart like crazy, but after about a month of trims with this thing, I have noticed a lot less flakes coming off my nails. I love that it leaves behind a clean edge with no filing necessary, and it collects the trimmings so you can dispose of them properly. This would make an amazing gift for the home manicurist or the person who has everything, TBH. — Katie McPherson, Associate Editor, Lifestyle & Entertainment

A Teen & Adult-Friendly Fragrance Mist You’ll Want To Spray Again & Again

This mist is genuinely one of my favorite things I've discovered recently. The Darling scent is floral, sweet, and completely addicting with notes of rose, fresh strawberry, muguet, vanilla, and musk, and it works on both hair and body so one spritz does everything. — Katie Garrity

This Mask That’s As Fun To Use As It Is Effective

OK, like so many Korean skincare products, this mask is so fun and gets results. To use it, you spray a mound of tiny bubbles onto your hands and then apply to your face — and that's it! The bubbles slowly pop, leaving you with a smooth and glowing face that's ready for your daily routine. I love how fast and easy this is. — Sarah Aswell

Lip Oil That Actually Nourishes Your Pout

This lip oil has completely ruined me for every other lip product. The formula is built around ethically sourced lanolin, grass-fed tallow, pomegranate sterols, and organic castor oil, which means it actually nourishes and repairs rather than just sitting on top of your lips. I am obsessed. — Katie Garrity

This Dark Spot Treatment That Made A Visible Difference In 30 Days

I grew up a very pale person in the Sunshine State, which means I've had my fair share of sunburns (the daily SPF propaganda was not what it is today back then). So yes, I have lots of sun spots on my cheekbones and forehead. I've tried a lot of vitamin C serums and dark spot treatments, but have never really noticed much of a difference until trying Melanex 501.

Methodiq is a subscription-based skincare brand that matches you with the product you need via a dermatologist-reviewed quiz, and I have to say they were correct in my selection. Using this daily until the bottle ran out genuinely lightened even my largest, darkest sun spots by about 40% (I’m eyeballing it, but still). I will definitely be repurchasing it to see just how much better the results can get over time. — Katie McPherson

A Travel-Friendly Skin Balm To Rehydrate & Restore

This balm is one of those products that immediately earns a permanent spot in your routine. It melts right into the skin on contact, is packed with botanical butters and bakuchiol, and genuinely delivers on softening texture and restoring that supple, healthy-looking barrier you lose when life gets busy or travel wrecks your skin. It's made with all-natural ingredients and zero fillers, synthetics, or unnecessary chemicals, which in the clean beauty space is rarer than it should be. The travel-size makes it perfect for your carry-on, and I promise once you try it, you'll be ordering the full size immediately! — Katie Garrity

The MVP Of Glass Skin-Providing Products

If you also have dry skin, come closer. I've used these masks a handful of times now, and they are so deeply hydrating it's insane. They absolutely give you a glass skin glow and even reduce the appearance of your pores for a few hours. I keep them on hand to apply before events when I want my makeup to look especially good, or for after I've been in the sun and water all day and my skin feels extra parched. They never let me down; they’re a must-have in my bathroom now. — Katie McPherson

The Ultimate Exfoliation Kit From A New Brand

I love a full body exfoliation moment, and this new brand sluff has the most amazing kit to get rid of every last bit of dry, dull skin on your body. You use the bar soap to remove all the natural oils from your skin, making it easier for the exfoliating mitt to grip all the dead skin. You rub hard in one direction, and you can literally see the dead skin ball up and fall off of you. The eucalyptus lotion feels so good and tingly afterward — I just love everything about this whole ritual. It was the perfect prep before a fake tan too. — Katie McPherson

A Ballerina-Approved Frizz Reducing Serum

My daughter takes ballet, and her teachers are very strict about how her hair can look during practices and performances. This leave-in serum is amazing for her frizzy flyaways and leaves her hair so soft and smooth. Even more than that, I think it has improved her hair over the long-term as we use it. It also smells fantastic. — Sarah Aswell

One Cohesive Skincare Set That’ll Meet All Your Needs

If you need a simple, no-fuss skincare routine that actually delivers, this trio is worth your attention. It gently exfoliates, supports the moisture barrier, and targets dark spots and dullness all in one clean, purposeful set. Every ingredient has a reason to be there; there are no fillers or unnecessary extras, and it's gentle enough for sensitive skin while still being effective enough to see real results. It's the kind of thoughtful, straightforward skincare that makes building a consistent routine feel genuinely doable! — Katie Garrity

Another Sheet Mask That Stole Our Hearts

I will be the first to admit I did not look like JLo after using this sheet mask. But, on the other hand, it did make my face feel amazing. Made with Japanese rice sake and yeast-derived ferments, this mask feels like a little bit of luxury when you have it on, and it left my face feeling plump, soft, and literally glowing. Would buy again! — Sarah Aswell

This Multipurpose Hypochlorous Acid Spray

This spray, which is specifically made for your lashes but works on your whole face, promotes healing while killing bacteria and fighting redness. I love a spray I can use anytime, and this one really feels like it's calming down your face. I like using it after the gym or any time I'm worried about touching my dirty hands to my face. — Sarah Aswell

This Lip Balm That Dethroned An Old Favorite

I have been in a committed relationship with the Laniege Lip Sleeping Mask for literal years, but since trying Isla’s new lip balm, I have been using it pretty much exclusively. I love that it comes in a tube so I don't have to dunk my fingers into the product, and it leaves such deep, nourishing hydration that I don't feel the need to reapply morning and night — once a day is plenty. I have tried one million lip balms, and this is truly one of the very best. — Katie McPherson

A Pricey-But-Worth-It Hair Care Set

This is spendy, but you can tell why when you use it. These products are meant to keep your scalp healthy and happy while strengthening your hair — and after a few weeks of use, I feel like I can tell a difference. And while it's on the expensive side, I've found that even the smaller bottles last a long time since you don't need much product for great results. I feel like I'm really caring for my hair when I use these. — Sarah Aswell

A Peptide Serum That We’ve Been Reaching For

This serum has genuinely become one of my most exciting skincare discoveries. Copper peptide is a naturally occurring tripeptide your body already produces to support collagen and elastin, and it declines with age, which is why putting it back on your skin is such a smart anti-aging move. — Katie Garrity

]]><![CDATA[The Safest Used Cars For Teens Under $10,000]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/safest-used-cars-for-teens-under-10000https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/safest-used-cars-for-teens-under-10000Wed, 27 May 2026 21:19:08 GMT
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Every now and then, it hits me that in about three years, my oldest will be able to get her learner’s permit. And then it *really* hits me: OMG, what will she drive? We have an older car that we can hopefully keep in shape to pass off to her, but what if it’s no good by then? If we do have to buy her a new car, where do we start? You want your kid to be safe on the road, but you also have to consider your own budget and find something that will last (fingers crossed) until they’re on their own.

And all of it sounds super overwhelming.

But in a recent Consumer Reports piece, the publication came up with a great list for parents of teen drivers — these cars are safe, they’re used, and they’re under $10,000. And that sounds like relief to me.

Not only did they utilize braking and emergency handling tests to evaluate these used cars for teens, but Consumer Reports also made sure every car considered had standard electronic stability control (ESC). This is a proven safety feature that has been standard on all new vehicles since the 2012 model year, and the publication says it should be a must-have for any vehicle a teen drives.

In its rankings, Consumer Reports also excluded subcompact cars and other vehicles under 2,750 pounds, as research has found that these vehicles don’t provide adequate protection. And since teens are four times as likely as older drivers to be in a car accident, that kind of research matters. The report also doesn’t include large SUVs or pickup trucks as they can be difficult to handle in emergency situations and also have “longer braking distances.”

And finally, the report focused on what the publication calls the “Goldilocks” of cars. These options tap into all the safety features you want a teen driver to have, especially those designed to actively prevent collisions and those meant to be the most protective if a crash occurs. Think forward collision warnings and blind spot warnings — these cars also received good ratings on “driver’s-side small-overlap front crash test.”

Here are a few of the car models Consumer Reports recommended for teens:

Safest Used Small Cars For Teens Under $10,000

  • Chevrolet Sonic 2019, also 2018-2015 (built after February 2015)
  • Honda Civic 2015, coupe or sedan, also 2014
  • Hyundai Elantra 2019, also 2018, 2017
  • Kia Forte 2019
  • Nissan Sentra 2019

Safest Used Midsize Cars For Teens Under $10,000

  • Ford Fusion 2017
  • Honda Accord sedan 2014, also 2013
  • Hyundai Sonata Hybrid 2018, also 2017

Safest Used Small SUVs For Teens Under $10,000

  • Hyundai Tucson 2017, also 2016
  • Jeep Compass 2018, also 2017 (built after December 2016)
  • Kia Sportage 2017
  • Nissan Rogue Sport 2017
  • Subaru Crosstrek 2016

You can find the full list of safest cars for teens, including some under $20,000 that are rated well, at Consumer Reports.

]]><![CDATA[New Family-Friendly Shows & Movies Coming To Disney+ & Hulu In June]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/new-family-friendly-shows-movies-coming-to-disney-hulu-in-junehttps://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/new-family-friendly-shows-movies-coming-to-disney-hulu-in-juneWed, 27 May 2026 21:14:58 GMT
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Summer time and the streaming’s easy, folks. Between all the new reality TV, movies, sports, and series coming to Disney+ and Hulu in June, there is seriously something new to watch every single day of the month. We’re not only getting Avatar: Fire & Ash sent straight to our living rooms this month (finally!), but a brand new season of everyone’s favorite reality TV show, Love Island, which is personally how I know summer has arrived each year. And if you haven’t tuned in before, you’ve got to flip on the livestreams from Bonnaroo each night of the festival to feel like you’re at the barricade for your favorite acts.

Here’s all the newness you have to look forward to on the app this month.

What’s New On Disney+ & Hulu In June? The Highlight Reel

Not Suitable for Work — June 2

This new series executive-produced by Mindy Kaling begins with a three-episode premiere on June 2. It follows five career-obsessed characters in their 20s navigating professional and personal ups and downs, all in the pursuit of happiness (and maybe also a promotion).

Hannah Berner: None of My Business — June 5

You’ve absolutely seen Hannah Berner in your social media feed or on your favorite podcast, and now, her first stand-up special is coming straight to Hulu. Her signature dating advice, career stories, and more are sure to have you rolling.

Avatar: Fire and Ash — June 24

Jake Sully and his family found a new home among the Metkayina people, but a run-in with the fearsome Mangkwan clan throws them back into danger and into the line of fire of their old enemies. Oona Chaplin plays a fantastic villain as Varang you won’t want to miss.

FX’s The Bear, Season 5 — June 25 at 9 p.m. ET

Hulu / FX

While FX and Hulu haven’t yet dropped a trailer for Season 5 of The Bear, we do know this will be the final season of the award-winning series starring Jeremy Allen White. All we know is that it’ll pick up where Season 4 left off and follow Carmy as he finds himself outside of the food industry — though you can dive deep into fan theories about what else will unfold on Reddit.

More Movies & Shows Coming Disney+ & Hulu In June

  • Disney Jr. Ariel - The Little Mermaid, Season 2 (New Episodes) — June 1
  • Doctor on the Edge — premieres June 1, new episodes every Monday and Tuesday
  • Kneecap — June 2
  • Last Train to North America — June 3
  • Jimpa — June 4
  • Disney Jr. Play Break: Shorts — June 4
  • Love Island: Season 13 — June 4
  • Keeper — June 5
  • Travis Japan Summer Vacation!! in the USA — June 5
  • Chibiverse, Season 4 (New Episodes) — June 6
  • Locker Diaries: Phineas and Ferb: Shorts — June 6
  • Best of the World with Antoni Porowski — June 7
  • Alice and Steve — June 8
  • It Ends With Us — June 9
  • Dragon Striker — June 10
  • Bonnaroo Livestream Day 1 — June 11 at 7:45 p.m. ET
  • The X-Files: I Want to Believe (Director’s Cut) — June 11
  • Marvel’s Iron Man and his Awesome Friends (New Episodes) — June 12
  • Muppets Most Wanted: Unnecessary (Extended Cut) — June 14
  • A Spark Into A Flame: Hamilton & Hip Hop — June 16
  • The Season — June 14
  • Million Dollar Nannies — June 18
  • Never Change! — June 19
  • Behind the Attraction, Season 3 — June 24
  • How Not to Draw: Shorts — June 26
  • Queens of the Dead — June 26
  • Adventure Time: Side Quests — June 29

Sports On Disney+ & Hulu In June

  • Women’s College World Series Championship Game 1 — June 3
  • NBA Finals Game 1 — June 3
  • Stanley Cup Final Game 1 — June 4
  • Women’s College World Series Championship Game 2 — June 4
  • PGA TOUR LIVE: The Memorial Tournament presented by Workday Day 1 — June 4
  • Women’s College World Series Championship Game 3 — June 5
  • NBA Finals Game 2 — June 5
  • NBA Finals Game 3 — June 8
  • NBA Finals Game 4 — June 10
  • NCAA Women’s Outdoor Track & Field Championships Day 1 — June 11
  • NBA Finals Game 5 — June 13
  • MLB: Chicago Cubs vs. San Francisco Giants — June 14
  • NBA Finals Game 6 — June 16
  • NBA Finals Game 7 — June 19
  • WNBA Women’s Sports Sunday: New York Liberty vs. Los Angeles Sparks — June 21
  • NBA Draft First Round — June 23
  • MLB: New York Yankees vs. Boston Red Sox — June 27
  • Wimbledon: First Round — June 29 & June 30

It’s going to be a very good month of TV, y’all.

]]><![CDATA[How To Retrain Your Brain To Enjoy “Slow” Dopamine]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/how-to-retrain-your-brain-to-enjoy-slow-dopaminehttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/how-to-retrain-your-brain-to-enjoy-slow-dopamineWed, 27 May 2026 21:12:31 GMT
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Never in my life have I said the word “dopamine” more than I have in the last year, but I’m glad we’re talking about it. Dopamine, the feel-good motivating neurotransmitter, is more than just a hot buzzword — it’s meant to signal to our brain that whatever it is we’re doing, we want more of it. Dopamine hit when you deep-clean your bedroom and decide you want to tackle the bathroom next? Good! Dopamine hit when you cross something off your to-do list and suddenly want to do it all? Excellent! Dopamine hit when you’re scrolling your phone and now you’re three hours deep into Instagram? Oh no, we went too far.

The thing about dopamine is that there is fast dopamine and slow dopamine. For everyone, but especially us moms with a million things happening all the time, knowing the difference and making sure we get the right amounts of dopamine is imperative. I’ve found myself, despite getting dopamine hits from things like being on my phone or eating a ton of sugary foods, still feeling just as blah and fatigued and icky as I did before the dopamine hits... and that’s because I’m often choosing “fast” dopamine triggers instead of “slow” dopamine triggers.

With summer officially here and three kids surrounding me most of the day, I need to know — how do I find my “slow” dopamine triggers? And how do I make sure I’m getting enough?

What is “slow” dopamine vs. “fast” dopamine?

“The way I describe it to clients is the fast dopamine hit is the quick hit that is super accessible,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Ilana Grines. “This looks like scrolling through your preferred platform, the quick snack from the pantry — even though you may not be hungry — or pressing purchase on the online cart for something you may not really need.”

But slow dopamine, Grines says, “takes a little effort and a little time.” This could be taking a walk, playing a board game with your kids, or even reading a book.

Ah, right. So we can all see how slow dopamine sometimes takes a back seat to fast dopamine, right?

“The problem with fast dopamine is that there is the least amount of friction between making the decision and receiving the dopamine hit. It asks nothing of you and has a quick release,” Grines says. And with less decision-making involved (What game should we play? Do I need to clean the kitchen before I start making sourdough? What if it’s too hot for a walk?), we all seem to prioritize the fast dopamine release.

But I’ll be the first one to say that the fast dopamine never makes me feel better in the long run.

Why does slow dopamine have longer-lasting effects than fast dopamine?

“Slow dopamine allows you to calm down and potentially restore some of that energy which you have expended,” says Grines. Whereas fast dopamine feels like constant stimulation, followed by an exhausting crash that never leaves you feeling quite satisfied.

“Research on dopamine suggests that after these rapid spikes, we often dip below our normal baseline dopamine state, also known as our tonic dopamine level,” says Dr. Amelia Kelley, trauma- informed therapist at Liven. “Because of this, the brain can begin craving more fast dopamine in order to feel regulated again, which is where patterns of overuse, dependence, or addiction can sometimes emerge.” What goes up, Kelley points out, most come down — even our fast dopamine releases.

How do we mix more “slow” dopamine into our day?

Much like feeling guilty over how addicted you are to your cellphone, it’s really not your fault that you find yourself reaching for fast dopamine over slow dopamine. “The issue is that moms rarely have the ability to engage in long-term stress relief, or in this case, slow dopamine release. The day and all of our responsibilities don’t leave room for it,” says Grines.

And then there’s the whole stimulation — both the speed and intensity of it — thing that fast dopamine gives us.

Kelley says this can make “slower and quieter activities feel less interesting by comparison.” She says if you compare brain imaging studies of “highly stimulating activities like video games, to something slower like reading a book, you often see much higher levels of stimulation and activation during the gaming experience.” Because of this, it’s literally more difficult for your brain to transition from a highly stimulating activity to a lower one while still imagining the reward you’ll get.

But don’t fret: Both Grines and Kelley say it’s all about being more mindful rather than eliminating fast dopamine altogether. And you don’t want to overuse it to the point that slow dopamine activities no longer feel rewarding to you.

“This becomes especially important during the long stretch of summer days where routines and boundaries may loosen,” Kelley says. “It can help to intentionally balance the two, perhaps saving some of the ‘fast dopamine’ activities until after you have engaged in more sustaining and regulating experiences for yourself and modeled those behaviors for your children as well.”

Grines says it’s important to allow yourself to retrain what it looks like to take care of yourself. “Instead of checking out with the scrolling, go outside and take some deep breaths. Take some of the inundating apps off the phone — make yourself a bit more available for slow, in-between pleasures, and that's what gives you the chance to actually settle a bit,” she recommends.

Easier said than done, I know. But as a mom of three who’s desperate to reclaim her attention span and her energy, these are the things that have worked for me:

  • Make slow dopamine stations: If I want to cross-stitch or read or paint, make sure all of the supplies I need are together and easily accessible.
  • Treat my phone like a landline: I try to leave it plugged in upstairs so it’s out of sight, out of mind. It helps me stay focused on the things I’m doing, and I hardly ever want to walk upstairs to get it. (You can also try screen time blocking apps or a Brick if you won’t stay off of it even if it’s in another room.)
  • Loop my kids in: I find myself way more frustrated and cranky with fast dopamine releases if my kids are around. They are great “slow down” tools, and I’ll ask them things like, “Do you want to bake today? Should we go on a walk? Do we want to go outside and work in the garden?” They pretty much always say yes, and then I have a built-in slow dopamine helper.
  • Put on music: Music never makes me want to sit down or scroll on my phone or eat garbage — all the “fast” dopamine things I turn to throughout the day. Instead, it makes me want to dance, to talk, to have people over — it’s an instant “slow” dopamine effect for me that encourages me to find more slow, fulfilling activities.

“Part of that process is allowing ourselves to experience a little boredom, slowness, effort, or stillness without immediately reaching for a quick hit of stimulation,” Grines says. “Over time, those slower dopamine experiences often create something that feels more emotionally sustainable: calm, fulfillment, connection, and steadier joy rather than rapid emotional cycling.”

]]><![CDATA[In Defense Of Taking Short Trips With Your Family]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/in-defense-of-taking-short-trips-with-your-familyhttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/in-defense-of-taking-short-trips-with-your-familyWed, 27 May 2026 15:19:27 GMT

Last spring, my family and I took an impromptu trip to Philadelphia to see the rock band Metallica perform in concert. The tickets were affordable, the timing worked for all four of us, and the logistics were doable — the city is less than a two-hour drive from our New York City home, and I was able to book a rental car and hotel on short notice. We had a blast rocking out at the concert, took in some of Philly’s most famous historic attractions (hello, Liberty Bell!), and ate lots of good food. When we returned home, we all felt refreshed, buzzing about the best songs and our favorite parts of the trip. And we’d been gone for all of 32 hours.

Over the years, we’ve come to embrace these family “micro” vacations: there was another two-day trip to Philly back in 2019, a long holiday weekend in Washington D.C., and, more recently, a two-day trip to Boston when my younger son was on Spring Break and we found ourselves with nothing planned but an itch to go somewhere. It’s not that we don’t enjoy a lengthy, long-planned vacation, but there’s just something about the spontaneity and ease of a truncated trip that speaks to us.

What Is a Micro-cation?

It turns out we’re not alone. In fact, we’ve been very early adopters of the latest buzzy travel trend: the micro-cation. Defined by Allianz Partners USA as a quick trip that’s 100-plus miles from home that lasts one to four days, the micro-cation, or micro-vacation, can give you all the thrills of a fun trip (and the social media content to prove it) with less hassle, less cost, and of course, less time. Allianz’s 2025 Vacation Confidence Index study revealed that 73% of respondents expected to take a four-nights-or-less trip during the year, with 34% planning a trip for two or fewer nights. And a 2026 survey by Talker Research found “micro-breaks” or “micro-cations” to be a top summer travel trend, with 22% of respondents expecting to travel for shorter lengths of time.

With affordability top-of-mind for so many families right now, and with fuel costs surging — the national average price for a gallon of gas is roughly $4.50 at the moment, and air travel fares are already up more than 20% — it’s no surprise that a shorter trip is increasingly appealing to so many people these days. Of course, shorter doesn’t always mean cheaper, but spreading your travel budget out over several micro-cations can make you feel like you’re getting more bang for your vacation buck. And if your travel budget is simply smaller to begin with, even a single micro-cation can give your family those vacation vibes without racking up debt.

There’s also ease of planning. A mini trip that’s closer to home means less time away from work, less chance of hitting air travel snafus, and less stress when it comes to planning and booking every element (something that, as our family’s resident vacation organizer, I appreciate!).

Sara Wilcox, a Fora travel advisor based in Dallas who specializes in family travel, still has plenty of clients wanting a European vacation this summer, but she’s also seeing an increase in clients who are coming to her for help planning shorter, drivable micro-cations — and cost and anxiety over international travel are both playing a role right now. “I think people want to stay domestic because they can trust that there won't be as many disruptions,” she says. “Rising fuel costs are also definitely a factor. So people are just keeping it safe with these more local destinations and shorter trips.”

How to Plan a Micro-cation

If all of this sounds good to you and you’re ready to pack in the packing-for-a-week stress this summer, Wilcox has advice for making your family’s next micro-cation a success — and over the years I’ve picked up a few tips, too!

Pick an anchor activity. Unlike a bucket-list trip to Rome or Paris where you’d want to see all the sites, a micro-cation isn’t the time to fit in every activity your destination has to offer. Back in 2019, my oldest son was deep in his super hero phase when I saw that The Franklin Institute in Philadelphia was hosting a Marvel exhibition. It was the perfect anchor activity for a quick trip, and a fun surprise for both of my kids. More recently, our anchor was the aforementioned Metallica concert. Wilcox recently booked a trip for clients centered around a Houston Astros baseball game for their son’s birthday. Having a single anchor activity certainly doesn’t mean you can’t fit in other fun activities, but it relieves any pressure you might feel around packing everything into a short trip. You’re giving yourself permission to not do it all.

Choose your hotel wisely. A hotel is either an important part of your micro-cation or simply a place to lay your head at night, depending on your POV. I fall into the former camp. For our first Philly trip, when my kids were younger, I spent a little more to book a hotel with an indoor pool. I knew my kids would delight in an after-dinner swim, and take a plunge in the morning, too. If your kids are also pool aficionados, 10/10, I recommend! More recently, we stayed in a hotel right in Old City, Philadelphia’s historic district, in order to maximize our sightseeing time. Wilcox notes that many hotels are increasingly catering to families, so it’s worth comparing offerings. “A lot of these properties are getting used to having little kids and these quick weekend trips away,” she says, “so they often have some fun programming.”

Consider using a travel advisor. It’s no surprise that Wilcox offers this tip, but a travel advisor can help you maximize your experience. “If you're going somewhere and you're only booking it a few days out, I can find hotel options where I'm most likely to get you an upgrade or some extra perks, because the inventory is going to be low,” she explains.

Take advantage of the concierge. “If you're going somewhere for just three or four nights, you can lean a little more heavily on the concierge, even upon arrival,” Wilcox says. In fact, that’s what she did on a recent weekend micro-cation with her kids in Cabo. “We didn't make any dinner reservations [ahead of time]. When we got there, we saw the three restaurants on the property, we chose where we wanted to eat each night, told the concierge, and that's really all the planning we did.”

That kind of spontaneity may not work for everyone, but my kids were 7 and 12 when we started micro-cationing, so a certain degree of flexibility worked for us. And for me, the planning, packing, and logistics involved in a quick trip have always felt so much more doable. For whatever reason, even thinking about the legwork involved in a weeklong vacation stresses me out. (Is that a me thing? Yes? Have I rejected my husband’s offer to take over the trip-planning? Also yes.)

Wilcox understands, and adds her own take: “If you're going away for a long time, you might have to have someone look after your house, get your mail, and take care of your pets,” she says. “But for a quicker trip, you don't always need all those additional services, which makes it easier.

Returning home is easier, too. “When I went away recently, I told my kids to pack for themselves, because we were going for just three nights and I figured if they forget one little thing, it's not the end of the world. Whereas, if I'm going to Italy for two weeks, I'm going to have to make a huge list and triple check it to ensure we didn't forget the lovey or the medication. We came home and it was one load of laundry, and for me, that's a big deal. So I just think, in general, logistically, it's a lot easier.”

Frankly, ease is one of the things I want on a trip. And not feeling like you need a vacation after your vacation? Well, that can feel like a vacation in and of itself!

]]><![CDATA[Scary Mommy 2026 Readers' Choice Awards Best Eco-Chic Inflatables]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/scary-mommy-2026-readers-choice-awards-best-eco-chic-inflatableshttps://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/scary-mommy-2026-readers-choice-awards-best-eco-chic-inflatablesWed, 27 May 2026 13:23:12 GMT

Here’s the thing moms know: There is no greater feat in parenting than being able to sit the F down when it’s nice out. Now that it’s getting warmer, that desire is growing stronger, and these brands are here to help. Here are some of our favorite outdoor inflatable brands that make summer that much more enjoyable for kids, sure, but also for you.

Voting for this contest is open until Wednesday, 24 June 2026.

Photos Courtesy of &Sunday, LYKKE, Pool Buoy

]]><![CDATA[Scary Mommy 2026 Readers' Choice Awards Best All-Terrain Adventure Wagon Brands]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/scary-mommy-2026-readers-choice-awards-best-all-terrain-adventure-wagon-brandshttps://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/scary-mommy-2026-readers-choice-awards-best-all-terrain-adventure-wagon-brandsWed, 27 May 2026 13:22:59 GMT

As parents, we schlep a lot of stuff at all times. For being tiny humans, kids do require a lot of... equipment. Enter: wagons. Whether they attach to a stroller, or are freestanding, these lugging miracles make your life as a parent so much easier, and lighter. Here are some of our faves.

Voting for this contest is open until Wednesday, 24 June 2026.

Photos courtesy of Evenflo®, Pronto, Thule, Veer, WonderFold

]]><![CDATA[Scary Mommy 2026 Readers’ Choice Awards Best Gear Hauler Brands]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/scary-mommy-2026-readers-choice-awards-best-gear-hauler-brandshttps://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/scary-mommy-2026-readers-choice-awards-best-gear-hauler-brandsWed, 27 May 2026 13:22:46 GMT

Every mom knows: we carry a lot of stuff in our bags. So why not make them cute? These brands do the trick — they help you carry all the things while also being totally adorable and useful. Here are some of Scary Mommy’s favorite gear hauler brands.

Voting for this contest is open until Wednesday, 24 June 2026.

Photos Courtesy of Bogg Bag and Project Ten

]]><![CDATA[Scary Mommy 2026 Readers’ Choice Awards Best Next-Gen Shade & Cabana Brands]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/scary-mommy-2026-readers-choice-awards-best-next-gen-shade-cabana-brandshttps://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/scary-mommy-2026-readers-choice-awards-best-next-gen-shade-cabana-brandsWed, 27 May 2026 13:22:02 GMT

Long gone are the days of relaxing quietly in the sun on the beach. You’re a parent now — you’re older and wiser — and shade is imperative. These next-gen shade and cabana brands make the beach so much more enjoyable for the whole family, plus they’re easy to assemble. Here are some of our faves.

Voting for this contest is open until Wednesday, 24 June 2026.

Photos courtesy of BeachBUB, Fatboy, Hollie & Harrie, Neso, Shibumi Shade, Solbello

]]><![CDATA[Scary Mommy 2026 Readers’ Choice Awards Best Lifestyle Cooler Brands]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/scary-mommy-2026-readers-choice-awards-best-lifestyle-cooler-brandshttps://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/scary-mommy-2026-readers-choice-awards-best-lifestyle-cooler-brandsWed, 27 May 2026 13:21:46 GMT

Look, I love a regular coooler as much as the next gal, but there’s something so eye-catching about these lifestyle coolers. They’re pretty, they’re functional, and they work. Win-win-win. Here are some of our top picks.

Voting for this contest is open until Wednesday, 24 June 2026.

Photos courtesy of Corkcicle., Engel/Chris Holloway, Hydro Flask, Pelican Products Inc., RTIC Outdoors, YETI

]]><![CDATA[Women On Threads Are Sharing Their Most “Life-Changing” Purchases Under $10]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/life-changing-purchases-under-10https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/life-changing-purchases-under-10Tue, 26 May 2026 20:05:26 GMT
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We spend so much time trying to find those “investment” pieces that cost a pretty penny but stand the test of time. And, while those are usually worth it, sometimes the stuff that actually changes your everyday life costs less than a latte.

Women on Threads have been sharing their most unexpectedly life-changing purchases under $10, and most of the items listed are absolutely genius because, well, women are amazing. When Threads user, @_annamarier asked, “GIRLS ONLY!!! What's one purchase under $10 that genuinely improved your life?”

From the tiny kitchen fixes to the beauty finds with a cult following, these are the under-$10 buys that are quietly making people's lives easier, better, and a whole lot more satisfying.

1. A simple product to change the way you wash your face forever

2. One of the top-reviewed underwear sets on Amazon for just $6 a pair

3. A cheap kitchen tool for anxious girlies

4. An affordable men’s product that women have co-opted

5. The cutest kitchen towels

6. The ultimate lip balm

7. “Magic” witch hazel wipes for perimenopause hell

8. A product to cover up all the annoying digital displays around the house

9. An electric whisk to froth your milk

10. A nifty kitchen gadget that we all immediately added to our carts

11. A pack of moisture-wicking, highly-rated thongs for just $5 a pair

12. A little device to help smooth out that cute peach fuzz on your face

13. A “just in case” purchase for the forgetful girl

14. Pretty much any skin care product from The Ordinary

Next time you need a little treat... these treats are very little! And they can mean a big difference in your day-to-day life.

]]><![CDATA[Will 'The Boroughs' Season 2 Happen? Creator Plans & Ending Explained]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/the-boroughs-season-2-release-date-renewal-netflixhttps://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/the-boroughs-season-2-release-date-renewal-netflixTue, 26 May 2026 19:08:55 GMT
Netflix

As an entertainment editor, I watch a lot of TV. I’m up to my ears in TV news. And over the last few months, one show just kept coming up as a series I needed to keep on my radar: The Boroughs on Netflix. Could all the buzz have been because it’s the first major TV follow-up attached to the Duffer Brothers since Stranger Things ended? Naturally. But now that I’ve binge-watched Season 1, I get the hype. I’m officially hooked, and like the rest of you who flew through the first installment, I have to know: Are we getting a Season 2?

Created by Jeffrey Addiss and Will Matthews and produced by Matt and Ross Duffer, Netflix’s new mystery-horror series follows a group of older residents living in a quirky New Mexico retirement community. As it turns out, the community is hiding some pretty unsettling secrets.

Season 1 ends with enough lingering questions (hello, can we talk about that glitch?!) to warrant more, and it sounds like that’s precisely what the creators want to give the show’s budding fandom.

Has The Boroughs been renewed for Season 2?

Not yet.

As of now, there’s no official green light for The Boroughs for Season 2. However, the signs are promising. The creators have already revealed they’re planning for a much larger story, telling several outlets that they envision a multi-season arc.

“We have a very specific three-season plan, and we think we know the last shot of the last scene of the last episode,” Addiss told IGN.

You can’t really ask for a much better clue that the creative team is putting in the work behind the scenes to give the series life beyond its first season. The creators also explained to IGN that Season 1 was intentionally designed to feel emotionally satisfying while still leaving bigger mysteries to unravel in the (hopeful) event that Netflix says yes to additional seasons.

What would The Boroughs Season 2 be about?

Warning: spoilers ahead!

I mean, take your pick, right? The finale left us with some major questions, like what exactly is Mother… and is she really gone? Why TF did Sam glitch in the final scene? Are we looking at some sort of time-travel scenario coming into play here? It definitely seems as though Mother doesn’t experience time linearly.

Since the creators have confirmed they already know the answers, it’s now a waiting game — for Netflix to grant the renewal, and for the creators to deliver those answers to fans in the form of Seasons 2 and presumably 3.

Addiss told Entertainment Weekly that the mystery surrounding Mother is “the arc of multiple seasons,” hinting, “We know what Mother is exactly… and we hope the audience gets to find out.”

Oh, and Sam glitching? Yep, that was a very deliberate tease as well, pointing toward “the next chapter of the adventure.” In fact, according to the showrunners, all of the recurring imagery involving television static, radio waves, transmissions, and (you guessed it) glitching is deeply important to the series’ mythology.

If the scene with Sam glitching felt familiar, that was by design too. Matthews confirmed to EW that it was “an affectionate nod to the end of the first season of Stranger Things,” where Will glitches in the bathroom mirror.

We can assume we’ll see more Easter eggs as the series progresses: to Stranger Things, and to inspiration like Cocoon and Salem’s Lot. And we’ll almost certainly see more exploration of bigger themes like grief and time.

“Grief is so unmooring, so discombobulating that you as an individual can be sort of a time traveler who can be stuck in two or more places at once — emotionally, physically,” says Matthews.

And so, staring down fresh loss along with the loss they’ve already faced, we’ll likely follow along as our older gang of Goonie-esque characters dives further into that duality.

When could The Boroughs Season 2 come out?

That hinges on whether and when Netflix renews the series. If it happens soon, a realistic estimate would likely be late 2027 or sometime in early 2028.

Having said that, this is a genre-heavy show with extensive visual effects and one with a true ensemble cast (Geena Davis! Alfred Molina! Alfre Woodard!)… both of which take longer to produce. That could push us later into 2028. Right now though, given the buoyancy of so many positive reviews and the added backing of the Duffer Brothers, it feels like Netflix could give Season 2 a go-ahead in the very near future.

But one thing is very clear: The creators are absolutely hoping to continue the story. And after that finale, fans are sure as hell hoping they get to.

]]><![CDATA[The Real Reason You Keep Having The Same Fight Over & Over With Your Partner]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/why-you-keep-having-the-same-fight-with-your-partnerhttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/why-you-keep-having-the-same-fight-with-your-partnerTue, 26 May 2026 19:07:45 GMT
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You come in from work and find a pile of junk mail on the counter, yet again. Your kids have had back-to-back appointments but your partner hasn’t taken them to a single one, yet again. You’ve been asking and asking for better communication about their weekend plans but suddenly they’re heading out the door unexpectedly, yet a-freaking-gain. If you feel like you’re having the same fight over and over, you’re probably both just as tired of talking about the problem as you are the problem itself. So what gives? Why do some couples repeat the same fight a thousand times without a resolution? And what can you do about it, if you’re stuck in the loop?

Having the same fight over and over? It’s probably about something deeper.

Maybe you and your partner are constantly fighting about who makes more effort in the relationship. Maybe it’s as specific as who does the dishes more. Whatever the subject matter of the fight, well, it’s likely completely beside the point, according to Amanda Ripley, conflict expert, founder of Good Conflict, and bestselling author of High Conflict: Why We Get Trapped and How We Get Out.

“Most couples have one or two arguments that keep coming back, like a virus — whether it’s about money, time, or who left the dishes in the sink. We can’t always resolve these conflicts, but we can learn to navigate them much more quickly, with less suffering all around,” she says. “Recurring conflicts are almost never about what they seem to be about. There’s an understory to conflict, and it is the most interesting part.”

So what’s an understory, and how can you identify the one in your recurring argument?

“Every conflict operates on two levels: There’s the thing you argue about endlessly, and then there’s the deeper need, the one that is threatened by the conflict. That deeper issue is fueling the conflict. That’s the understory,” Ripley says.

In “The Conflict Playbook,” her newly released MasterClass, Ripley explains that there are a number of common understories. The two most common are “Respect and Recognition” and “Stress and Overwhelm.”

How To Stop Having The Same Fight Over & Over Again

First things first: You know it’s time to look for the understory when you or your partner “are having an outsized reaction to a conflict — or if the same argument keeps coming back, and you feel stuck,” Ripley says. This is a red flag that this argument you keep having, which seems to be about the dishes, is in fact the wrong argument to be having. “You’re getting lost in a never-ending debate about how to load the dishwasher and missing the more interesting, useful part of the conflict,” she explains.

You can identify the understory of a fight by asking yourself a few questions.

“For example, if your partner overreacts to something that feels very minor to you, ask yourself: Do they feel disrespected for any reason, whether they should or not? I’m amazed by how many conflicts — on social media and in real life — are really about respect,” Ripley says.

She also recommends active listening. The more a person feels listened to, the more likely they are to be vulnerable and say things that might reveal the understory to a good listener. Then you can have the conversation you really need to have, one that will actually resolve things.

What if you’re having the same fight over & over with your kid?

The same principles apply whether you’re dealing with a partner or your child, Ripley says.

“I was just talking to a teenager who likes to stay up until 3 a.m. watching YouTube, driving his parents crazy. They think he’s being lazy or defiant, and maybe he is sometimes. But the more I listened to him, the more I started to notice another understory for him. Those hours after his family goes to bed are the only time of the day or night when he’s not being watched or monitored in some way, he told me. No one is nagging, coaching, or criticizing him. For once, he feels free. For him, the understory is autonomy. That’s the deeper need.”

Acknowledging that need for autonomy could help his parents actually see change in his behavior. Maybe they could ease up on some rules elsewhere in his day, or be less helicopter-like about his tech use, for example. “At the very least, they can finally have the fight they really need to have,” says Ripley.

When is it time to ask for help?

Couples wait six years on average to seek help in unhappy relationships, Ripley says, citing research by psychologist John Gottman. But you do not have to reach a breaking point before seeking out a couples’ therapist, she explains.

“If fights are escalating quickly or feel out of control, you definitely want to seek help. But ideally, try to do it before that point. A very wise psychologist once told me that clients do best when they’re both ‘miserable and curious.’ I like that algorithm. You want to be motivated to change, but not so unhappy that you’ve lost all curiosity about why you and your partner are the way you are. A skilled therapist can help you discover the understory of a recurring fight much faster than you might on your own.”

]]><![CDATA[19 Literary Girl Names From The Books Your Mother Read You]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/pregnancy/literary-girl-names-from-books-your-mother-read-youhttps://www.scarymommy.com/pregnancy/literary-girl-names-from-books-your-mother-read-youTue, 26 May 2026 17:34:22 GMT
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Is there anything that makes you feel safer and cozier than someone reading to you? I can still see my pink and purple bedroom, my white eyelet comforter, and my mom in my desk chair next to me, reading me books at bedtime. Now that I have three daughters of my own, I’m delighted by how much all of them (even my tween) love being read to, and it’s something I will always cherish.

Especially since so many books influenced how I named my own daughters.

Honestly, if you’re looking for literary girl names, the books your own mom read to you are a great place to start. There’s such a sweet mixture of literature, like Jane Austen and Frances Hodgson Burnett, picture books, mysteries, and ‘70s classics like Beverly Cleary, that it’s easy to be inspired. And the girls and women in these books? Full of courage and grit and whimsy — something I think all of us hope our own daughters have.

So if you want a book-inspired name for your baby girl, turn to your own childhood bookshelf. One of the books your mom read to you is sure to make you feel like, “Oh, there’s my girl right there.”

Lucy

Lucy is in a ton of books, but I especially love it for fans of The Chronicles of Narnia series. Lucy Pevensie is the youngest of the four siblings and probably the one who believes in Narnia and its magic the most. She’s brave, she’s kind, and she makes you want to go out in the world and make things happen. Plus, the name Lucy means “light” or “light bringer.”

Fern

I can’t remember the first time I read Charlotte’s Web (or the first time I had it read to me), but I do remember how much I wanted to be like Fern. Fern had her opinions and thoughts and wasn’t afraid to share them, even if it meant going against adults. Fern is such a whimsical name, too, with a strong nature connection.

Josephine

Jo March is an iconic literary character for a reason, and I think her personality and strength and love for her family is plenty of reason to name a baby Josephine (which means “God will add”). Call her Jo like in Little Women or keep the traditional name her full name forever, but she’s bound to do a “great many things” with this name.

Opal

I read Because of Winn-Dixie out loud to my girls a couple of summers ago, and the character (and name) of Opal stuck with all of us for a long time. Such grit and courage, and it makes sense since the name comes from the actual opal gemstone.

Luna

Harry Potter has a million great characters to name your little girl after, but I really love Luna Lovegood. Luna is a supremely popular name right now, but if you like the witchy, celestial vibes, it’s a great choice.

Madeline

“The smallest one was Madeline.” Madeline has been an icon forever, and her adventurous spirit is worth naming a million girls after. The name Madeline means “tower” or “from Magdala” as well, and it definitely has Parisian vibes. If it’s been a while since you read the Madeline books, revisit them.

Jemima

Beatrix Potter does whimsical and cozy better than anyone, and I especially love Jemima Puddle-Duck. Jemima may be naive, but she’s also sweet and innocent and wants to be independent, and her story gives a very cautionary tale. Jemima also means “dove” or “day to day.”

Nancy

There is just something about being read the Nancy Drew series. I loved when my mom read mysteries to me, and a whole series of a girl who always manages to figure it out? That was enough to make me feel brave and strong, too. Nancy also means “grace, favored, pure.”

Helen

I stand by The Witches’ Supermarket being one of the best books of all time, and it’s due in large part to the character of Helen, who knows exactly who she is. This book was a staple of my childhood, and if I had another daughter, Helen would be on the list. The name Helen also means “torch, light.”

Caroline

I think every one of us had the Little House on the Prairie series read out loud to us, and while there are tons of girl names in the books, I think Ma Ingalls — Caroline — deserves an homage. It takes a lot of work to keep the home fires burning and remain a positive, warm light for your family, and nobody does it like Caroline. The name Caroline means “free woman.”

Violet

The Boxcar Children is a classic series, and out of the four siblings, I always adored Violet the most. Shy, extremely caring, and a little sensitive, I related to her deeply and wanted to be just like her. She’s a good one to emulate, and the name Violet obviously has ties to the color.

Eloise

She’s cunning, she’s clever, she’s a bit naughty... Eloise from the Eloise at the Plaza books has always been that girl. Her name even means “famous warrior,” which is extremely fitting.

Imogene

The Herdman children in The Best Christmas Pageant Ever may smoke cigars and steal and pinch each other, but reading about Imogene as Mary, the mother of Jesus, will never not make me cry. Imogene is one of those old-lady names that deserves a second chance (like the character!), and it means “maiden” or “beloved child.”

Margaret

Beverly Cleary’s Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret is a complete masterpiece for those going through puberty, and I think the character of Margaret deserves a baby named after her. Margaret has so many great nicknames, too, and means “pearl.”

Elizabeth

I mean, you knew Elizabeth Bennet of Pride and Prejudice would be on this list, right? Think of all the nicknames you can do with this traditional moniker, and it just doesn’t get much more literary than Jane Austen. Elizabeth also means “God’s promise.”

Sara

Few books made me feel like I could get through tough times like my mom reading me A Little Princess. Sara may be the original “change your mindset” girlie, and I love that for all of us. This name is super traditional, too, and I love it without the “h” at the end. Sara even means “princess.”

Matilda

OK, maybe after Sara, Matilda from the Roald Dahl classic Matilda is the queen of Make-The-Most-Out-Of-It. She never gives up, loves deeply, and has an extreme thirst for knowledge — I love that being part of a little girl’s personality. Matilda means “mighty in battle,” too.

Belle

In A Christmas Carol, Ebenezer Scrooge gets a whole lot of coddling and enabling from those around him... except his former wife-to-be, Belle. She calls him out immediately once his demeanor changes, and she doesn’t stick around to be heartbroken over and over by him. Power to Belle. The name means “beautiful,” too, thanks to its French origins.

Claudia

From the Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler is one of those books that sticks with you forever, and so does the character Claudia. She’s a leader, but not a bulldozing kind, and takes others’ opinions and thoughts into consideration, too. The name Claudia means “enclosure.”

]]><![CDATA['Sinners' Halloween Horror Nights House Announced At Universal Orlando]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/halloween-horror-nights-2026-sinners-house-dates-detailshttps://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/halloween-horror-nights-2026-sinners-house-dates-detailsTue, 26 May 2026 16:46:27 GMT
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As a certified Horror Girlie™, I can think of few things more exciting than the news that Sinners is getting its own house at Universal's Halloween Horror Nights 35. First of all, Ryan Coogler is an angel and deserves every bit of fanfare coming his way. But I also genuinely can't think of a more perfect HHN property than this blues-soaked Southern Gothic nightmare of a movie masterpiece.

Universal Orlando dropped the announcement over Memorial Day weekend, and horror fans are already losing their sh*t over the reveal.

Based on Coogler's award-winning original hit horror film, the house will transport guests into Sinners' eerie 1930s Mississippi setting, where "guitar screams fill the air" inside the Smokestack Twins' Club Juke. According to Universal Orlando, guests will come face-to-face with "Remmick's troop of bloodthirsty vampires” as they navigate scenes inspired by the movie.

You can expect cameos from fan favorites along the way, like Sammie, Mary, Annie, Pearline, and Cornbread.

I mean… come on! HHN season can't come soon enough.

Why Sinners Could Be One Of HHN's Best Houses In Years

What makes Sinners such a genius choice for HHN is how sensory-heavy the movie already feels. It's sweaty, it's smokey, it's bluesy, it's hazy. It's got blood-soaked visuals and is drenched in music — I cannot wait for the juxtaposition of intoxicating music and jump scares! And speaking of jump scares, the sudden bursts of vampire violence practically beg to become a walk-through experience. It's the kind of immersive cinematic world HHN fans obsess over. Ask me how I know.

Obviously, the juke joint sequence will be the centerpiece, likely along with heavy live-scare choreography. If more than one facade is featured, there are definitely some inspired choices: the fields outside, the church from the first scene, the train depot, the list goes on. It could also just take place inside the juke joint, in different rooms like the stage and the gambling den.

Regardless, the music alone could make this unforgettable. Maybe even one of the loudest houses HHN has done? Will we hear "I Lied to You"? "Rocky Road to Dublin"? Here's hoping.

What I would love to see the Sinners' house incorporate are some of the cooler immersive moments we've seen in past houses. In the El Artista house last year, gargoyles "flew" overhead. Why not a vampire? In the Terrifier house, you had to choose a "wet" or "dry" path. Perhaps something similar for human vs. vampire? It feels like a no-brainer for Universal to somehow play with the idea that you have to be "invited in."

Another reason fans are excited? The announcement signals HHN's continued embrace of newer prestige horror properties instead of relying solely on nostalgic IP.

What to Know About the Other Houses, Tickets, & More

Although the Sinners' house news has clearly hijacked all HHN conversations, it's not actually the first reveal to come from HHN 35. That honor went to the "Jack & Oddfellow: Chaos & Control" house, which dives into the twisted rivalry between the two horror icons.

There will be 10 haunted houses in total, so we've got lots to look forward to in terms of announcements.

This year's event runs for a record 42 nights, from Aug. 28 through Nov. 1, at Universal Studios Florida, and slightly shorter at Universal Studios Hollywood from Sept. 3 through Nov. 1. Universal Orlando Resort has confirmed the return of Premium Scream Night on Aug. 27 and Oct. 19, an exclusive event featuring shorter wait times and all-you-care-to-eat food.

If you really want to go all-in, you can try a R.I.P. Tour — a guided VIP walking tour with priority VIP entry to the houses — or a lights-on Behind the Screams: Unmasking the Horror Tour. You can also shorten your wait times for the houses by upgrading your HHN experience with Universal Express, which I highly recommend if it's within your budget. (If you only plan for one night, you’re going to be logging about 30k steps... the least you can do for your feet is lessen your line times.)

Remember, this is a separately ticketed event, so even if you have tickets for Universal Studios on the day you want to attend HHN, you still need to purchase HHN tickets. They're on sale on the site now, starting at $88.99 per person, plus tax, with prices varying by date.

If history tells us anything, it's that there could be some unexpected updates from Universal yet to come as HHN 35 gets closer. However, I can't imagine an announcement that will garner the same kind of intense fan reaction as Sinners. It already feels like this year's standout addition to the lineup.

So, yeah, it's officially time to start thinking about spooky season. Who's with me?

]]><![CDATA[37 New Family-Friendly Movies & Shows To Watch On Netflix In June]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/new-family-kids-movies-shows-netflix-june-2026https://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/new-family-kids-movies-shows-netflix-june-2026Tue, 26 May 2026 16:33:31 GMT

Can you believe it’s been one year since K Pop Demon Hunters premiered? Raise your hand if you’re still bumping “Golden” and “What It Sounds Like” every morning on the way to school. While we simply can’t wait for the sequel, this anniversary is a good reminder that you never really know just how good a new-to-streaming series or movie will be. And with that in mind, here are all the new family-friendly TV shows and movies coming to Netflix in June, from new seasons of your teen’s favorite anime to some iconic movies you’ve been meaning to sit down and watch with them.

What’s New On Netflix In June? The Highlight Reel

AMERICA'S SWEETHEARTS: Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders: Season 3 — June 16

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Reality TV lovers: if you haven’t watched this series yet, get on it! Follow along as new recruits audition for the highly competitive Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders, then go on to navigate their newfound fame and fans while keeping up with grueling practice and game schedules.

Avatar The Last Airbender: Season 2 — June 25

Season 2 of the live-action Avatar The Last Airbender is here, y’all! And this is the season when we finally meet Toph (everyone’s favorite character, if they watched the original animated series). Now we get to fall in love with her all over again as she helps Aang master the next element on his quest to restore balance to the world and beat back the power-hungry Fire Nation.

The animated version is also available to stream on Netflix, if you simply can’t wait to see how it all ends.

Pokémon Horizons: Season 3—Rising Hope Part 3 — June 26

Liko, Roy, Dot, and Ult will spend this season on yet another epic adventure as they level up their Pokémon and their skills as trainers for an impending battle with the Explorers. My son hasn’t quite caught up with all the iterations of Pokémon yet, but if new episodes are heralded as a special occasion in your house, you won’t want to miss this drop.

More Family Movies & Shows Coming To Netflix In June

  • Bee Movie — June 1
  • The Choice — June 1
  • Father of the Bride — June 1
  • Father of the Bride: Part II — June 1
  • The Karate Kid — June 1
  • The Karate Kid Part II — June 1
  • The Karate Kid Part III — June 1
  • Made of Honor — June 1
  • Miracle — June 1
  • My Best Friend's Wedding — June 1
  • Parenthood — June 1
  • Rookie of the Year — June 1
  • Rudy — June 1
  • Runaway Bride — June 1
  • Scooby-Doo — June 1
  • Scooby-Doo 2: Monsters Unleashed — June 1
  • The Wedding Planner — June 1
  • The Wedding Date — June 1
  • Assassination Classroom: Season 2 — June 1
  • The Fault in Our Stars — June 1
  • My Hero Academia: World Heroes' Mission — June 1
  • One Piece: Whole Cake Island ⑥ — June 1
  • One Piece: Whole Cake Island ⑦ — June 1
  • Shangri-La Frontier: 2nd Season — June 1
  • Sesame Street: Volume 3 — June 8
  • Stuart Little — June 15
  • The Smurfs — June 15
  • Percy Jackson & the Olympians: The Lightning Thief — June 15
  • Percy Jackson: Sea of Monsters — June 15
  • America's Test Kitchen: Season 24 — June 17
  • America's Test Kitchen: Season 25 — June 17
  • America's Test Kitchen: Season 26 — June 17
  • Little Angel: Volume 8 — June 27
  • Bebefinn: Season 4 Part 2 — June 29

Between new series and classic films, there is so much to watch on Netflix this summer!

]]><![CDATA[7 Dog-Themed Books For The Whole Family To Read This Summer]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/dog-themed-books-for-family-to-read-this-summerhttps://www.scarymommy.com/entertainment/dog-themed-books-for-family-to-read-this-summerTue, 26 May 2026 14:44:22 GMT
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There’s nothing I love more during the summer than a good book. It doesn’t matter if it’s meant for kids or if it’s YA or contemporary fiction — I just want to read. It’s the long, slow days of summer that make you feel like books are the ultimate companion, and when you mix in a dog theme? Well, you’re about to romanticize every bit of your summer.

Dogs might as well be the symbol of summer Americana. Spending all day outside exploring, lazy days by a body of water, long walks with an ice cream cone... a dog by your side just makes them all the more idyllic. And that’s why I love a dog-themed book for summer.

If you want that sticky-sweet, warm summer feeling, too, these seven books are perfect for getting in the mood. Some may be categorized as children’s books, but that doesn’t make them any less lovely to read. Read them on your own, as a family, or have your kids read them so you can all discuss later. Just read them this summer.

My Dog Skip

I specifically remember buying My Dog Skip to read one summer and it feeling like the ultimate slice of Americana. Set in the 1940s, the story of a little boy and his best buddy will delight you. It’s the kind of sweet story that romanticizes all of the things we’ve always loved until you want to live your own sweet, slow, enchanting life with a pup.

The Art of Racing in the Rain

If you’ve ever wondered what your dog’s thinking all day as they grow from puppy to family dog to senior canine, then you want to read The Art of Racing in the Rain. Enzo believes he’s more human than dog, and this story of all the things he sees — from joy and love to tragedy and betrayal — will make you wonder what your own dog is carrying inside of them at all times.

A Dog’s Purpose

W. Bruce Cameron is known for his books about dogs, but A Dog’s Purpose might be one of the best. The story follows a pup named Bailey as he moves through life, reincarnated over and over among different people, making some remarkable connections as the humans in the story grow and age. It will really get you in your feels.

Where the Red Fern Grows

Of course you’re going to sob in this one! I’m so sorry, but Where the Red Fern Grows is an absolute classic and must-read (and re-read, honestly). Billy has been waiting his whole life to have two best friends, and now he’s got them with his pups Old Dan and Little Ann. The descriptions of the Ozarks in this book as the threesome run around and have adventures will get you in your feels, but it’s the real story waiting inside that will crack your heart wide open.

Because of Winn-Dixie

I read Because of Winn-Dixie to my three girls a couple of summers ago, and they still talk about Opal, Gloria Dump, and, of course, Winn-Dixie. The story of a girl living in a new town, missing her mother, and searching for something to hold onto will make you hug your own dog tight around the neck.

Shiloh

It’s easy to say you’d “do the right thing,” but sometimes that’s harder than you realize. In Shiloh, when Marty befriends a dog and realizes the pup is being abused and neglected, he knows the “right” thing to do is to get him some help... but what if the “right” thing to do means going up against someone scary with a gun? What if the “right” thing to do means stealing a dog? This is a story of friendship, love, and so much courage.

How to Steal a Dog

It’s a common theme for a dog to save you from sadness, but what if finding a dog — and its reward money — could save you, too? In How to Steal a Dog, Georgina is desperate for a new life after her father leaves and her family is evicted. When she sees a reward poster for a missing pup, she decides that stealing the “right” dog might be just what she needs to save herself and her family. What could possibly go wrong?

]]><![CDATA[Apparently I’m The “Marriage Ruiner”]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/apparently-im-the-marriage-ruinerhttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/apparently-im-the-marriage-ruinerTue, 26 May 2026 13:27:12 GMT
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Two years of being divorced has taught me that I possess mystical powers. Not enough to keep houseplants alive, but apparently enough to dismantle heterosexual marriages all across my small town.

Like most small towns, news and gossip travel fast, like a messy adult-only version of the telephone game. From my hairstylist to the moms on the baseball team to a friend of a friend who reportedly said, “You know she’s the reason her best friend left her husband, right?”

Sometimes it’s an ex-husband telling people I “got into his wife’s head.” Or my own ex-husband warning others I’m a bad influence.

“She’s a marriage ruiner. Bitter, angry, man-hating marriage ruiner.”

One friend’s off-and-on-again ex told her, “Every time you talk to her, we have problems. She’s trying to put a wedge between us. Don’t trust her.”

The message is pretty clear: a divorced woman is a dangerous woman. As if divorce were some contagious disease women in otherwise perfectly healthy, fulfilling marriages catch simply by spending enough time around me.

American culture has always had a very specific role for divorced women: cautionary tale or sexual threat. People become obsessed with assigning blame because it’s psychologically safer than admitting dissatisfaction might already exist inside their own homes.

The woman who supposedly gave up on marriage and ruined her family becomes both fascinating and dangerous to many still inside unhealthy ones. How quickly a divorced woman stops being treated like a person going through something painful and starts becoming a symbol on which anyone can project their insecurities and fears.

I understand why people need this version of the story. There has to be a villain. And in my experience, both personally and from what I hear from the women who confide in me, many husbands would rather blame an outside influence than examine their own role in the unraveling. Someone else has to become responsible for it.

And who’s easier to blame than the divorced woman who talks openly and honestly about why she left and what her life is like now? It's much easier to believe I somehow corrupted women than to sit with the possibility that they were already unhappy long before they found me, asking for a sympathetic ear and yearning for confirmation that what they were experiencing in their own marriages was real and worthy of anger and grief.

Friends, family, and acquaintances watched me try for years. They witnessed the therapy, crying, the emotional and verbal abuse, the making excuses and blaming myself. They watched me bend myself into increasingly smaller, caged versions of a woman trying to save her marriage for the kids. I kept convincing myself that if I could just communicate better, ask more gently, react less emotionally, need less altogether, maybe things would finally be joyful and calm and right.

By the time I left, it didn’t feel impulsive or dramatic. I knew in my bones it was the right decision. But I left with none of the things that make divorce look aspirational online. No financial cushion, no glorified come-up. I was a former stay-at-home mom with no job, no savings, three children, shared custody, a tiny rental apartment.

For many, the idea of leaving in my situation stopped feeling like some distant possibility reserved for braver women, wealthier women, or women with built-in support systems nearby.

“How did you do it?”

“How did you know?”

“How are you managing financially?”

And eventually:

“Can I tell you what’s happening in my marriage?”

I am a woman other women say uncomfortable things to in confidence and safety without fear of being minimized, brushed off, or gaslit. I validate their experiences and thought processes because I’m in it, too. Not because I have answers, but because I can sit in the truth of their unhappiness without rushing to defend marriage at all costs. They’re looking for proof they’re not insane for being unhappy, unfulfilled, scared, or angry.

We still reward mothers for self-sacrifice more than selfhood. The “good mother” is expected to endure, absorb, keep the family emotionally afloat no matter what it costs her personally.

I didn’t recruit anybody into divorce. I answered texts, picked up phone calls. I listened, validated, recommended books, podcasts, and therapists. Sometimes we just scream together. A “happy enough” marriage culture depends on women believing there’s no viable alternative.

The “marriage ruiner” narrative falls apart under even the slightest scrutiny because the reality underneath it is painfully ordinary: when people witness someone else survive a major life change, possibilities that once felt unimaginable begin to feel conceivable.

Maybe marriages don’t fall apart because women get divorced and start telling the truth about how and why. Maybe they fall apart because once women say, “I’m unhappy,” everyone else realizes they’re allowed to say it too.

Apparently I’m powerful enough to dismantle marriages simply by speaking honestly about my own life. Which says far less about me than it does about how many marriages rely on women staying silent inside them.

]]><![CDATA[65 Bougie-As-Hell Things Under $25 That Are So Darn Genius]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/bougie-as-hell-things-under-25-that-are-so-darn-geniushttps://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/bougie-as-hell-things-under-25-that-are-so-darn-geniusMon, 25 May 2026 11:30:24 GMT

There’s nothing better than finding something that looks super expensive, solves a surprisingly specific problem, and costs less than you’d expect. But Amazon is actually full of these elusive upgrades that are both bougie and clever — as long as you know where to look. Luckily for you, we do. From eccentric and expensive-looking lighting to unexpected storage hacks that totally change the game, here are our favorite bougie things that — shockingly — won’t break the bank.

A Peel-Off Gel Base Coat That Doesn’t Require Soaking To Remove

If you love the look of a gel manicure but hate how labor-intensive it is to remove, check out this peel-off base coat. After prepping, apply a thin layer to your nail, cure it with a UV lamp, then apply your gel polish as normal. Now, when it’s time to come off, it peels in one layer easily and quickly without damaging your natural nails — and no soaking required.

Cute Travel Containers For Hair Ties, Cotton Swabs, & More

These small containers are perfect for traveling with toiletries or keeping your bathroom drawers organized. They have an attractive grooved pattern, and the transparent lids make it easy to see when supplies are running low. They come in four pastel colors, each with a silicone seal that helps keep everything inside. They’re perfect for hair ties, cotton swabs, floss picks, and more.

A Tissue Box That Mounts To Your Car’s Sun Visor

This slim tissue holder mounts to your car’s sun visor so tissues are always easily accessible when you’re on the road. It has a faux leather exterior that looks expensive and high-end, and it dispenses one tissue at a time with just a gentle tug. It’s easy to remove and refill, so you’re never caught without the essentials on the road.

Earlobe Support Patches To Prevent Sagging & Ripping

If your ears feel weighed down whenever you wear large, heavy earrings, these patches are about to change your life. The transparent discs stick to the back of your ear so you’ll barely even know they’re there. Just poke the earring post through your piercing and straight through the patch to create extra support that keeps your earlobe from sagging.

Headrest Storage Hooks With Adorable Bow Accents

Keep your car organized and prevent bags from spilling all over the place while you’re driving with these headrest hooks. What’s especially useful is that they store your purse so it’s out of the way but also easily accessible. And for a touch of bouginess, they have these adorable little bow accents that add so much charm to your car.

A Silicone Range Cover That Adds Counter Space & Protects The Stove

If you have an electric stovetop, you need this silicone cover. Not only does it protect the glass from scratches or cracks while you’re not using it, but it also adds a ton of bonus counter space for meal prepping, drying dishes, and more. It’s heat resistant, waterproof, and safe to toss in the dishwasher to clean.

A Locket-Style Necklace Designed To Hold Everyday Pills

This might look like a regular locket from the outside, but it’s actually the cutest and most fashionable pill case you’ve ever seen. You can wear it around your neck and it blends seamlessly into your existing jewelry stack. And, when you’re out and about, it stores your pills and supplements so you have easy, discreet access when you need it.

A Multipack Of Insulating Sleeves To Fit All Your Iced Coffee Cups

These reusable insulated sleeves come in three sizes to cover your favorite to-go iced beverages, no matter how much caffeine you need. Made of thick neoprene, the insulators cover the entire cup to absorb condensation, keep your hands dry, and help maintain your drink’s temperature. Plus, they come in dozens of vibrant patterns to fit any vibe.

A Palo Santo Incense Burner That Looks Like You Brought It Home From Vacation

This palo santo incense burner looks like the kind of thing you find at a small shop on a far-flung vacation. Made of ceramic, it has a chimney-style design that allows the scent of candles, palo santo sticks, or incense to float upward and fill your space. But, since the sticks sit inside the base, there’s no messy ash to worry about.

A Retractable Car Charger That Projects A Glowing, Starry Sky

This car charger has so many different uses, you’ll be shocked you’ve gone so long without it. First, it has Lighting and USB-C cables that expand up to 2.6 feet and retract back into the base when you’re not using them to avoid tangled cords. Second, it has an optional built-in projector that turns your car into a starry night scene to really set the driving vibe.

A Collection Of Flower Spoons Perfect For Tea, Coffee, & Ice Cream

Made of lightweight stainless steel, these small spoons come in eight different floral shapes that are bound to impress your guests. They’re the perfect size for things like tea, coffee, ice cream, yogurt, oatmeal, and more. Plus, each one has an elegant mirrored finish and is super easy to clean in the dishwasher.

A Popular Portable Fan With 5 Cooling Speeds

Whether you’re at a baseball game, in a stuffy office, or traveling, this handheld portable fan will keep you cool despite its compact size. It has five speeds to choose from and it works super quietly so it won’t disturb you or anyone around you. On a single charge, it can work for up to 16 hours at a time. No wonder it’s earned an impressive 4.7-star overall rating from nearly 10,000 shoppers.

Espresso Cooling Balls For Even Colder Iced Coffee

These espresso cooling balls are absolutely genius for anyone who likes their caffeine fix on the cold side. Store them in the freezer and balance one over your espresso cup on the included steel rack as you brew. As the espresso drips out of the machine and hits the cold steel, it’ll cool the coffee by 80 to 100 degrees Fahrenheit without diluting it or lessening the taste.

3D Floral Nail Stickers For Salon-Worthy Designs

Create salon-worthy nail art at home with these three-dimensional floral stickers. Featuring all kinds of flowers and greenery, the decals are surprisingly thick so they look much more expensive than something you did in your living room. Apply nail polish first, add the sticker, then use your clear top coat to seal them on.

Window Film That Adds Privacy While Creating A Rainbow Of Natural Light

This window film is the great way to get some privacy without blocking your space’s gorgeous natural light. It has a stained glass design that actually reflects the light in a rainbow all over your space while blurring any outside views. It can be cut to size and applies with only water and static cling, so it’s easy to install and remove.

A File Organizer Bag To Store All Your Essential Paper Documents

If your essential household paperwork lives in a messy drawer, this storage bag is for you. It has built-in metal brackets to slide file folders back and forth for easy access to everything inside. The front pockets are great for storing pens, cards, and other small writing or crafting accessories. And there’s even a label on the outside so you know exactly what’s inside.

Anti-Theft Zipper Clips That Help Protect Your Valuables While Traveling

These zipper clips are essential for anyone traveling or commuting regularly because of the way they help prevent pickpocketing and theft. The double-sided carabiner-style buckle is about the size of a quarter and clips to both of the zippers of a bag, attaching them together to make it harder for strangers to open when you’re not paying attention. Each order comes with four in a pack to keep all your luggage secure.

Hanging Planters With Self-Watering Technology

These hanging planters decorate your front porch or balcony while making it easier than ever to keep your plants healthy with their self-watering design. Add up to two weeks worth of water into the base of the planter, then put your plant in the elevated internal compartment. The cotton rope absorbs water from the bottom to keep the soil moist without overwatering.

A Crystal Night-Light With 4 Adjustable Color Temperatures

This night-light features a crystal design that offers a funky, geometric reflection on the wall that’s way more interesting than an ordinary light. It has four color temperatures to choose from and it automatically turns on at dusk and off at dawn so you always have light when you need it(and you won’t waste power when you don’t).

Keyhole Lights To Help You See The Door Lock At Night

These keyhole lights automatically turn on when they sense you approaching your door, illuminating your keyhole or touch pad so you can unlock your door with ease in the dark. They mount over the lock in seconds with screws or stickers and they’re battery powered so you won’t need to worry about recharging.

A Bird-Shaped Cordless Lamp With Chic Wooden Accents

With three color temperatures, this lamp is the perfect bedside accessory to light up your space while you’re reading or getting ready. And thanks to the adjustable dimmer, it won’t be too bright or harsh on your eyes. The wooden accents throughout make it feel super bougie and help the lamp to blend in with a range of decor styles.

Magnetic Cable Clips That Keep Your Cords Tidy & Accessible

These magnetic cable clips mount to your desk, nightstand, or entertainment center to keep your wires and chargers close at hand — even when you’re not using them. They come in a few different colors to help you distinguish your cables at a glance, and the magnetic closure is secure without damaging or squishing your cables. Just stick them in place using the adhesive backing.

A Tabletop Faucet That Dispenses Water From Those 5-Gallon Jugs

This tabletop faucet attaches to those bulky, multi-gallon water bottles, giving you easy access to the water without worrying about lifting or spilling the giant container. With seven dispensing levels to choose from, it’s super quiet so it doesn’t disturb your space, and it can pump directly into your cup or tumbler using the convenient tube hose.

A Fluted Cable Management Box That Hides Messy Wire Clusters

Hide your extension cord and the mess of wires that come with it inside this cable management box. It has a chic ribbed design that can effortlessly blend into your space’s decor. With two wire entry-exit slots, it’s also well ventilated to help ensure nothing inside overheats. Plus the top can double as a shelf to hold whatever is charging below.

A Comfy Wedge Pillow With A Built-In Pocket For Your Phone

Upgrade your bed to something hotel-worthy without spending big bucks using this wedge pillow. Not only does it help cover any gap between the mattress and headboard, but it’s also made with a high-density, spongy material that feels like sleeping on a cloud. On top of that, it has a little pocket on the side to store your phone or glasses.

Dainty Claw Clips In The Shape Of Gorgeous Ballet-Style Bows

Get style and function in one item with these claw clips shaped like adorable ballerina bows. Each clip has a wide opening that clasps around your hair firmly without damaging your strands when you’re ready to remove it. They work on all hair types and make your hair look like it’s being held up by a gorgeous dainty bow.

A Floral Necklace That Holds An Essential Oil Diffuser Stone

Create a signature scent you can physically wear around your neck with this diffuser necklace. It comes with seven different colored lava stones you can switch out to match your outfit. And the stone absorbs your favorite essential oils to keep you smelling amazing no matter where you are. The dainty silver chain and lotus-inspired design elevate any look, too.

A Motion-Activated Toilet Bowl Light With 8 Colors

This light hangs underneath the seat of your toilet bowl, automatically turning on when you lift the lid. This way, you can use the bathroom in the middle of the night without having to turn the harsh overhead light on. It has eight color options — including a color-changing mode for rave vibes — and it doesn’t disturb the seat or the lid when it’s installed.

A Travel Bag To Neatly Store Your Cords, Wires, & Chargers

If you’re constantly digging through your carry-on or work tote for your headphones, chargers, or other wires, you need this organizer bag. It has multiple large and small mesh pockets that are perfect for chargers, external batteries, wired headphones, AirPods, and so much more. With dedicated slots for all your tech accessories, this case makes every item easy to find when you need it.

Car Seat Gap Fillers That Double As Storage For Your Phone

These car gap fillers slide in the black hole of space between the driver’s and passenger’s seats and the center console. Not only do they prevent things from falling and getting lost in the gap, but they also offer a great spot to store your keys, phone, charging cables, and other car necessities thanks to the built-in shelf on top.

A Magnetic Necklace Clasp That’s So Easy To Put On & Take Off

This necklace clasp has a magnetic seal that makes it easier than ever to open and close jewelry with a snap. It has two lobster clips that attach to the closures of your favorite necklaces so you can get them on and off with less fussing. The clasp comes plated in 14-karat gold for a luxe touch that blends seamlessly into your necklace — you won’t even know it’s there.

Vase Magnets That Come With Tiny Faux Flowers

With tiny, crystal-inspired vases and colorful faux flowers, these fridge magnets add a whimsical touch to the invitations, reminders, and photos on your refrigerator. The 3D design adds lots of realistic detail that feels fun yet elevated. And despite their small size, they’re shockingly load-bearing and durable.

A Crochet Hanging Plant That Holds Your Favorite Scent

This crochet plant hangs from your rearview mirror and holds a tiny glass bottle you can fill with an essential oil of your choice. This way, it keeps your car smelling amazing despite gym bags or leftovers. It even has adorable strawberries dangling off the sides which add a fun, whimsical touch.

A Heated Eyelash Curler For A Professional Lash Look

This eyelash curler heats up to 131 degrees Fahrenheit and works like a hair tool to bend your lashes without pain or burning. It has a small and compact design that works in seconds to give you salon-worthy lashes you can easily add mascara to for a show-stopping look. It’s gentle while still offering effortless styling.

A Travel Makeup Bag That Opens Completely Flat For Easy Access Inside

This travel makeup bag is the easiest “add to cart” you’ll find. Not only does its faux leather exterior look expensive in your suitcase, but this organizer also has so many internal pouches, compartments, and zipper pockets to keep all your makeup and skin care easily accessible. And the best part is that it zips along a diagonal, allowing it to lie fully flat when opened.

A Waterproof Shower Lamp For Relaxing Bathroom Vibes

Set a warm and relaxing tone in your bathroom with this waterproof shower lamp. It has 16 vibrant colors and six adjustable brightness levels that can help you transform your bathroom into a spa. It’s totally waterproof and it can be controlled with a remote if you want to change the settings while you lounge in the bath.

An Essential Oil Diffuser With Steam That Looks Like Flames

This essential oil diffuser has everything. First, the bottom is filled with Himalayan salt crystals that emit negative ions into your environment. Second, you can add your favorite essential oils and the diffuser will spread the scent throughout your space in minutes. And third, the oil-infused steam has a lighting element that makes it look like a cool flame.

Motion-Activated Lights With A Warm, Soothing Glow

What makes these puck lights feel bougie is that they’re battery powered so they can light up a space that doesn’t have easy access to an outlet. They let off a warm-white glow that’s great for nighttime, and they’re motion activated so they automatically turn on when you’re close and need a little bit of light.

A Mug Warmer With 3 Temperature Settings For All-Day Coffee & Tea

If you don’t have a mug warmer, you’re doing your morning coffee or tea wrong. This one has three different temperature settings to keep your beverage at the best temperature for you. It automatically shuts off after four hours, so you don’t need to worry about leaving it on unattended. Better yet, it works with any flat-bottomed mug.

Eyeglass Holders With A Faux Leather Exterior & Plush Fur Interior

With a plush faux fur interior and an expensive-looking faux leather exterior, this holder is the perfect spot to store your glasses or sunglasses to prevent them from getting scratched or dirty when you’re not wearing them. They keep your glasses upright and stable and they look bougie as hell on your nightstand, desk, or side table. Plus, since there’s no case to open, your frames are easy to grab.

Metal Flower Arrangement Grids That Create Stunning Bouquets

Your bouquets will always look perfect when you use these metal arrangement grids. They rest at the top of your vase and feature divided sections that help stems stay separate and upright. This way, your bouquet has that professional look even if the flowers are from the grocery store or the garden.

Push-Top Trash Cans To Keep Your Car Feeling Clean & Expensive

From gum wrappers to parking garage tickets, having litter scattered all over your car instantly makes it look and feel cheap. These compact trash cans help solve that problem without taking up a ton of space. They attach to the door and have a spring-push lid that prevents things (including odors) from getting out while you’re driving.

A Desk Lamp That Looks Like A Flower With A Bendable Stem

With its flower petal shade and bendable stem, this light can sit on a desk, hang around your neck, or join a bouquet of dried or faux flowers to give you light and decor in one fell swoop. The brightness is totally adjustable, and on a single charge, it can be used for up to eight hours at a time — perfect for anything from nighttime reading to daytime working.

Shaggy Hand Towels That Look Like Cute Hedgehogs

These shaggy hand towels are made of buttery soft chenille that’s absorbent, quick drying, and so satisfying to use — the fringe effect lets the material get into the nooks and crannies of your hand. They come with four different colors and have built-in hanging hooks to help them dry even faster.

A Lid & Spoon Rest That Keeps Drips & Spills Off Your Countertop

Sure, a lid and spoon rest might not sound bougie as hell, but what’s bougier than keeping your kitchen looking spic and span? Place this on your stovetop or counter and it’ll give you the perfect spot to store your utensils and lids while you’re cooking, collecting drips and spills so your countertop stays mess free.

A Handheld Cordless Car Vacuum That Cleans Crevices In Minutes

Don’t be fooled by how compact this handheld cordless vacuum is — it’s shockingly powerful for its size. The ultra-strong suction with two speeds picks up crumbs, dust, sand, dirt, hair, and more in seconds. And for some extra versatility, it comes with multiple attachable heads like a stick and brush to get inside your car’s nooks and crannies easily.

A Sensory Journal Set With Essential Oil-Scented Pens & Highlighters

This journal, pen, and highlighter set was designed to help you clear your mind, ease stress, and encourage concentration while you’re working or writing. The cover of the journal has a maze path that’s super satisfying to trace, along with embossed pages for even more tactile engagement. The pens have mesmerizing lava lamp barrels, while the highlighters are scented with essential oil blends for a full sensory experience.

Purse Hooks That Keep Your Bags Off Dirty Floors

Don’t toss your nice purse or backpack on the floor when you’re at a bar or restaurant. Instead, check out these table hooks. With a compact design, each one is super easy to keep on hand so you can use it anywhere. All you have to do is put the weighted part on top of a flat surface and hang your purse on the attached hook below.

A Stovetop Shelf That’s Perfect For Storing Cooking Essentials

Keep your salts, spices, and oils close at hand when you’re cooking with this silicone stovetop shelf. It has three divided compartments with raised edges that keep everything secure. It attaches to the top of your stove’s control panel with magnets. Plus, it’s a great way to save space, taking advantage of unexpected storage and keeping your essentials handy.

A Wall-Mounted Hamper That Collapses Into The Wall To Save Space

This hamper is bougie as hell because of how ingenious it is. First, you can remove it by the double handles to easily transport laundry to the washing room. Second, it’s wall mounted so you can store shoes or laundry essentials underneath it. And third, it collapses flush against the wall when you’re not using it to save space.

A Stretchy Silicone Laptop Sleeve To Hold A Mouse, Charger, & More

This sleeve has a stretchy, silicone design and uses adhesive tape to secure to the top of your laptop to store all the accessories: chargers, a mouse, pens, your phone, and more. It has three divided pockets, yet it’s so slim that when it’s empty, you’ll barely recognize it’s there.

An Electric Lighter That Works In Wind & Rain

This electric lighter is windproof and splash proof, allowing it to work at home or when you’re outdoors to light candles or build a fire. It doesn’t have a live flame and instead uses an electrical current to create a spark. It doesn’t skimp on helpful features, either, since the ignition button is protected by a safety switch and it charges via USB with battery indicator lights that tell you when power is running low.

A 3-Tier Organizer To Store All Your Medicine & Bandages

If your medicine cabinet or the area under your sink is cluttered with bottles of pills, bandage containers, and other essentials, this medicine organizer is about to totally change the game. It has three tiers of storage so you can separate everything by urgency — most-used items on top, refills down below. Plus, it has a handle that makes moving it around a total breeze.

Colorful Nesting Measuring Cups That Look Designer

Between the colorful patterns, nesting design, and adorable shape, these stoneware measuring cups look straight out of trendy designer boutique. Each size is a different color to make it easy to grab the one you need at a glance, and they have labeled markings inside from 0.25 cup to 1.5 cup.

A Silicone Mat That Protects Your Washer & Dryer From Sticky Spills

Place this silicone mat above your washer or dryer and protect your expensive appliance from scratches and sticky spills. It’s the perfect spot to store your detergent, fabric softener, and other laundry essentials. This mat is built to take whatever you can throw at it, since it’s waterproof, heat resistant, and super durable even when you spill a little detergent on it.

Metallic Markers That Make Any Kind Of Writing Way More Fun

These metallic markers come in 12 vibrant colors that make drawing and writing — no matter what kind — way more engaging. Each one has a medium tip for dispensing highly pigmented color on paper, fabric, stone, plastic, metal, wood, and so much more. Plus they dry quickly to prevent smudging and bleeding through.

A Sunflower-Shaped Cushion To Make Any Chair Way More Comfortable

This sunflower-shaped cushion is a fun way to make any chair more cozy while giving yourself an endorphin boost of sunshine (even on a rainy day). It’s stuffed with cotton that helps maintain its shape even after long periods of sitting. Plus, the plush cover is buttery soft against your hands and skin.

A Charging Station For Your Phone, Watch, & Headphones

Declutter your desk or nightstand by swapping out the small collection of charging cables you need every day with this three-in-one charger. It’s designed specifically to charge MagSafe phones, Apple Watches, and Apple AirPods all on one device. Plus, it holds your phone at an ergonomic viewing angle so you can easily stream a show or snooze your alarm in the morning.

A Compact Lamp That Projects A Water Ripple Effect Around Your Space

Between the 16 color, six brightness levels, and four dynamic lighting modes, you’re guaranteed to find something for every occasion with this night-light. It has a square base with a textured shade that projects a water ripple effect similar to the Northern Lights around your room. Plus it’s controlled with a remote for easy operation.

A Mesh Net That Keeps Your Purse Handy When Driving

This mesh net sits between the driver’s and passenger’s seats in your car, giving you the perfect designated spot to store your purse so it’s handy and secure while you’re driving. It installs in seconds and keeps your bag upright to prevent things from spilling out if you hit a bump or stop short.

Mug Organizers That Help Cups Stack Neatly In The Cabinet

These small silicone organizers sit on the rim of a mug or glass, acting as a secure buffer so you can stack another one on top of it. This way, the glasses don’t bang or hit each other and you can maximize the use of vertical storage space inside your cabinet. No more unwieldy, nested towers of glassware.

Self-Watering Globes That Keep Your Plants Optimally Hydrated

Fill these glass globes with water, stick the bottom stake directly into the soil of your indoor or outdoor plant, and each one slowly releases water as the plant needs it. This way, you can prevent over-watering while also eliminating the need for everyday maintenance. They’re particularly great for keeping your plants alive while you’re on vacation.

Pastel Pens With Ultra-Smooth, No-Bleed Tips

These premium gel pens not only have the cutest ombré pastel design, but they also have ultra-fine precision gel tips that leave you with a smooth, satisfying swoosh as you move them across the page. They don’t smudge, bleed, or leak, and they have strong metal clips to attach them to your notebook, paper, backpack, or more.

Wide Straws That Prevent The Need To Pucker Your Lips

These straws have a wide mouth designed to be used while your lips are flat, not puckered, which can feel more comfortable and natural. The tips are made of food-grade silicone that can be removed to clean the long stainless steel straws. The whole set is dishwasher safe and even comes with straw cleaners and a storage pouch.

Toilet Bolt Covers That Elevate Your Bathroom In An Unexpected Way

These bird-shaped toilet bolt covers feel so bougie because they’re such an unexpected way to add both decor and function to your bathroom. The ceramic caps sit right on top of the bolts, covering the rust, grease, grime, and unsightly bolt in seconds without any tricky installation. The bird figurines feature the prettiest metallic gold trim, too.

]]><![CDATA[65 Weird-As-Hell Things For Women That Are Pure Genius]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/weird-as-hell-things-for-women-that-are-pure-geniushttps://www.scarymommy.com/shopping/weird-as-hell-things-for-women-that-are-pure-geniusSun, 24 May 2026 21:01:26 GMT

There are useful things, and then there are slightly unhinged inventions that somehow seem to make daily life much better. You know, those things that make you ask, “Wait, why didn’t this exist sooner?” From practical problem solvers you never knew you needed to oddly cool gadgets that end up feeling essential, these finds sit comfortably in the sweet spot between bizarre and brilliant. Ahead, we curated a lineup of weird-as-hell discoveries that are surprisingly clever, strangely satisfying, and genuinely useful.

A Leaf-Shaped Weighted Lap Blanket That Feels Like A Hug

This 7-pound weighted blanket is the cozy addition you need for your home. It has tiny little beads that weigh it down, giving you soothing pressure for tense muscles, sore shoulders, or just that “I need a moment” kind of day. It comes with a carry bag and storage box, so you can roll it up and take your little slice of calm wherever you go.

A Stitch Gun That Makes Quick Clothing Fixes Super Easy

This clothing stitch gun is here to level up your wardrobe. Whether it’s a loose button, a small tear, or something in between, this handy tool gets the job done fast. Each kit comes complete with 1,000 black fasteners, 1,000 white fasteners, and six needles, giving you everything you need for quick repairs at home. To use it, just insert the fastener, pass the needle through your item, and squeeze the grip. Finally, your garment will look as good as new.

A Color-Changing Foundation Stick That Matches Your Skin

This color-changing foundation stick is just so cool. It starts as a soft white balm, then turns into a silky, tinted cream as you blend. Not to mention, the dual-ended design is another win. One end holds the foundation, while the other features a detachable brush for an even finish every time. As one shopper gushed, “Love Love love. I always hate putting on foundation, but I love how easy this is. Blends easily and looks so natural. Doesn't cake last all day.”

A Heated Eyelash Curler That Creates Long-Lasting Curls

Do your lashes need a little boost? This heated eyelash curler makes it easy and fast. It heats up in just eight seconds, so you can get reliable curls without fiddling around with a traditional curler. Small and rechargeable, it’s perfect for touch-ups on the go or tossing in your travel bag. Plus, the heat lifts and shapes lashes without tugging or damaging them, making it safe and easy to use.

Ear Patches That Let You Wear Heavy Earrings Without Discomfort

These earlobe support patches lift, support, and protect your lobes while still letting you wear the big, bold statement pieces you love. Stick them on behind your ears, pop in your favorite earrings, and go. Once you’re done, peel them off, and you won’t even notice they were there. As one fan raved, “Okay, you think you don't need these, but you do. Many times I've worn earrings that kept pulling forward, almost out of my ear, either from weight or size; these hold them in place perfectly. They just give them extra support!”

Magnetic Lashes That Go On In Seconds & Don’t Require Glue

If glue-free false eyelashes sound like a dream, these magnetic lashes are just what you need. Each set comes with a handy applicator so you can line them up along your lash line without messy glue or irritating eyeliner. The built-in magnets hold strong, keeping lashes in place all day. With four magnets per lash, they’re easy to pop on and take off, reusable up to 20 times (!), and are gentle enough for sensitive eyes.

A Caffeine Eye Balm Stick That Brightens & Hydrates

Tired eyes, meet your new favorite it-looks-like-you-slept-eight-hours shortcut. This under-eye balm stick uses caffeine and retinol to help reduce the look of dark circles and puffiness, giving the under-eye area a refresh in seconds. The cooling, hydrating formula also soothes tired skin while adding a bit of firmness and moisture courtesy of ceramides and niacinamide. As one shopper gushed, “The color is so natural — it blends perfectly under my makeup without looking cakey or heavy. [...] Since I started using it, my concealer applies like a dream and lasts so much longer.”

Curved Nail Clippers That Can Tackle Thick & Ingrown Toenails

If your regular nail clippers struggle with thicker or ingrown toenails, this special nail clipper is designed to handle them. The slant-curved blade and pointed tip make it easier to reach into the nail groove and trim just how you want, instead of awkwardly trying to angle normal clippers into place. It’s a small tweak, but it makes a noticeable difference when dealing with nails that grow inward or are harder to cut.

A Peel-Off Lip Liner Stain That Lasts All Day

Finally, it’s time to skip constant touch-ups thanks to this peel-off lip liner stain. It locks in a stunning matte color that’s waterproof, smudge proof, and budge free, even through meals, drinks, and long nights. It’s also quick and easy: Swipe it on, let it set for 10 minutes, then peel or wipe away to reveal a high-pigment stain that lasts for up to 24 hours. Done and done.

A Squishy Hair Claw Clip That’s Great For Thick Hair

This squishy claw clip is a huge game changer for people with thick hair. Made from flexible material, the inward-curving teeth keep pressure off your scalp, while the unique shape adapts to whatever you’re leaning against. “I wore my Mello clip for a month to give it some good wear before writing my review, and I’ve decided: I think this clip is perfection!” wrote one shopper. “As someone with thick hair, it gathers all of it with ease, and I don’t feel like it’s going to snap. I find myself reaching for this clip over others every time.”

A Dermaplaning Kit With A Hair Identifier Spray

Tired of missing those tiny, hard-to-see facial hairs? This dermaplaning kit will be a game-changer. It comes with four razors, and a clever hair identifier spray that works like a flashlight for your face. Spray it on, and it makes even the tiniest hairs pop so you can shave and remove them with precision.

Moisturizing Socks That Fix Dry, Cracked Heels Overnight

If your heels are dry and cracked, these moisturizing sleep socks have you covered (literally). Infused with jojoba oil, olive oil, and vitamin E, they give your feet moisture while you sleep. The fuzzy open-toe design keeps them comfy all night, so you don't overheat. Perfect for an at-home pedicure or just treating yourself, they’re reusable, washable, and come in regular and wide fits.

An Insulated Cup Sleeve That Keeps Drinks Cold & Hands Dry

For those who need iced coffee or ice-cold soda on the daily, this cute cup sleeve is a game changer. It keeps drinks cold longer (reviewers report up to six hours) while protecting your hands from that annoying condensation. Bonus points: It’s reusable, washable, and eco-friendly, so you’re saving money and ditching disposable sleeves all while sipping in style.

A Magnetic Nail Set That Makes DIY Nail Art Easy

DIY nail art is no easy feat, but this magnet nail tool set makes it a breeze. Just apply magnetic gel polish and hover the magnet over your nail to pull the pigment into place. It’s great for experimenting with nail art without expensive salon trips and turning a basic manicure into something more fun.

Forehead Wrinkle Patches That Aim To Smooth Fine Lines

These forehead patches are an easy, non-invasive tool to address wrinkles. Made to target fine lines and deep creases, they work overtime to help smooth the skin between your brows and across your forehead thanks to the addition of vitamin E and collagen. Reviewers were especially pleased with how well they stay in place overnight, too.

Steamy, Self-Heating Eye Masks That Soothe & Relax

These steam eye masks are like a little spa getaway for your eyes. The self-heating design warms up, which helps to relieve dryness and puffiness, all while giving your under-eyes a soothing moisture boost. Each mask lasts up to an hour, so you can really sink into the warm comfort without worrying about it cooling off too fast. They work great on their own or layered over eye creams to really lock in hydration.

Spinner Rings That Let You Fidget Without Anyone Noticing

This set of fidget rings is designed to keep your hands busy in a very low-key way. Each ring has a smooth spinner that rotates, giving you something to focus on during stressful moments. They’re great to wear alone or stacked, doubling as everyday jewelry while providing a subtle way to stay calm and focused throughout the day.

A Cushy Lap Pillow That Turns Any Cozy Spot Into A Functional Workspace

This lap pillow is all you need to make working from home a whole lot better. The soft U-shaped design features built-in arm support, reducing pressure so you can relax longer. You can place your laptop on the portion that fits across your lap, or use it to rest your tablet, or a book.

A Car Lip Balm Holder That Keeps Products From Melting

This little adhesive lip balm holder is a surprisingly useful car accessory. Made to keep your lip balm upright and where it belongs, it helps to prevent melted messes by keeping it all contained (rather than leaking toward the cap). Plus, it gets less direct heat exposure this way rather than lying flat against a hot surface. The small size fits most lip balms and lipsticks, while the rhinestone bling is sure to add some sparkle to your dashboard or console.

Lifting Masks Designed To Firm, Lift, & Define Your Jawline

If you’re looking to shake up your beauty routine, this lifting mask set has your back (and chin and neck). Made with retinol and hyaluronic acid, it hugs your face and neck while helping to firm skin, reduce wrinkles, and give a subtle lift. Slip it on, chill for a bit, and let the mask do its thing while you read, scroll, or just enjoy some me time.

Expanding Facial Sponges That Cleanse & Exfoliate

Made from 100% natural cellulose, these heart-shaped facial sponges are gentle on all skin types while still delivering a deep, refreshing clean. They’re perfect for daily face washes, exfoliating, removing masks, or wiping off makeup. They expand with water into palm-sized sponges, making them so easy to toss in your bag or purse. With 50 in a pack, they’ve got you covered whenever you need a refresh.

Curly Hair Root Clips That Deliver Big Volume

Are flat roots your nemesis? These root-lifting hair clips are here to save the day. Made with double rows of teeth, they grab hair at the roots to create long-lasting volume (think: bouncy curls). Clip them in while blow drying, diffusing, or even air drying, and your style will have great lift and life in no time. Plus, they’re lightweight and gentle, so curls stay secure without tangling.

A Waistband Tool That Lets You Tuck, Crop, & Style In Seconds

Anyone who loves oversized sweaters and tops will appreciate how this waistband tool lets you customize your wardrobe. It works like a charm to tuck and shape shirts and sweaters in seconds, giving you a polished, cropped look without having to do any work. Light, stretchy, and surprisingly secure, it holds everything in place all day (even heavy sweatshirts) while staying comfortable and barely noticeable.

A Round Loofah Shower Mat That Drains & Stays Put

Forget stepping onto a cold, slippery shower floor thanks to this loofah shower mat. The soft, cushy texture will feel plush under your feet, adding a little spa-like twist to your daily routine. With a smart center drain hole and lattice-bottom design, water passes right through, so you won’t have to deal with gross buildup. Plus, the nonslip layer keeps it in place to help you avoid mid-shampoo slip scares.

Mini Makeup Bags That Keep Small Items Organized

This set of mini cosmetic pouches is here to keep you ultra organized. They’re made with waterproof faux leather and have a soft suede-like lining that keeps jewelry and other small essentials safe from scratches. They’re ideal for storing whatever little items are always slipping to the bottom of your bag. Plus, the snap-top makes grabbing stuff easy, and they’re cute enough to toss in any purse.

A pH-Activated Lip Balm That Turns Your Lips A Custom Shade

Believe it or not, this little lip balm goes beyond basic moisture. It has a pH-activated color-changing technology that helps it adapt to your lips, creating a completely personalized shade, plus a hint of glimmer. As one shopper raved, “This is a no-fail color match to your own skin tone! I love it so much. Feels great on your lips, adding moisture, not grease. Definitely doesn’t dry out your lips ever!” Clean, vegan, and cruelty free, it makes for a reliable everyday balm.

A Retractable Clothesline That Holds Heavy Items Without Sagging

Make laundry day easier with this clever retractable clothesline. It stretches up to 15 feet and is strong enough to hold up to 40 pounds of clothes, all without sagging. Made from stainless steel and featuring a waterproof case, it’s made for both indoors and out. When you’re not using it, just retract it back into its tiny casing, and it basically disappears.

A Baseball Cap That Lets You Rock A High Ponytail

This ponytail-friendly baseball cap is made for bad hair days and lazy mornings alike. The cotton keeps it comfy and breathable, while the ponytail slot lets thick or thin hair slide right through without messing up your look. The adjustable band makes it fit just right, and the lightweight, casual design makes it perfect for the beach, pool, park, or any outdoor activity.

Magnetic Necklace Clasps That Stay Put But Are Easy To Remove

Struggling with tiny clasps or long nails? These magnetic necklace closures will make things so much easier. Each clasp is made with strong magnets that snap together, so putting on your favorite necklaces and bracelets won’t require any more fumbling or twisting your fingers. Made from sturdy silver-plated metal, they’re built to last without turning your skin green or causing irritation.

A Hairbrush Cleaner Tool That Actually Gets All The Gunk Out

Cleaning your hairbrush is one of those tasks everyone avoids — that is, until you have this helpful hairbrush cleaning tool. This funky-looking brush has two sides: one with a metal pick to pull out trapped hair, and another with a set of bristles to get rid of buildup, lint, and leftover product. It’s lightweight, easy to hold, and works on everything from dense bristle brushes to wide-tooth combs.

A Light-Up Car Vanity Mirror With Adjustable Brightness

Doing your makeup in the car just got a major upgrade. This visor mirror has 60 LED lights and three lighting modes, so you can switch between bright, warm, or natural light depending on how much glow you need. It’s dimmable, too, with touch controls that let you adjust brightness or change lighting with a quick tap. Plus, it remembers your last setting. The result? Your car will be a mini glam station with actually good lighting.

A Flower-Shaped Push-To-Start Button Cover

This little push-to-start cover is both practical and cute. Easy to install with a sticky backing, it’s a small detail that makes your setup feel a lot more fun and personalized. One shopper was a huge fan of it, writing, “Cute. I love being able to just push this. My push-to-start is by the steering wheel, so this sticking out helps a lot when it comes to seeing the button. Durable, [and] didn’t fall off in the heat.”

A Cat-Shaped Ring Holder That Keeps Jewelry Organized

How cute is this little cat ring holder? Small but mighty, it holds up to 10 rings, keeping them organized and easy to grab without digging through a messy jewelry box. The velvet-padded base helps protect your rings from scratches, while the cute cat shape adds a fun touch to your nightstand or vanity. Small, simple, and actually useful, it’ll keep your jewelry exactly where you need it.

A Ring Adjuster That Keeps Your Rings Secure

This pack of ring adjusters is small but effective, helping loose rings fit just right. Each pack comes with 12 clear, flexible guards that wrap around the band, tightening the fit so your rings stay put. They’re soft, comfortable, and basically invisible once they’re on. As one shopper wrote, “Saved me from having to size a ring. Just trim to fit your preference and wrap onto the ring.”

A Cat-Shaped Heating Pad That Helps With Aches & Cramps

This little cat heating pad is cute, cozy, and actually useful. Pop it in the microwave for about a minute, and it gives off a comforting, soothing heat that helps with everything from cramps to sore shoulders and tight muscles. The inside is filled with flaxseed and a hint of lavender, so it’s more relaxing than your classic heating pad. It’s also cordless, which makes it easy to move around wherever you need it. P.S. It also comes in different cat breeds.

An Ear-Piercing Pillow That Lets Side Sleepers Rest Comfortably

Fresh piercings or sore ears keeping you up? This O-shaped ear piercing pillow has a perfectly sized hole that cradles your ear while you snooze, so you won’t wake up feeling like your ear has been through a wrestling match. The cotton fabric is soft and breathable, the fill is plush but adjustable thanks to a hidden zipper, and yes — it’s machine washable.

A Satin Heatless Curler Set That Keeps Hair Bouncy & Protected

Wake up to fabulous waves when you have this satin heatless curler set. It comes with a curling rod and two matching scrunchies, letting you style your hair overnight without any heat or damage. Just wrap your hair around the flexible rods, secure it with a scrunchie, and let it work its magic while you rest. Beauty sleep, here you come.

A Caffeine Butt Mask That Hydrates & Smooths Your Behind

Give your behind some well-deserved love with this caffeine butt mask. In just 15 minutes, this plant-based mask smooths and moisturizes your skin so your booty feels nice and soft with collagen, oat extract, and more. One shopper was a big fan and noted, “I used this right before vacation since I planned on skimpy bikinis just to have a nice, smoothed look. It was perfect [...] Never thought I’d buy a booty mask, but it was a cute treat and relaxing while I binged a TV show.”

A Foot-Peeling Mask That Leaves Your Feet Baby Soft

This foot-peeling mask is super satisfying. It works its magic by exfoliating dead, dry skin while peach kernel oil nourishes and speeds up skin regeneration. That means rough heels are gone in no time. Plus, it’s super simple to use: Soak your feet, slip the mask on, sit back with a book or your favorite show, and let it do its thing. Over the next few days, peel after peel, your feet will become silky smooth.

A Dark Spot Soap That Makes Skin Brighter

This kojic acid soap works to brighten and even out skin tone. Infused with vitamin C, retinol, and collagen, it helps hydrate and smooth your skin while reducing the look of dark spots, blemishes, and sun damage. Turmeric adds an extra boost, helping with scarring, fine lines, and restoring moisture balance. Not to mention, it also has hyaluronic acid, vitamin E, and shea butter, which leave skin soft.

A Fish-Shaped Glass Set That Makes Hydrating Fun

These fish drinking glasses are stackable, pretty, and each one comes with its own unique fish scale texture, so you don’t have to deal with those “Which glass is mine?” moments at the table. The thick, smooth edges feel nice in your hand, and the colored glass keeps its pop of color, no matter how many times you wash it. Stack them up to save space and create a sculpture, then use them for water, juice, soda, or even a cold cocktail.

A Winged Eyeliner Stamp That Makes Cat Eyes Almost Too Easy

Struggling to get a perfectly symmetrical wing? This dual-ended eyeliner stamp has you covered. One end has a wing stamp for perfect placement, while the other has a fine liner for filling in and perfecting the look. Each set comes with a stamp for the left eye and one for the right, so getting matching wings is easy as can be. Not to mention, the formula is long-lasting, waterproof, and smudge proof, holding up through long days or nights.

Tweezers With A Built-In Light That Makes Hair Removal A Breeze

These LED tweezers are what your brow beauty routine has been waiting for. They shine a bright light right where you need it, so you can tackle even the tiniest stray hairs with precision. Made of stainless steel, they’re sturdy, sleek, and surprisingly satisfying to use. They’re perfect for your vanity, your travel bag, or that late-night touch-up when the bathroom lighting just won’t cooperate.

A Multi-Tool Key Chain That’s Cute & Super Handy

This colorful key chain is basically like a full-on mini survival kit. It has six functions in one, including a knife, a bottle opener, screwdrivers, and even a glass breaker for emergencies. The small, lightweight design (it weighs just over 3 ounces) makes it easy to clip onto your keys, bag, or belt loop, so you can have it when you need it.

An Octopus-Shaped Blackhead Remover Stick That Cleanses Pores

This little Korean blackhead remover scrub stick is all about reaching hard-to-get blackheads and excess oil. Inside, a solid balm melts into a gel that clings to sebum and gunk, while charcoal, dead sea salt, and marine plant extracts help cleanse pores without hard scrubbing. Add in witch hazel, tea tree oil, and hyaluronic acid, and its formula helps minimize pores and keep skin hydrated. Travel friendly and easy to use, it’s a surprisingly smart (and cute!) tool.

A Mini Car Trash Can That Fits In The Cupholder

No one likes a messy car, but wrangling wrappers, receipts, and random gunk is way easier when you have this mini car trash can. The flip-top lid makes tossing trash easy, and it snaps shut on its own, which helps keep odors at bay. Plus, it comes with 20 disposable bags so you can swap them out when needed. Its compact design means it fits in cupholders, door pockets, or behind seats, and it’s leakproof and easy to clean.

Super Teeny-Tiny Travel Scissors That Are Just So Cute

These itty-bitty travel scissors might be tiny, but they’re mighty. At a little over an inch, they snip paper, thread, and tags with precision you wouldn’t expect from something this small. TSA approved and key chain-ready, they’re perfect for travel, sewing kits, or just keeping in your purse for those “oops, need scissors” moments. Trust, they’re the ultimate pocket-sized multitasker.

An Exfoliating Pumice Stone That Gives Your Feet A Spa-Level Scrub

This natural pumice stone works wonders. Made from real lava, it’s a powerhouse for softening and removing rough, dry skin and calluses. Use it on wet skin during a shower, bath, or foot soak and it’ll buff your heels and feet back to perfection. “I complained to my podiatrist about the constant rough heel edges I was getting,” one shopper wrote. “He suggested pumice every day in the shower and these do the trick perfectly! I was shocked that I could keep my feet this smooth by adding this one simple item to my routine! AND they last a long time!”

A Polarized Sun Visor Extender That Cuts Down On Glare

It’s time to say goodbye to squinting at the bright sun and blinding glare bouncing off other cars with this polarized visor extender. It uses UV polarization to block rays and reflected light, keeping your eyes protected and your vision crystal clear. One shopper loved its features and noted, “This may just be a lifesaver. I am 4 feet 10 inches, and the sun in my eyes was a danger to all. I feel much safer driving now.”

A Zipper Helper That Makes Getting Dressed Way Easier

This zipper puller is your new secret weapon for tricky back zippers. It comes with three different metal hooks on a long strap to attach to your zipper pull, so whether it’s a hidden dress zipper, a heavy-duty boot, or a leather jacket, you’ve got the perfect match. Bonus: It tucks neatly into a cute little travel bag, making it super easy to bring along and zip yourself up any time, anywhere.

A Drain-Saving Hair Catcher That Sticks To The Shower Wall

Got random clumps of hair draped across your shower wall? Waging a losing battle with a clogged drain? This wall-mounted shower hair catcher holds strands, keeping your shower clean and your plumbing stress free. Just run your fingers across the bristles to trap hair, swipe the other way to toss it, and you’re done — easy as that. Plus, it sticks to just about any surface (tile, glass, marble, and plastic), thanks to the trusty adhesive.

A Hair Tie Cutter That Saves Your Strands

If you’re dealing with tiny, tangled elastics, these little hair tie cutters make removing tight bands a total breeze. They slide right under small rubber bands and snip them safely, making everything from braids to mini ponytails easy to undo, all without the breakage. Made from recycled plastic and designed to last, they’re tiny, eco-friendly tools that keep your hair happy and healthy.

A Hair Wax Stick That Keeps Flyaways In Check

Stray hairs, be gone. This hair wax stick is all you need to keep baby hairs, frizz, and those pesky flyaways at bay. Made with castor oil and packed with hair-loving nutrients (like vitamin E and avocado), it smooths and tames hair without making it feel greasy or crunchy. It’s great for slicked-back buns, ponytails, and any other style you want to stay put.

Velvet Scrunchies With Pockets For Secret Storage

Although these velvet scrunchies look normal, they’re anything but average. They double as tiny storage solutions, thanks to hidden zipper pockets that can hold keys, cash, and other little essentials. Whether it’s a festival, a night out, or just running errands, these scrunchies are practical, cute, and super sneaky.

A Small Bag Hanger That Holds Over 30 Pounds

This tiny bag ring attaches to your purse but turns into a hanger in seconds and can hang from almost anywhere. Just clip it onto your bag strap, and you’re good to go. It holds up to 33 pounds (yes, that’s basically your life in tote form), which means you can stash all your goodies in your bag, no matter where you’re going. Shop it in gold, black, silver, and more.

A Hidden Bra Wallet That Keeps Your Valuables Safe

If you’ve ever panicked about your jewelry or cash while you’re out and about, this bra wallet is about to be your new best friend. It holds onto your essentials (think: your passport, ID, credit cards, cash, whatever), right under your clothes and totally out of sight. One shopper loved it, writing, “I put my ID, emergency credit card, and some emergency cash in this while vacationing in India. I attached it to my bra strap under my arm. I never even noticed it was there.”

Heart-Shaped Purse Lights That Brighten Up Any Bag

These heart-shaped lights are the cutest way to carry a little light wherever you go. Clip one on your purse or backpack, tap it, and — voilà — you can enjoy a nice, soft glow. They shut off after 10 seconds, are rechargeable, portable, and just plain cute. The best part is, they help you see inside your purse, so you can grab exactly what you need without fumbling around.

Mini Refillable Perfume Bottles For A Quick Spritz Anywhere

These mini refillable perfume spray bottles are the ultimate travel buddy for your fragrances. Tiny enough to slip into any purse, backpack, or even a pocket, they make it easy to freshen up on the go, whether you’re hopping on a plane, heading to the office, or needing a midday refresh. The refillable design means you can bring your favorite scents without lugging around a full-size bottle, and the sleek aluminum finish makes them look chic while staying totally practical.

A Small Travel Jewelry Case That Keeps Your Things Where You Need Them

These mini travel jewelry boxes keep rings, earrings, and necklaces safe and sound, whether you’re at the gym, on a plane, or just tossing one in your bag for the day. Tiny, portable, and ridiculously handy, they’re the type of on-the-go accessory you’ll use all the time. Bonus: They double as key chain pillboxes, so you can stash vitamins or supplements without lugging around bottles.

A Trifold Lighted Mirror For Expert Makeup Application

The cute vanity mirror is the literal glow-up your makeup routine has been begging for. With three different magnifications, every brow, lash, and eyeliner flick is crystal clear, even in dimly lit bedrooms or hotel rooms. The adjustable LED lights give a full, even glow, and the touch control makes it easy to find the perfect brightness. Foldable, sleek, and portable, it works at your vanity, in your dorm, or on the go with battery power.

Mini Paper Soap Sheets That Keep Your Hands Clean Anywhere

If you’re traveling, camping, or just trying to keep your hands clean on the go, you need these paper soap sheets. Tiny, lightweight, and portable, each sheet dissolves into a foamy lather with just a bit of water. They’re gentle enough for all skin types, but tough enough to tackle dirt and grime. The best part? They come in refreshing scents like orange, tea tree, and lavender.

A Silk Bonnet That Keeps Hair Frizz-Free While You Sleep

This silk bonnet wraps your strands in buttery soft, double-layer satin to prevent friction, frizz, and moisture loss while you snooze. The adjustable ties mean it stays put all night, even if you roll around. It’s great for all kinds of hair types and helps reduce breakage and tangles. Shop it in a ton of cute colors, including soft pastels and vibrant hues.

Space-Saving Hangers For Bras, Tank Tops, & More

If you’re battling a messy closet, let these bra hangers help you. With foldable hooks and a rotating design, they hold everything from bras and tank tops to scarves, belts, and even jewelry. They keep things hung up and organized, and even help to create more space by taking up less room on your closet rod.

Satin Pillowcases That Keep Hair Smooth & Skin Crease Free

Say hello to beauty sleep and goodbye to morning frizz and pillow creases with this satin pillowcase set. These pillowcases are soft and smooth, and help protect and tame hair while you sleep. One shopper was a huge fan, writing, “[These] are hands-down one of the best small upgrades I’ve made to my sleep routine. They feel luxuriously smooth—almost like silk—but are much more affordable and easy to care for. [...] I really notice the difference in reduced friction compared to regular cotton cases.”

Collagen Lip Masks That Give Your Lips A Hydration Boost

If your lips have been feeling dry, dull, or just a little lackluster, these collagen lip masks are about to become your new obsession. Each mask is infused with collagen, plus vitamins and minerals that work together to hydrate, smooth, and plump your lips. They lock in moisture, and the gel texture absorbs easily, so your lips get all the benefits without feeling sticky or heavy.

]]><![CDATA[Ashley Tisdale Created A New Village For Herself]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/ashley-tisdale-created-a-new-village-for-herselfhttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/ashley-tisdale-created-a-new-village-for-herselfThu, 21 May 2026 13:11:41 GMT
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Our kids might know her from as a voice from Phineas & Ferb, but us millennials probably know her as Sharpay Evans from High School Musical. These days, Ashley Tisdale is a mom of two and the founder of Being Frenshe, a wellness brand that’s centered around scent.

Of course, Tisdale, who has been working since she was three, is no stranger to online discourse about mental health and, lately, motherhood. (You had to be living under a rock not to read and discuss her viral essay in The Cut back in January.) When we sit down to chat recently, she won’t talk about it — not shockingly — but she will discuss motherhood more abstractly, her kids, her mental health struggles, and how she’s most like Sharpay Evans as a mom.

Scary Mommy: What's been the wildest part of being a mom?

Ashley Tisdale: Every day is a different journey. Every day is wild. People always ask me, "Are you going to put them in the business?" I'm like, "No." I grew up in the business and have been working since I was three, so I just don't want that for my kids.

But it's so interesting to see my five-year-old... She loves to perform; she's definitely meant to do something on the performance level at some point… She watches Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen videos that stuff that I grew up on and she loves it. She's like, "I want to do things like that." And I'm like, "I know, but no." There's so many things that I'm so grateful and lucky to have not fallen into that I think a lot of other people have and I think I'm a very rare case; I just want her to be a kid.

SM: What made you want to be so open about your mental health and postpartum struggles?

AT: It was maybe seven years ago, when I was very open about what I struggled with. The reason for that was because I felt like, in society, everybody was comfortable talking about anxiety, but they weren't talking about depression. I know how anxiety and depression work. If you struggle with one, you struggle with the other. So I just was like, why is there so much of a stigma around depression? I felt a need for me to make people feel okay that we struggle with that and that you aren't alone in it. I lost somebody to depression, and then at the time too, there were a lot of people in the world that we were losing too.

So I think it's time we talk about these things. At the time, I was doing an album called Symptoms and I just felt like if I could make people feel less alone and talk about these things, maybe they won't feel so bad about struggling with it. I was nervous, obviously; I didn't know how people would react to it. I was just like, "I hope I'm not letting people down because they know me as a certain character, but this is something that I have struggled with.” And talking about it and doing the album was such an amazing, beautiful reaction, and I felt like people were more open with me about what they struggled with.

In creating Frenshe, I just kept going on that journey and being very open and vocal. When I dealt with postpartum depression, I was going to talk about that too because it’s very interesting. How I thought about it or knew about it was that it was like a level of depression that you're in bed nonstop, but that's not me. I've never been someone who's been on medication; I have had panic attacks and stuff, but I very much have learned and done therapy and have these tools that help me in those moments.

So for me, depression comes in just having these low moments. I'm very active and I didn't know what I was struggling with because it was almost like an intense anxiety that none of my tools were working and it was to the point where I was not even diagnosed with postpartum depression until two years [later].

KA: You felt different than the regular anxiety you had before.

AT: Oh my god, so much. It was just like I would be in the car on the freeway and start having a panic attack for no reason. I was like, "What is going on with me?" I felt a need to talk about it because it also made me scared to have another baby. And I have to say I had a completely different experience.

When I had Emerson it was like I was on another level of happiness. It was such a different experience, even down to breastfeeding. I’m so glad I had another baby to experience that because I felt like the first one really robbed me of it. And I felt I needed to tell people like, "Just so you know, don't be scared to have another kid because it could be completely opposite." It was almost like the second one leveled out my hormones in a weird way.

SM: Was there anything about becoming a mom that felt lonelier than you expected?

AT: Yeah. I think that you feel like no one can understand what you're going through. Even my husband, [who] is so amazing and he's such a great dad. But I was going through such a postpartum experience, and didn’t know what my body was anymore and who I was. I've always really known who I am and what I wanted to do my whole life.

And then having my first baby, I was just like, who am I? And we were in COVID, you're home and you're like, what am I doing? I'm not really acting anymore. I'm developing this line. I've never done this before. Everything was so new for me that I just didn't know who I was. So my therapist was like, "It's like you're in a maze and you have to find your way out because you can never go back to that person that you once were." No one ever talks about these things. My sister has a kid and my friends have kids and they never mentioned, "Just so you know, you might go through this thing."

People don’t really talk about it maybe because they don't remember it or they don't want to remember it, but it's a very lonely time after, where you're trying to find yourself and who you are and who's this body and getting comfortable with that. And so the loneliest part was really just trying to go through those feelings all alone. Of course I'm like, "I don't feel great and I don't look great." And my husband's like, "I think you look amazing." That is not how you feel. It's like, thanks, but I don't really believe you. And it just takes time. You do eventually get there and I think that's probably why I had a better experience with the second baby, because I accepted all of those things that I was about to go through because I'd already been through it.

SM: You've been online long enough to experience multiple eras of the internet. What do you hope is different for your daughters?

AT: I hope they never go on the internet, but that's probably not going to happen. I've seen all the different eras and I think that right now, social media is pretty dark, to be honest. There's amazing parts about it, which is connecting, which is what I use it for. I've always felt like I do comedy to make people laugh. I try to bring people out of their life to have a better experience. I remember when we were on Disney, we would visit children's hospitals. And I still go; I love to visit the kids and to make a family or that kid take a step out and just be able to enjoy themselves or forget what they're going through.

I decided a couple of years ago on social media that it would be a platform for me to make people feel good. I don't share all my things on social media anymore. I have not for a while. There's so much out there and it's very loud; I just want to be someone's safe space. And that's what I share at this point. It's interesting because actually this is a perfect example, but there was a time where I saw someone talk about me who worked at a hair salon and not in a positive way, but I'll see him in the hair salon, he won't say that to my face.

And I think that's what people do on social media too much and I think that you would not normally say those things to somebody. Why is that person commenting like that? And so for me, I have a healthy relationship with social media because I grew up without it. I look at it as a job and it's a part of me, but it's not all of me. I think people being raised in it or the younger generation, that's all they've had. That's what they think is the biggest thing and so it's really sad because they struggle with it and they take things personally and it's just not healthy for kids. It’s just not a healthy environment because there's a lot of shit in the world, to be honest.

I don't know what the internet's going to look like for my kids, but hopefully it's better. I can only hope that it gets worse before it gets better. But now even for me, I just put out content that is, it's not real. I don't put out my life anymore. So it is a version of my life.

SM: You had a baby in COVID, so how did you make friends?

AT: Well, you rely on a lot of people that are in your life that obviously are having kids at the same time. And then thankfully, obviously they go to preschool one day. I have a lot of different mom friends. I have moms in Malibu, I have moms at the school, I have a lot of different people. You create that village that you can rely on. The people around you are important, especially for those early stages.

SM: What's the most Sharpay Evans thing about you as a mom?

AT: Oh, interesting. I feel multi-talented. I want it all. I think you can have it all. I think what I've done with the company and where we are and the success that we've had, I think it just shows that you can do it all. When I was becoming a mom, because we were in the middle of COVID we couldn't do classes, but I had a doula who did online little group things weekly. So every week, she would introduce us to a new expert. So you felt like you had this group of women that you're going through this with and everybody was cheering on everyone. They were like, "Oh my God, it's my time to go have the baby." And it was really cute. I remember a lot of the moms were scared about how their work relationship would change with having a kid. And I was like, oh my gosh, what if it changes for me too? And it does change to a certain aspect.

For me, I just want to be with my kids. Thankfully I found something to do that I'm able to do with my kids. But it also doesn't mean that you can't do something and be successful in whatever you want to do. You literally can do it all: You can be a mom, you can be present with your children and you can also be successful in whatever you're putting your mind to. So I feel like that, to me, is a Sharpay Evans thing because she would be the type of person that would do it all. I mean, obviously her song, “I Want It All”, is about that too.

This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.

]]><![CDATA[Do Dogs Have Nightmares? They’re Not Telling, So We Asked A Vet]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/do-dogs-have-nightmareshttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/do-dogs-have-nightmaresThu, 21 May 2026 13:10:31 GMT
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We’ve all seen them do it — your dog digs around in your blankets for a while before settling in. Then, when they reach a deep sleep, they start moving their feet like they’re sprinting after something, or maybe away from something, because now they’re whining and barking a few tiny, muffled barks (so pitiful). It’s enough to make you wonder, do dogs have nightmares?

I asked my dog and couldn’t get a straight answer, so instead I took the question to Erin Ray, DVM, veterinarian and assistant professor at Texas A&M University Veterinary Medical Teaching Hospital.

Do dogs have nightmares?

After checking through the research, Ray confirmed that there’s no definitive answer in veterinary science about whether or not dogs have dreams (good or bad). That said, vets are pretty sure they do.

“We suspect that dogs and cats dream, knowing that their sleep cycle seems very similar to humans’, and because of the symptoms that we might see when they are in a deep sleep: whimpering, looking like they’re trying to run, or maybe trying to bark in their sleep,” she says.

Whether or not dogs are having good dreams or nightmares is up for debate “because we can’t really know what’s going through their brain or what experience they’re having,” says Ray. “But if the symptoms that owners are seeing are a little bit more intense, then I think there is some suspicion that some dogs might be having a nightmare. We just don’t know for sure.”

What do dogs see in their nightmares?

Again, it’s impossible to say since animal researchers can’t really poll a group of dogs about it. Basically, we can guess at what might be dogging them in their sleep, but we just can’t know for sure.

“I would suspect is that if a dog or an animal went through something traumatic or really scary, that’s something they could potentially have a nightmare about. But there’s just not a good way to ask our patients that; it’s just a presumption,” says Ray.

Should I wake my dog up from a nightmare?

It’s tempting to want to jostle your pup awake and spare them whatever scary dream they seem to be having. But being woken up from a nightmare can be scary, too, and when dogs are scared, they are more likely to bite out of fear (even if they usually would never hurt a fly).

“If you feel like an animal is having a dream, it’s safest — as long as the animal’s safe and not going to hurt themselves — to leave them be and let them kind of come out of it,” says Ray. “Just like a human, if we’re in a really, really deep sleep and someone wakes you, it can be very jarring for that animal. There is a chance they could unintentionally bite or scratch or do something that could hurt themselves or hurt their owner.”

In general, if your dog is having a nightmare, you don’t need to worry about it; they will be totally fine, even if watching them breaks your heart a little. That said, Ray says some symptoms of canine seizures can look like your dog is having a bad dream. It’s rare, but you should know what to look for.

“If you notice that your pet looks like they’re shaking or trembling, they’re wetting themselves, or something about their behavior just doesn’t feel right in your gut, consult a veterinarian because there’s always a chance something else could be going on,” says Ray. And while it can be alarming to see your pet in a state like this, she adds that taking a video of the event can be extremely helpful for your vet in determining the next steps to care for your pup.

So, while there’s no definitive yes or no answer, if you think your dog is having nightmares, they probably are. Just let them work through them and wake up on their own so everyone stays safe (and totally give them some extra love when they do).

]]><![CDATA[“I’m Afraid I’ll Never Want To Have Sex Again” & 20 More Mom Confessions]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/im-afraid-ill-never-want-to-have-sex-again-20-more-mom-confessionshttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/im-afraid-ill-never-want-to-have-sex-again-20-more-mom-confessionsThu, 21 May 2026 13:00:25 GMT

I want you to pretend like you’re at dinner with one of your closest friends and she’s just leaned forward and said, “Omg, can I tell you something?” That level of curiosity and intrigue and, let’s be honest, excitement? It’s what you need to have to read these Scary Mommy Confessions this week.

Because when you ask someone what’s on their mind, especially a mom, you’re probably not going to get the most honest answer. At least not to begin with. There’s too much to think about, too much to say, it’s all too overwhelming. So like a friend over apps and drinks, ready to tell you something on their mind, so are the confessions here in this list. Some are relatable, some will have you concerned, and all of them will make you wish you could buy the mom on the other end a margarita and a Chili’s Triple Dipper.

Scary Mommy Confessions are a tried-and-true part of what makes our site so fun. If you want to anonymously confess, look for our weekly callouts on Instagram. And to browse past Confessions, head here.

]]><![CDATA[Does A Woman's Sexuality Peak In Her 40s? Experts Explain]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/does-a-womans-sexuality-peak-in-her-40s-experts-explainhttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/does-a-womans-sexuality-peak-in-her-40s-experts-explainThu, 21 May 2026 13:00:25 GMT
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I feel like there’s been a definite shift over the last few decades on how we view “older women.” We still have a long way to go in terms of representation and respect, but getting older is no longer seen as the “curse” it once was — especially for those of us in our late 30s, heading into our 40s. For so long, turning 40 was a huge “omg what the hell” kind of deal, and now every woman I know in their 40s is like, “This is the happiest I’ve ever been.”

And I’m starting to wonder if it’s all the sex.

Because there seems to be a huge uptick in how women view sex in their 40s and 50s. While there are physical things that can make it less-than-fun (like dropping estrogen that affects vaginal lubrication, arousal, energy, etc.), every week in Scary Mommy Confessions, I am blown away by how many women share that not only do they love being in their 40s, but they’re also having the best sex of their life.

Are we hitting our peak sexuality in middle age?

When does a woman’s sexuality peak?

The idea that there’s a specific age where women hit their sexuality peak is a bit of a myth, says Trina Read, a sexologist and author. Instead, she believes a woman hits her sexuality peak when she can do two things. “One, ask for the pleasure she wants — which will probably be different from her partner’s. And two, lean into the pleasure she asked for. When or how a woman can do this depends on her self-worth rather than her age. As women get older, it becomes easier for her to shed all the societal shame, which is why it’s thought women peak later in life.”

Read explains that in Alfred Kinsey’s Sexual Behavior in the Human Female, published in 1953, his research suggested that women “reached their sexual peak and were more likely to have regular orgasms in their 30s.” But Read says researchers have questions this conclusion, as in the 1950s, there wasn’t a lot of premarital sex. (And much of Kinsey’s research is based on interviews with both men and women.) “Meaning it wasn’t until women had been married and having sex for at least 10 years that she figured out how her body and sex worked.” When you factor in that women in their 30s were still having kids (or in the thick of parenting), you can see how a woman’s libido flatlines a bit, making it look like they had a small peak for a while and then it was all downhill from there.

“Interestingly, Kinsey's research also found that some of the most sexually active women were in their 50s and 60s,” Read says.

“I often hear women wonder about their sexual peak,” says Camille Espinoza, an AASECT certified sex therapist and founder of the Center for Intimacy and Relationships. “I have found that people have the best sex when they feel comfortable, confident, and psychologically safe. This can happen at any age, but women in midlife have an advantage here. The key factors are the circumstances surrounding the sexual experience.”

It makes sense. There is so much you’re still learning about your body in your 20s and 30s — often with other new, inexperienced partners — and for a while, that’s all the sex you know. But our bodies continue to change, as do our wants and desires, so it’s easy to see how your sexuality “peak” never really comes — it’s just a constant mountain range going up and down for eternity.

Are women having better sex in their 40s?

Again, this is dependent on so much. But Espinoza says in her experience, “middle age brings a new level of discernment about the sex they are having, and this leads to better sex.” She says they may be more selective about their partners or the types of sex they want to have, as well as feeling more comfortable asking for what they want. “This leads to a more satisfying experience, and in turn, more confidence for the next experience.”

“The older we get, the wiser we get,” says resident sex therapist at Adam & Eve Dr. Jenni Skyker. “With more experiences, understanding of self, and permission to live the one life we get, many women allow for their sex lives in their 40s to finally thrive.”

That doesn’t mean you suddenly become an insatiably horny woman in her ‘40s. It may not even mean you want more sex or different sex in your ‘40s. But finding that confidence in yourself — in all aspects, not just sexuality — can lead to your entire world opening up and looking a little different. Maybe you’re still doing the same positions with the same partner you have been for years, but suddenly everything feels better and more exciting. Maybe you’ve never really been into sex at all, but now you’re craving that intimacy because you feel fully confident and in love with who you are.

Honestly, being in your 40s sound like a dream. I’m ready.

]]><![CDATA[My Ex-Husband Called My Son Fat. Why Did Nothing I Say Stop Him?]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/my-ex-husband-called-my-son-fat-there-was-nothing-i-could-do-to-stop-ithttps://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/my-ex-husband-called-my-son-fat-there-was-nothing-i-could-do-to-stop-itThu, 21 May 2026 13:00:25 GMT
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My son was 8 years old when his father first forced him to think about the way his body looked. Until that day, I think he thought of his body as a propeller. The thing that moved him from one adventure to another. He had strong legs to push him higher on the swings or pedal his bike as he rode around the neighborhood in his Superman pajamas and cowboy boots on Saturday mornings. He had strong arms that caught footballs his older brothers threw him or bounced basketballs in our backyard. He had solid little hands that painted with sure fingers or held mine with easy trust, feet that kicked soccer balls or raced his friends, a face as open as the big blue sky. His belly was just the place where his food went. Until his father gave him the nickname “Chubs” during a weekend visit and suddenly opened a door to my son’s body I never really was able to get closed again.

He was different right away when he came home from seeing his dad. I saw his face and my hackles went up. I could feel something was off. He walked differently, slumped over like he had aged several years in the 48 hours he had been away from me. I asked his dad if everything was okay and got a shrug like “How would I know?” As though he had no way of finding out about his child’s mood. As though asking him if he was okay was beyond him. Or beneath him.

At dinner that night, my son was a quiet center in the middle of the usual boisterous storm of voices and passing plates and stories being shared. Not angling for his turn to tell stories like he normally would. Not eating joyfully — up until that point he had been a happy eater — as he normally would. He loved to write the night’s menu on a little Ratatouille chalkboard we had on our fridge for me, adding his own restaurant-speak to meals with descriptions like “World’s best spaghetti and meatballs” or “Build your own sundae on Friday!” He lived his life like a human exclamation point but suddenly he was a question mark.

I asked him why he wasn’t eating. He shrugged. I asked if he wanted dessert. He said no. Instead he went outside and ran the length of our street, grim-faced. He told me not to pack him too much food for his lunch the next day. He went to bed without kissing me goodnight and then came back to hug me so tight I couldn’t breathe for the sadness in him.

It was his little brother who finally told me. “Dad gave him a new nickname. Now he and Grandpa call him ‘Chubs’,” he said over breakfast. “I think they think it’s funny.”

I felt a sort of liquid panic, a fury mixed with helplessness. Because I knew what the outcome of this would be. I knew I would call my ex-husband the second I was alone that night to tell him he had to stop. I knew I would try reasoning first, then cajole, then beg, then rage. I knew I would try to explain that this kind of “joke” does irreparable damage. That if he kept it up, it would change the way our son looked at himself, potentially forever. I knew he would respond exactly the way he responded. “You’re too sensitive,” he told me. “You’re putting your own thing about being fat on him. Boys don’t care about that.”

I tried to turn the clock back for my son for the next two weeks. We talked about that nickname, how it wasn’t funny. How it was mean and wrong and not about him at all. The further we got away from his last visit, the more his eyes cleared. The more he came back to the boy who went on adventures and sang while he ate his cereal.

Then he went back for his next visit. And the cycle started all over again. His father still called him ‘Chubs,’ probably in response to me prodding him about it in the first place. My son came home, deflated and sad and seeing his body as the enemy all over again.

There was nothing I could do to stop the tide. I spoke to my lawyer who said it was none of my business. This was not an issue of abuse, so really the family court had nothing to say about it.

But wasn’t it?

He was changing the way our son would look at his body, forever. Suddenly, he thought about his belly, his legs, his arms, his face, as the enemy. As a way the rest of the world got to judge him. He actively wanted our son to feel wrong, to feel too big, too much, too different. He made that decision over and over again.

We did the best we could for as long as we could, my son and I. Eventually he was old enough to choose not to return to his father, who claimed to be confused by this sudden betrayal.

He is a grown man now. I think he is confident in who he is after all those years of finger-pointing and shame. I hope he sees himself the way he once saw himself; they way I saw him, the way he was meant to be. As a boy with a body that was a propeller for his adventures. A boy with a face as open as the big blue sky.

Jen McGuire is a contributing writer for Romper and Scary Mommy. She lives in Canada with four boys and teaches life writing workshops where someone cries in every class. When she is not traveling as often as possible, she’s trying to organize pie parties and outdoor karaoke with her neighbors. She will sing Cher’s “If I Could Turn Back Time” at least once, but she’s open to requests.

]]><![CDATA[11 Lazy Dinner Ideas That Don’t Require A Single Ounce Of Motivation]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/lazy-dinner-ideashttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/lazy-dinner-ideasThu, 21 May 2026 12:00:25 GMT
All The Healthy Things

Figuring out what to make for dinner every night for the rest of our lives feels like a punishment for something, to be quite honest. Very rarely am I inspired to head back into the kitchen and make an elaborate meal for my family; I love them, but damn, didn’t I just feel y’all last night? And as someone with chronic illnesses that cause pain and fatigue, there are some days when I truly can’t dredge up the energy to cook. So when I say I lean on lazy dinner recipes a lot, I say “lazy” with love and understanding that we are not all operating with the same levels of energy, inspiration, or interest in making food whatsoever.

To me, what makes a winning lazy dinner recipe — one that I will return to even in a flare-up — is that it’s short on steps, ingredients, and tasks that require me to stand in the kitchen. If I have to get 17 ingredients out of cabinets and the fridge, it’s a nonstarter. I want minimal chopping (or the ability to buy the veggies that need to be diced already cut up from the store). All of this also means that sheet-pan meals, slow-cooker meals, and one-pot recipes that save me from doing dishes are very popular in my house.

Here are some lazy dinner recipes I’d be willing to try — and that’s saying something.

Slow-Cooker Chicken Carnitas

All The Healthy Things

Your slow cooker can do so much for you, including making tender, flavorful chicken carnitas a la All The Healthy Things’ recipe. If you use jarred minced garlic like me, then all you have to slice is an onion (into thin slices, no dicing necessary) and an avocado for your toppings.

Easy Teriyaki Chicken Casserole

Family Fresh Meals

I love any recipe where you can use up leftover chicken or just shred a rotisserie chicken and not have to cook it yourself. Family Fresh Meals’ teriyaki chicken casserole will teach you how to make a delicious and crowd-sized meal out of shredded chicken and frozen veggies.

Quick Garlic Butter Shrimp

Budget Bytes

Budget Bytes’ garlic butter shrimp recipe works with fresh or frozen shrimp, and is ready in 20 minutes or less. You could boil some pasta to toss in that delicious butter sauce, or microwave up some pre-made rice to serve with them.

One-Pot Chili Mac

Princess Pinky Girl

Buy the minced garlic and diced onion and grab a stool to sit by the stove. Princess Pinky Girl’s chili mac is delicious and cheesy and comforting, and if you skip the chopping, it only takes about 20 minutes start to finish. Plus, your number of dishes to wash will be very low.

Sheet-Pan Nachos

Damn Delicious

If I have leftover shredded chicken, pork, or ground beef, I’m making sheet pan nachos. Dump your protein and cheese over a bed of chips and top with whatever you have in the fridge. I don’t even eat them with utensils because why have to wash a fork?

Baked Healthy Salmon

Damn Delicious

If I can barely be bothered to convert oxygen into carbon dioxide, I’m making sheen pan salmon for dinner, much like this recipe from Damn Delicious. Plop it onto the pan, season it, show it some lemon juice, and walk away. Pair it with microwave rice and a frozen veggie.

Potsticker Soup

Fit Slow Cooker Queen

Who knew frozen potstickers and pre-cut coleslaw could become something so yummy? Fit Slow Cooker Queen’s potsticker soup sounds nourishing and delicious, and all the veggies inside can be purchased shredded or chopped in advance to save you time and energy.

Chicken Orzo Bake With Lemon & Parmesan

A Sweet Thyme

With A Sweet Thyme’s chicken with lemony, parmesan orzo, you’re going to do some measuring and some browning of the chicken. That’s about it, though, and you’ll end up with a delicious, fresh, savory dinner that won’t leave you totally drained.

Slow-Cooker White Chicken Chili

Budget Bytes

You can buy everything that needs to be diced in this recipe already like that — praise be. After that, Budget Bytes’ recipe just requires that you dump all the goods in your slow cooker, set it and forget it. See you in eight hours for dinner.

Sheet-Pan Shrimp Fajitas

Damn Delicious

Damn Delicious is the queen of sheet-pan recipes, and her shrimp fajita one is fantastic. Yes, there’s some chopping, but it’s quickly turning bell peppers into strips and an onion into wedges, so I can let it slide. It’s fine dicing that makes me yearn for the grave.

Slow-Cooker Balsamic Chicken

Foodie Crush

This slow-cooker balsamic chicken from Foodie Crush requires zero chopping or effort if you buy pre-sliced mushrooms (most come that way anyway, right?). Brown your chicken for five minutes to get that yummy finish on the outside, and everything else gets dumped into the Crock-Pot to take care of itself.

It’s OK to lean on shortcuts in the kitchen. Whatever makes cooking for your family easier and more accessible is exactly what you should do.

]]><![CDATA[Do Pepcid & Claritin Really Help Brain Fog? Experts Explain How This Combo Affects Perimenopausal Women]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/do-pepcid-claritin-really-help-brain-fog-experts-explain-affects-perimenopausal-womenhttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/do-pepcid-claritin-really-help-brain-fog-experts-explain-affects-perimenopausal-womenWed, 20 May 2026 16:55:06 GMT
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At this point in life, my daily menty b is as routine as my morning cup of coffee (and my afternoon iced coffee) simply because I am overwhelmed. It never lasts long — maybe a minute or two of me deep-breathing my way through my to-do list — but it’s exhausting, and it’s always compounded by the fact that I just don’t feel like my brain focuses the way it used to. Three kids, a full-time job, tons of activities and responsibilities swirling, always — it makes sense. So when someone says they have the perfect solution to this brain fog (whether it’s perimenopausal or just normal mom brain) — and you can buy it at your favorite grocery store — I’m listening.

But is the viral “histamine block” really effective? And how safe is it for every mom I know to suddenly be popping a Claritin and Pepcid every single morning so she can focus?

What is the viral “histamine block” medicine?

A recent discovery on Threads led me to a deep-dive on all social media platforms where I kept seeing the same over-the-counter drug combo recommended to women (especially women in their mid-30s and older). You take one Claritin (or any other allergy pill) and one Pepcid every single day, and apparently the results are flawless.

“I took that Claritin and Pepcid combo and I started organizing all of the clothes and a shoes in my house by type and COLOR. What is HAPPENING,” one Threads user wrote.

“Update on Claritin + Pepcid AC during luteal: I'm 6 days out from my cycle and I actually feel ecstatic, blissful, thrilled to be alive. MIRACULOUS!!! I'll keep updating y'all but... Wow. Life-changing,” another wrote.

“Did the Pepcid Zyrtec combo today. Not sure if it’s working but I finally filed 3 years worth of taxes,” another Threads user added to an #ADHD community.

I mean, those are some rave reviews, right? The idea is that these two medicines — both antihistamines, but for different receptors in the body — can help with everything from fatigue and brain fog to focus, especially for women with ADHD, perimenopause, and/or during their menstrual cycle.

Every woman I know would be all over this. But should we be?

Do Claritin & Pepcid Actually Help With Women’s Focus & Brain Fog?

I don’t want to say that anybody who’s experienced mind clarity while taking this combo is wrong, but I do wonder about the placebo effect and if that’s what’s at play here. But James J. Chao, MD, FACS, Chief Medical Officer at VedaNu Wellness, says there’s a reason why this combo “works.”

“Claritin (loratadine) is an H1 histamine receptor antagonist and Pepcid (famotidine) is an H2 histamine receptor antagonist,” Chao says. “If your estrogen levels are spiking up and down — which they do during perimenopause — it could potentially cause mast cells to release more histamine.” Chao says too much histamine can indeed cause brain fog, tiredness, headaches, flushing, insomnia, and more. “Blocking H1 and H2 receptors could decrease overall histamine in your body, which could lead to you feeling better — in my opinion — after about four to seven days if it works for you. However, placebo effect in these kinds of studies is usually between 30 to 40%, so it will work for some people and not others.”

“Although many women report improved quality of life while taking these medications — particularly those with allergy-related issues, gastroesophageal reflux causing interrupted sleep, etc. — this does not translate into the medication being effective for menopause-related cognitive dysfunction as a whole,” says James Lyons, MD, Clinical Advisor of Epiphany Wellness.

So basically, if this combo is working for you, maybe you already had an allergy issue that was making you feel blah, or your own stomach acid was betraying you on the regular and making you feel tired and out-of-sorts without realizing.

“Brain fog in perimenopause stems more from hormonal fluctuations, especially in estrogen,” says Rachael Jones, MSN, APRN, FNP and SVP, Clinical Client Strategist at WIN Fertility. She believes that while some women may take this combo and feel better, that doesn’t mean it’s an evidence-based treatment.

Is it safe to take Claritin & Pepcid every day?

Despite these medicines being relatively safe, Chao says there are downsides to consider when taking two pills every day for months or years. “Individually, these drugs are safe when taken at the doses recommended on the box (loratadine is 10mg daily, famotidine is 20 to 40 mg daily). However, there are risks for taking both consistently day in and day out. Pepcid can reduce your body’s ability to absorb vitamin B12 with long-term use — defined as 12 to 24 month. Significant depletion in B12 levels has been shown with long-term users of H2 blockers.”

He also adds that fatigue and drowsiness occur in only about 1 to 2% of those taking loratadine, but it can still “cause you to feel more tired or groggy.” Chao says all of that stands in the way of effectively clearing your brain fog. “Also, neither of these drugs are safe to take at those doses if your kidneys work at less than 60% capacity. So please don’t just start taking random medications indefinitely. Talk to your doctor.”

Lyons also notes that if you’re really feeling constant, prolonged fatigue and brain fog, you shouldn’t use an OTC medication to fix it, nor should you assume this is just because of perimenopause. “Rather, anemia, hypothyroidism, obstructive sleep apnea, depression, ADHD, and metabolic diseases all have similar presentations and require evaluation,” he says.

How do you fix brain fog and focus without medication?

Teas, supplements, over-the-counter medicine combos — we will try anything if we think it’ll help with our brain fog and focus. But like so much in life, the simplest thing may be to just do what we know already works, like eating better, getting enough sleep, and trying to relax. “Evidence-based interventions for women experiencing difficulty with focus and mental fatigue include optimizing their sleep, performing resistance exercises, reducing stress levels, decreasing alcohol intake, and evaluating/treating any underlying sleep disorders or depressive condition,” Lyons says. “In addition, hormone replacement therapy may also assist in alleviating cognitive dysfunction in perimenopausal women once properly assessed.”

“Targeting histamine may help with your symptoms but it’s likely not the cause of them,” says Chao. “Most likely your hormone levels are changing — estrogen rising and falling, progesterone low — your sleep is being disrupted, and stress hormones are out of whack. Treating the root cause with hormone therapy — if it’s something you’re interested in and your doctor thinks you’re a good candidate — can help women feel like themselves again.”

Before you spend a bunch of money (seriously, these medicines are kind of expensive), really try to focus on your overall wellbeing. Easier said than done, but put down the phone, try and feed yourself foods that make you feel good, and get outside and touch literal grass. Chao recommends taking an Omega-3 supplement (1000 to 2000 mg daily), as well as magnesium glycinate (200 to 400 mg daily). “Cut down on drinking,” he says. “Alcohol is a histamine-releasing agent.”

Chao also suggests getting seven to nine hours of sleep, lifting heavy three to four days per week (strong women forever!), and keeping a food diary. “You might notice that certain high histamine foods — like sourdough bread, some dairy, and wine — are worsening your symptoms.”

If your brain fog and fatigue feels overwhelming, reach out to your healthcare provider. They’ll have better suggestions than an OTC social media trend, and you can manage the root cause of your brain fog and fatigue rather than just the irritating symptoms.

]]><![CDATA[16 Characteristics Of Highly Toxic Parents]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/16-characteristics-toxic-parentshttps://www.scarymommy.com/16-characteristics-toxic-parentsWed, 20 May 2026 12:57:43 GMT
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This is something I wager we just don’t talk about enough because it’s frequently considered “in poor taste” to speak badly of one’s own parents. In some ways, parents are revered to the point where we flippantly make blanket statements like “all parents want the best for their children” or “they did the best they could.”

Sometimes, it’s true that the parents in question really did try their best or want the best for their kids. That’s not enough, however, to protect their children or give them the mental and emotional care they need. And sadly, lots of parents can fall into toxic habits with their kids without ever realizing there’s a problem.

As with any other list of toxic traits, this one is not all-inclusive. And few people will exhibit all of these characteristics. It’s still worth talking about these traits because the stakes are so damn high. The children of toxic parents suffer ... often even as adults. They might grow up to select toxic partners or become a toxic partner (or parent) themselves. They may struggle with their sense of self-worth and mental health for as long as they live. Others may find themselves unable to feel fully alive.

And while a person might be able to get away from a toxic friend, partner, or boss  —  often with some degree of difficulty  —  it’s harder to escape the clutches of a toxic parent or guardian.

What does it mean to be toxic?

For starters, it’s important to know that toxic isn’t a clinical term, meaning it might be hard to find the right resources for you if you want to dive deeper on this subject.

For example, you might really be dealing with an emotionally immature parent, an enmeshed parent, a parent struggling with substance abuse, or one with narcissistic personality traits. If this list resonates with your experience, it’s worth researching those terms a little deeper to find the best resources to fit your relationship dynamic.

Characteristics Of Highly Toxic Parents

1. They expect their kids to agree with them about (practically) everything.

Some children grow up with parents who will not allow them to express different thoughts or opinions. If you disagree with such a parent, they might accuse you of being headstrong, rebellious, stupid, or worse. It can trigger anger, yelling, the silent treatment, or whatever your parent’s brand of “I’m mad at you” looks like.

“If somebody has traits of narcissism, this is a very rigid thinking style. It’s also a style of parenting that really doesn’t recognize the needs of other people, hence expecting their kids to agree with them about everything,” says licensed marriage and family therapist Lauren Maher. “There’s no room for anyone else’s personality growth or development with this kind of parenting. I think a lot of times with a narcissistic parent, they sort of have an unspoken assumption that their child is supposed to go out into the world almost as a miniature version of them and they can become quite dysregulated or angry or upset when that’s not happening.”

In your early childhood, there may have been less (or no) conflict because you weren’t yet individuated from your parents, Maher explains. But as adolescence and early adulthood bring with them your own thoughts, opinions, and beliefs, friction probably increased. Ultimately, this is “toxic” parenting because the child is not permitted to think for themselves. Such kids are typically expected to accept their parents’ words as fact and behave more like a soldier or a robot than a human being.

2. They don’t see their children as autonomous individuals.

“One of the attributes of unhealthy parenting is being overly enmeshed with their child,” Maher says. “It’s a lack of understanding of where I end and you begin.”

For many toxic parents, their child is merely an extension of themselves, and little more than that. They might even fear the day their kid attempts to be more autonomous and spend years trying to prevent them from fully expressing their thoughts and feelings as their own person.

Parents like this often fall into the “children should be seen and not heard” camp. Age-appropriate behavior like temper tantrums, bad moods, whining, and crying aren’t properly addressed with love and understanding because these parents don’t care why their kid is acting out. All they care about is that the unwanted behavior stops.

The irony of such parents is that they frequently succumb to their own intense emotions. If they feel angry or upset, they rarely think twice about throwing a fit or letting someone else really have it. These types of parents are often caught up in the idea that successful parenting creates obedient children who never “mess up” or embarrass them.

3. They don’t believe in a child’s privacy.

Especially as a kid grows older, some parents really struggle to give them space. They might read through their kids’ diaries or rummage through their backpacks to look through their notes. Children who wish to lock their doors or work on a project alone might be regarded with suspicion. Such parents will often justify dismissing their kid’s requests for privacy by insisting it’s their house, their rules. Kids don’t need privacy, they reason, unless they are up to no good.

Maher says parents who don’t value their children’s privacy are showing signs of enmeshment. “In really extreme cases, you'll see parents taking the doors completely off of their kids' bedrooms, things like that. This is also, to me, such a manifestation of entitlement. People just feel entitled to someone's entire emotional and physical landscape in an inappropriate and also kind of dominating way.”

In adulthood, privacy comes more naturally when you live under different roofs; these parents then become the kind that don’t respect boundaries, says Zoe Spears, LMFT and founder of Connected Therapy of California. This can look like your family showing up at your house unannounced even though you’ve asked them not to, calling repeatedly when you don’t answer, and generally expecting you to make yourself available to them whenever they want.

4. They discipline out of anger or fear.

The whole purpose of discipline in parenting is to teach your child how to better navigate the world in a responsible way. But a toxic parent loses sight of the whole point. Instead, they end up disciplining their kids as a knee-jerk reaction to their own emotions. The toxic parent might feel angry, annoyed, disappointed, embarrassed, or even scared when their child behaves a certain way. They feel compelled to “nip things in the bud” instead of understanding the big picture and what’s actually going on with their kids.

Spanking, berating, ridiculing  —  a toxic parent may label such tactics “discipline.” Their children might fear them, resent them, or feel utterly worthless, yet a toxic parent often won’t care or really see the problem.

So, where does this stem from? It could be two-fold, Maher says. “One is their own family legacy; they may also be following what was modeled to them. If we're looking at more narcissistic or personality disordered or immature individuals, these are people that are quite dysregulated. And so instead of turning inwards for more self-regulation, that's usually projected outwards onto someone else as a way to try to regulate things.”

5. They’re often more judgmental of their own kids than anyone else’s.

Some of you grew up with parents who were constantly asking why you couldn’t be more like Jill or Johnny across the street. Perhaps it felt like they had something good to say about every single one of your classmates, but when it came to the way they spoke about you, all they ever did was complain or make hardly helpful suggestions about what you might improve.

Narcissistic parents often make unfair comparisons to “invoke a sense of shame or guilt or feeling less than someone else,” Maher says. “You can also see this with people that are communal narcissists where they really like to be seen as these sort of pillars of the community. And so they oftentimes offer a lot of praise and accolades to other people or other people's kids, but then at home they can be complete tyrant, but they like to be seen as being very magnanimous and supportive to the outside community.”

6. They want their children to follow in their footsteps or live out their unfulfilled dreams.

Many healthy parents live just a bit vicariously through their children. Who doesn’t want their child to have a better life than they did? That drive becomes problematic when parents don’t know how to set boundaries and recognize that their child is a fully autonomous person, distinct from them. Toxic parents often expect their kids to fulfill their unfulfilled dreams or make choices that make them happy, with little concern for what their children actually want.

They might push their kids into specific careers, or pressure them to get married and have children  —  anything they would have wanted for themselves or that feeds into their sense of grandiosity, Maher says.

Such parents might say their children owe them certain choices or outcomes because they have sacrificed so much for their kids. It’s manipulation that ignores the fact that the children never asked to be brought into a situation where they would be expected to please their parents in every possible way.

It’s important to note that there can be cultural differences and differing pressures across families. If your parents immigrated to give you a better life, you might feel even more indebted to them and their vision for your life. In these situations, it’s important to ask yourself if the behavior is intentional, but more important to examine what impact it’s having on you, says Spears.

“Whether or not it's intentional, I don't want to say it's irrelevant, but what I think is more important to focus on is how is that actually impacting the child and the relationship they have with their family?”

7. They’re uncomfortable when their kid is happy.

As much as people love to say that all parents want the best for their children, many of us know that simply isn’t true. Some toxic parents aren’t happy when their kids are happy; they may be jealous or resentful of their own children. They might be quite cruel to their face or make offhand remarks meant to chip away at a child’s sense of self-worth. This type of toxic parent can’t just be proud of their kid. They feel they must find a way to tear them down.

Spears says to ask yourself: When you share something you’re excited for, does your parent put you down? Do they diminish or minimize your accomplishments, the things you’re excited about? Do you downplay these things yourself when talking to your parent, in order to prevent them from minimizing or critiquing it?

“They don't want to be overshadowed in any way,” Maher says. “So sometimes you feel a limit of you could do well, but not too well. ‘Don't take the focus away from me.’”

When a parent sees their child as an extension of themselves, but the parent hasn’t processed their own trauma, it can be hard to see the child not grappling with those same thoughts and feelings, she says. “They haven't dealt with their own unprocessed material. It's uncomfortable for them to see other people doing well in the world and seeing other people free of those painful emotions.”

8. Everything is about them and their feelings.

If there’s one trait that most toxic parents share, it’s this one. Toxic parents struggle to separate themselves and their feelings from parenting. They can’t grasp that the role of a parent is one of service  —  your job is to give your kid(s) the best possible chance to grow and develop into a well-rounded and healthy human being.

Toxic parents seem to think, Oh, the kids are fine. They wave their hand and say something about how kids are resilient and don’t need much,  only to turn around and complain that their kids don’t give them the love or respect that they should.

If you have an emotionally immature parent, this behavior is likely because they’re still child-like in their ability to regulate their feelings, Maher explains. “You've never grown up. You're taking a much more childlike approach throughout your life, which is very entitled, self-involved, expecting the world to revolve around you. Narcissists, a lot of times they are really mired in a sense of shame, which is across the board a really difficult emotion to hold. And I think out of that shame, we can see a lot of other things arise like anger, rage, a lot of other emotions coming out of that. If we're looking at a parent who has complex trauma, they may be reenacting stuff from their own childhood.”

9. They keep score.

Some parents remember every little “wrong” thing their child does. Your parent never hesitates to remind you how difficult you were as a child, and now if you choose to do Christmas with the in-laws instead of your family, you know you’ll hear about it for months or even years to come. They may have said things like, “I didn’t get to pursue my dreams because I was caring for you,” in a way that implies you owe them something.

“There can be times where the parent has some sort of idea that the child should not have their own life. ‘You didn't drop everything and come and take care of me when I wasn't feeling well that one time.’ I see a lot in my practice of some parents that, they sort of refuse to take care of themselves in certain ways or have their own agency about certain things and they just expect their children to do everything rather than coming up with solutions on their own,” Maher says.

A parent who keeps score makes you feel like they operate from “a pit of grievance” rather than goodwill, Maher says, and you never really know when the pit is going to open up.

10. Their kids aren’t allowed to ask questions or express their honest feelings.

When their kids express their honest feelings, toxic parents often reply that they shouldn’t feel that way or are being oversensitive. Asking questions might earn you a verbal lashing. Again and again, their children get the message that they are wrong for having their own thoughts and feelings. It’s incredibly difficult to grow when your parents constantly tell you that your natural reactions are all bad.

This is a narcissistic parent red flag. “Questions are often perceived as someone questioning their authority. That is a direct challenge to somebody that has a more rigid, antagonistic, or grandiose thinking style. If this is a person that's oriented towards domination and power and control, there's no room for that in that equation.”

11. They use guilt to get their way.

In a healthy parent-child relationship, both parties can express hurt, frustration, and disappointment without making demands or insisting that the other person overlook their own wants and needs just to make one party happy.

Toxic parents will resort to guilt and manipulation to get you to change your mind. Sometimes, the manipulation will be very subtle, and sometimes, it will be blatant. The stress is usually the same either way, when you’re a child (even a grown child) who simply doesn’t want to disappoint their mom or dad.

“Using guilt, manipulation, shame — it's doing everything but actually sitting and getting on the level of true emotional needs and communication. It's a very lazy way to go about getting what you want because it doesn't require sitting down and being actually attuned to someone,” Maher says.

Parents like this also use it because, frankly, it often works. “Feeling the disapproval of a parent is very difficult for a lot of us to hold. And so I think sometimes these parents come to learn over time that this is a tactic that works a lot of the time. So it's almost used as a shortcut to get what they want rather than doing real work, which is being empathic, stating needs, and holding other people's opinions and realities.”

12. They withhold love and affection as a form of punishment.

Many parents get confused or worried about what might be seen as “overly indulgent” parenting. They might wonder when it’s okay to hug or soothe a child who’s been acting out. A toxic parent, however, often has no impulse to soothe their “misbehaving” child. Instead, they frequently resort to withholding their love as a means of “discipline.”

“This becomes toxic behavior when it's more about control than anything else,” says Sejginha Williams-Abaku, LMFT and founder of Personal Life Wellness Marriage and Family Therapy. “And the way that we would tell that it's about control is when the young child or adult child does something that the parent loves, they give more attention. And when they do something that the parent disagrees with, they get the silent treatment, or the parent ignores them or there's a disconnection.”

Some parents do it because their parents did it to them, she says, while others just do it because it works to get the behavior they want out of their kid. Either way, “it creates a power dynamic in the relationship where the child, whether adult or a minor, feels like they have to comply with what the parent wants mentally, emotionally, physically, and behaviorally in order not to be rejected or abandoned by that parent.”

13. They make mountains out of molehills.

Some toxic parents cannot discern a big problem from a small one. In their eyes, every little act of disobedience, every poor grade, and every dirty sock on the floor is the end of the world. Such toxic parents typically don’t know how to pick their battles, so they just harp on every little thing  —  often raising anxious children who are petrified to fail, or impulsive kids who don’t care about anything since they’re always in some sort of trouble. Their kids often grow up with an impending sense of doom they just can’t shake.

These parents are often extremely dysregulated themselves, says Williams-Abaku, and wind up passed that nervous system frenzy down to their kids.

“Instead of giving space to working through their own trauma or their own past negative experiences, they hyperfocus on the child. Usually this is trauma related, and having difficulty with distress tolerance and being able to regulate themselves and self-soothe. So instead they are hyperreactive or overreactive to things that are just phase-of-life issues.”

14. They expect the worst of their own kids.

Everybody knows that teenagers are not typically the most responsible or wisest people around. That’s no insult to teens, however. It’s just that developmentally, and even culturally, they don’t usually have the tools they need to make their best decisions. Healthy parents recognize that the teenage years can be hard, and they strive for a healthy balance of understanding and expectations along with age- and individually appropriate responsibilities.

Toxic parents are different. They tend to flip out during the teen years and expect the worst. Some toxic parents have the tendency to expect the worst at a younger age, too.

“This is also in connection to feeling as if the child's behavior can either make or break the parent's image. So as an adult, they may start to see the child as a competitor. So the reason why this usually happens is they start experiencing anxiety or hypervigilance around their child's behavior, and they start to want to protect themselves from disappointment. So it becomes easier to perceive the child in a negative light than to hold space for both,” says Williams-Abaku.

15. They expect their children to “perform.”

On the opposite side of low expectations is the toxic parent who expects way too much from their kids. Parents who expect too much often do so because they have the idea that children are supposed to make their parents look good, or basically, “perform” for them. This type of toxic parent often cares excessively about appearances. They don’t care so much about what their kid has learned or whether they are a happy, well-adjusted child. They want to know their kid will impress others.

Parents like this might be fixated on things like grades, physical beauty, career status, or popularity. “This is also in line with narcissistic parenting. Because that parent views the child as an extension of them, and the job is really to reinforce that parent's image, the child's success or failure is experienced by the parent as being their own, and that leads to conditional love that's based upon the child's achievement,” Williams-Abaku says.

16. They take no blame and make zero apologies.

Some parents have never apologized to their children for the things that they get wrong, and they refuse to believe that kids might ever deserve an apology from a parent. Parents like this often have a toxic understanding of parenthood, treating it as the default position of always being right because they are always in charge.

And yet, when things go wrong, these parents are the first to blame outside forces. If their kids attend therapy, they might sarcastically ask what they’re going to be blamed for this time. They often see themselves as martyrs. This sort of toxic parent often has “no idea” why their kids won’t talk to them as they grow up. They may suspect it’s some outside influence and never even consider anything they’ve done wrong. But how could they? Parents like these simply don’t believe they’ve done anything wrong in the first place.

“Defensiveness is self-protective. And [narcissistic parents] experience a lot of shame or shame sensitivity, and that leads them to have an inability or difficulty with taking accountability. Because for them, taking accountability would mean humiliation,” says Williams-Abaku. “In order to avoid shame, they will have difficulty taking accountability. And an apology, it really requires the capacity for duality, holding space for ‘I love my child’ and ‘I caused harm’ versus ‘I love you so I never do anything to hurt you.’”

Resources For Adult Children With Toxic Parents

If this list resonated with you, all three experts encourage you to find support groups and resources that will help you grow your understanding, and therefore your peace. That may mean working with a mental health professional who specializes in family dynamics. For now, it can start with a little deeper reading. These are the resources our experts recommend:

Whatever type of toxic parent you’re dealing with, and whether the behavior is intentional or not, what matters most is the impact of their behavior on the people around them — including their children, these experts say. If you feel anxious around your parent and like you can’t be yourself with them, it’s worth digging into why and what resources are available to help you find peace.

]]><![CDATA[The 15 Most Anticipated Books Of The Summer, According To Goodreads Members]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/most-anticipated-books-of-summer-2026-according-to-goodreads-membershttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/most-anticipated-books-of-summer-2026-according-to-goodreads-membersWed, 20 May 2026 12:00:24 GMT
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Summer feels synonymous with reading. Growing up, those long summer breaks were when I’d stick my nose in a book for half the day and love every second of my uninterrupted bookworm time. Now, it’s the time of year when roadtrips, plane rides, and sitting by pools and beaches all mean I get to carry a book around with me a little more often, too.

Every quarter, Goodreads analyzes what books are being saved to their users’ “Want To Read” lists — this is their list of the most anticipated books of summer 2026, according to their very online, up-to-speed book fiends. (And if the top 15 isn’t enough for you, don’t worry: They actually compiled a list of the 60 most-saved, much-hyped new releases coming out in the next few months.)

Whistler by Ann Patchett

Publishing June 2

Having read an advance copy of Whistler, I can assure you it’s everything you love about Ann Patchett. We follow Daphne Fuller, who is out at the Metropolitan Museum of Art for the day with her husband, Johnathan. She notices an older man following them, only to realize it’s Eddie Triplett, the man her mother was married to for only a short time but who felt like a true father. As the two reconnect, we learn about the choices and secrets that drive families together and apart, and the power of being truly loved and seen by even just one other person in our lives.

Land by Maggie O'Farrell

Publishing June 2

This is one of the books we here at Scary Mommy are most excited to pick up this year too. It’s set in 1865, where we meet Tomás and his son, Liam, who work for the great Ordnance Survey project that is mapping Ireland in its entirety. An unsettling encounter derails the man’s work, and 10-year-old Liam rushes in to complete the survey before British soldiers arrive to retrieve it.

The Children by Melissa Albert

Publishing June 2

This book sounds absolutely ri-vet-ting. Edith Sharpe’s world-famous Ninth City books follow the magical adventures of two children, Ennis and Guinevere, the names of her two very real children. But in reality, the siblings are largely neglected and left to their own devices, playing in the woods around their isolated Vermont home. That home goes up in flames and takes their mother with it.

As adults, Guinevere is a mid-tier writer coasting on her mother’s legacy, while Ennis is an artist who rejects the family name entirely. But then she sees an announcement for his upcoming show, titled Mother. For the first time since the fire, Guinevere will finally revisit what really happened.

Freedom: Essays by Zinzi Clemmons

Publishing June 9

In this collection of essays, Zinzi Clemmons explores the concept of freedom through her own personal experiences and analysis.

“As the daughter of a South African mother and a Trinidadian American father, she recounts growing up in the largely white, affluent town of Swarthmore, Pennsylvania — and her frequent travels to Johannesburg, where the lofty promise of freedom was all around her,” the synopsis reads. “Coming of age amidst the euphoria of South Africa's first all-race elections, she grapples with the legacy of Nelson Mandela and the shattered hope in the wake of the Obama era. Clemmons critiques the entrenched inequalities that haunt both countries, from the tragic loss of a childhood friend to the violence that often befalls women who have the audacity to be free.”

Marion by Leah Rowan

Publishing June 2

Could anything else go wrong? Marion has stolen a large sum from the New York City ad agency where she works, a last-ditch effort to help her sister get out of an abusive marriage. Now the bus has broken down en route, and the only place with lodging is an eerie set of old cabins at the edge of town. The handsome innkeeper Norm gets her situated, and not long after, he’s yanking back her shower curtain and holding up a knife.

Marion is an alternate retelling of Psycho, in which Marion turns the knife on Norman and slays him in that bathroom. Now she’s a thief and a killer — what next?

The Missed Connection by Tia Williams

Publishing June 9

Casting agent Sasha Cruz is literally always working; that’s just how you become known for always finding the perfect person for the role. Naturally, this leaves little time in her life for relationships. So when she meets a handsome stranger on a flight to Paris but doesn’t get his contact info, she’ll do anything to find him and feel their spark again. So begins an international manhunt to find Seat F.

The Shampoo Effect by Jenny Jackson

Publishing June 30

“The Shampoo Effect is a story of late-night parties, early mornings with small children, the dawn of midlife, and a group of old friends finally growing up despite all their best efforts to the contrary.” OK, sign me up.

In this novel we meet Caroline Lash, who is madly in love with Van Whittaker, her nature-loving boyfriend from Greenhead, Massachusetts. He’s still friends with all his high school pals, including an ex, Bailey. Caroline spends the summer with Van & Co. in their coastal hometown, until Bailey discovers she’s pregnant with Van’s baby, and the group unravels from there.

The Housewife by Natalie Barelli

Publishing June 30

Jodie’s only dream in life was to be a housewife, and it came true when she married well-to-do psychologist Dr. Roy Davies. The reality of her new life isn’t what she expects, though — Roy’s friends think she’s a gold-digger, and his perfect house is still a shrine to his late wife, Deborah. When she begins to suspect Roy might have something to do with his first wife’s death, Jodie will have to figure out how to save herself from the same fate without revealing her own secrets.

Every Version of You by Natalie Messier

Publishing July 7

Joey seems to have it all, from owning her home in LA to being a successful lawyer. But when she shows up single to a very couple-y dinner party at Elijah Aarons’ house — the best friend she has pined after for years — she isn’t pleased to also be reunited with the very annoying Alex Aquino. Just when she thinks it couldn’t get worse, she dies.

When she gets a second chance at life, Joey returns to being 18, the year she met both men. She sees it as her chance to convince Elijah they should’ve been together all along, but as they say, life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans.

Everything Was Beautiful and Nothing Hurt by Ben Reeves

Publishing July 7

Who knew Death was a guy named Travis? In Reeves’ work, he is anyway. Travis’s job is to comfort people in their final hours, and he does it well, never offering any judgment or complaints. He knows all lives must eventually end, and he honors that balance — until he meets radiant midwife Dalia and her vibrant daughter Layla, who live across the hall. He quickly realizes just how much can be lost when a life draws to a close.

The Intrigue by Silvia Moreno-Garcia

Publishing July 14

It’s Mexico in the 1940s, and con artist Ulises is many years into charming lonely women out of their money via his love letters. He thinks he may finally score a fortune from Perla, but when he meets her in person, his observant and stubborn niece Inés presents a real challenge. When Inés discovers his scheme, Ulises thinks he’s toast, but really, Inés just wants in.

Biological War: A Scenario by Annie Jacobsen

Publishing July 28

If you’ve ever wondered what would happen if a foreign government released a biological warfare agent, well, here’s your guidebook. Jacobsen interviewed dozens of experts “with high-level political, governmental, medical, and military responsibility,” and puts forth a timeline in hours, days, and weeks of just how quickly a global infection could crumple society as we know it. No, this is not a light beach read at all.

The Unknown by Riley Sager

Publishing August 4

“Struggling actress Marin Keane is shocked when she lands a role in a major motion picture about the unsolved mystery of New Avalon, an island on sprawling Lake Faraday in Vermont. She’s even more surprised when she learns that the role requires a weeklong research trip to that very spot. Because New Avalon isn’t your ordinary island. A century ago, it was a commune for spiritual mediums — until they all vanished in 1926. The only trace of them was five dresses hanging from the branches of an old oak tree in the middle of the island, one for each missing woman,” the synopsis reads.

Some locals believe the women just left; others think they were killed. It might have been a séance gone wrong. Whatever it was, it won’t take long before Marin realizes she might learn what happened to those women the hard way.

Time Travel for Beginners by Jaclyn Moriarty

Publishing August 4

“On a bustling road in Sydney, Australia, lies a nondescript storefront known simply as the Time Travel Agency. Inside, you’ll be welcomed by the smell of fresh-brewed coffee, a selection of baked goods… and the question, Where in time do you wish to go?”

In Jaclyn Moriarty’s new fantastical novel, the rules are simple: You can visit whenever you wish in the past, and it won’t alter the present. When single mom Anna gets hired to the Agency, she thinks it may finally open the door to happier days. But when she meets two customers, Teddy and Jade, the three of them will tumble through time and learn so much about each other and how choices shape our destinies.

Big Little Truths by Liane Moriarty

Publishing August 25

The highly anticipated sequel to Big Little Lies is almost here, y’all! When last we saw Madeline, Celeste, Jane, Renata, and Bonnie, their kids were only 5. The sequel picks up 10 years later, their children now navigating high school drama, first times, parties, and more. The women all have their own troubles, too. Celeste’s mother-in-law is acting strangely, Jane’s marriage is at a crossroads, Madeline is going through it. So when a stranger shows up to school asking questions, what will unfold this time?

Which summer release will you reach for first?

]]><![CDATA[When Should Kids Wear Mouthguards? Dentists Say More Often Than Parents Think]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/when-kids-should-wear-mouthguardshttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/when-kids-should-wear-mouthguardsWed, 20 May 2026 11:00:25 GMT
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My son is 8 years old when he hops on his friend’s hoverboard, and the two of them glide down the street like one glorious unit, sharing that little slice of plastic. They steer towards a sidewalk, but the second they hit the concrete, the machine dies, and they go flying.

A few minutes later, my son is standing in front of me in tears, lifting his chin to show me where half of his front tooth used to be.

An adult tooth.

He holds up the piece like chipped porcelain, and I wish with all of me that I could superglue it back into his mouth as I do with all our dinner dishes and coffee mugs.

Never in his whole life will that tooth grow back.

I mourn it, irrationally and immediately. Then I mourn the expense on my pocketbook to fix it.

I hate to admit this, but I waited months to book a dentist appointment, partly because we were busy and partly because I dreaded how much it would cost to fix. Besides, I kind of got used to his chipped smile.

Of course, my kid shouldn’t have been riding two to a hoverboard. But what never once crossed my mind back then was that my kid should’ve also worn a mouthguard on an electric machine. That it would've saved his adult tooth if that had been as common practice as wearing a helmet.

So I asked an orthodontist and a dentist: When should kids actually be wearing mouth guards? The answer was much broader than I expected and included far more than just contact sports.

Kids should be wearing mouthguards more than you think

We might all expect injuries from contact sports like football and hockey, but Dr. Liel Grinbaum, a pediatric dentist, says he treats many young patients for seemingly low-risk activities, such as playing on the playground, jumping on trampolines, and riding scooters.

Thanks to the rise of electric bikes, mopeds, and other motorized equipment, the risk of tooth injuries has increased, he says. (I know this firsthand.)

Basketball is another sport that’s underestimated, adds Karin Grinbaum, an orthodontist, because players put their arms up high to play defense, and “even if it’s accidental, an elbow to the face can cause a lot of damage to front teeth.”

Liel recommends wearing a mouthguard for all contact sports by the age of 7 or 8, when the adult teeth come in. “A lot of parents think mouthguards are not essential as they are ‘only’ kids and there is a rare chance of trauma,” he says. “All it takes is one out of a hundred chances, and if your child unfortunately gets hit, it can be a lifelong battle to maintain the health of the teeth after.”

So, yes, mouthguards should be worn for high-contact sports like rugby, wrestling, martial arts, lacrosse, and football. But they’re also worth considering for sports like baseball, basketball, softball, and soccer, as well as recreational sports like skateboarding, bicycling, in-line skating, and (you guessed it) hoverboarding.

For younger kids, Liel is less concerned about baby teeth, especially since this age group is less likely to tolerate wearing a mouthguard anyway.

Mouthguards are worth every penny

We’ve normalized helmets for head injuries, but dental injuries can have long-term repercussions, too — to your child’s well-being and to your bank account. Big picture: It’s cheaper to buy a mouthguard than fix damage to a permanent tooth, says Karin.

In my own experience, I paid about $200 dollars to fix the tooth. When I purchased my son a mouthguard, it was roughly $25. So the math definitely tips in favor of mouthguards.

How to choose the right mouth guard

You have three options for mouthguards: stock, boil-and-bite, and custom-fitted.

A stock mouthguard is a premade “one-size-fits-all.”

Boil-and-bite mouthguards are more “semi-custom.” You soften the U-shaped material, bite down, and let it harden. These are widely available in pharmacies and online and serve as a budget-friendly middle ground.

Some parents may opt for a fully customizable mouthguard using 3D scanners or molds. “A custom fit will seat better, not irritate the gums, and fully protect all surfaces of the teeth,” Karin says. But any mouth guard is “better than nothing.”

The proper care and cleaning of mouthguards

Like retainers and sports cups, mouthguards can become breeding grounds for bacteria if they aren’t cared for properly.

Gross, I know.

Karin advises cleaning a mouthguard with antibacterial soap and water, then letting it air-dry on a clean surface. They should also be replaced every season or six months, thanks to growing mouths and wear and tear.

Now, when my kids hop on their wheels, I don’t just think about helmets... I think about teeth.

]]><![CDATA[Women Are Taking “Why-Cations” To Find Themselves, So I Tried One]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/what-is-whycation-emotionally-driven-travelhttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/what-is-whycation-emotionally-driven-travelWed, 20 May 2026 10:00:25 GMT

Until recently, I’d never heard the term “why-cation.” But the second I did, I knew I needed one. I’d spent months feeling like I was holding too much at once with nowhere to put any of it down.

That’s the thing about “why-cations.” They’re motivated more by emotional need than destination — the desire to rest, the urge to reconnect, the longing for experiences that feel meaningful. People take them after divorces, during burnout, in the middle of grief or major transitions. And I could pretty much check all of those boxes.

I left my job a year ago, and my severance runs out July 1st. My divorce is nearing finalization after (a long) two years. My depression was also starting to rear its ugly head again, making everything feel heavier and more difficult to navigate. Every part of my life felt unstable, and no matter how many hours I spent agonizing over what would come next, I never felt any closer to an answer.

So, I booked a quick getaway to South Carolina. Not for a wedding or a girls’ trip or a family vacation. Just me, alone, in a different place, hoping distance might quiet something in me.

When I arrived at The Pinch, tucked quietly down a side street in Charleston, I immediately sensed a shift. For the first time in a while, nothing around me felt urgent. It felt like I’d been given permission to just exist.

Beside my bed, there was a welcome note from management, thanking me for choosing their space as my pied-à-terre. They told me to relax and enjoy, and I told myself I would. I remember standing there thinking, You can do whatever you want right now.

No one needed anything from me. No one was asking for a snack. No laundry had to be folded.

Still, the first thing I did was FaceTime my son and my mom, who was looking after him. I flipped the camera to show them the room — the terracotta velvet couch, the small cacti in the windows. The room itself felt less like a place to stay and more like a temporary suspension of responsibility.

I’ve since learned that more and more, that’s what people are traveling for.

Luxury travel advisor Sarah W. Lee tells me that burnout and stress are at record highs, especially for younger U.S. workers. As a result, she says she’s seen a significant rise in travelers seeking “emotional restoration rather than sightseeing.” Wellness retreats, solo travel, and emotionally driven trips have all surged in popularity in recent years.

“The feeling is the product,” she told me.

Modern life, especially for mothers, rarely allows women to exist outside of what everyone else needs from them. Solitude becomes something women fantasize about in little ways — a solo Target run, an extra-long shower.

But what I slowly realized in Charleston is that removing myself from my life wasn’t the same thing as escaping my mind.

After I said goodnight to my son, I headed out onto King Street and began walking. And that became the rhythm of the trip: walking and waiting.

I wandered around Charleston waiting for some cinematic moment where clarity would suddenly arrive. Like I’d turn a corner and instantly know what I’m supposed to do with my life. I started noticing how badly I wanted someone, or something, to tell me what happens next.

At one point, I even lingered for a moment in front of a psychic storefront before realizing I’ve already spent enough money trying to pay other people for answers.

I wandered in and out of boutiques. Bought myself a new ring, a couple shirts. Eventually, I landed at Bar 167 with an espresso martini and a meze platter, writing in a notebook because I wanted to feel like the kind of woman who writes alone at bars.

And for a little while, I did.

A family of three sat to my right. A woman talked on the phone to my left. I caught myself wondering what they thought of me sitting there alone. Whether they saw me as lonely or mysterious or sad or sophisticated. Whether they were constructing some narrative about the woman with the notebook and cocktail.

Or maybe, and this was harder to swallow, they weren’t thinking about me at all.

That realization followed me throughout the trip: how much of my mental energy is spent trying to be seen — by men, by hiring managers, by strangers, by everyone.

The next night, I decided to treat myself to a nice dinner at Hall’s Chop House. As I waited for my meal, a man invited me to join him and his friends over a bottle of Malbec. He ended up paying for my dinner. After they left, another man offered to get me an Old Fashioned.

If I’m being honest, I liked the attention. I liked feeling like I was noticeable. Desired. Chosen, even briefly. But that complicated the narrative I wanted to tell myself about the trip. I wanted to believe I’d come to Charleston to look inward — to find myself. But so much of me was still paying attention to who was paying attention to me.

The more time I spent alone in Charleston, the more I realized how badly I wanted the trip to change the way I felt about myself. I wanted to come home calmer. More certain. More interesting somehow. Like there was a version of me waiting on the other side.

Mental health coach Benjy Sherer told me that many people approach emotionally driven travel in search of a version of themselves — either a lost one or an imagined one. “The childhood version, the passionate version… the one that didn't let the world beat us down,” he said.

I understood exactly what he meant.

Somewhere beneath all my overthinking and panic about the future was this secret hope that Charleston might return me to myself somehow. Or maybe introduce me to a version of myself that felt calmer. More present. Less afraid all the time.

Instead, I found myself mentally cycling through the same stressors waiting for me back home. What happens when my severance ends? Will I find stable work? Am I ruining my life? Am I doing enough? Am I enough?

Dr. Chloe Carmichael, a clinical psychologist and author of Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety, told me that when people are trying to process major life changes while also managing everyday responsibilities, “that’s a lot of cognitive load.”

Hearing her say that, I felt slightly relieved. Like someone was finally acknowledging the weight of it.

The closest I came to escaping my own mind happened during a deep tissue massage at Salt Spa. I remember sitting in the lounge area beforehand, physically leaning forward on the couch without realizing it, my body carrying tension even while supposedly relaxing.

Eventually, I forced myself to lean back.

Then, during the massage, something finally fell into place. Not dramatically. Not spiritually. I just… evaporated for a little while.

Face down on a heated massage bed beneath a heavy blanket, with warm oil worked slowly into my shoulders and back, I stopped thinking briefly about my divorce. About July 1st. About worst-case scenarios and back-up plans and whether I’m secretly failing at everything.

The message repeating in my head wasn’t profound.

Stop.

Stop.

Stop.

Just be.

It struck me then how foreign “just being” is for me.

In my normal life, my brain rarely stops moving. I’m constantly thinking about what’s next, what I did wrong, what I need to fix, what I should be doing differently. In Charleston, the silence only made the racing thoughts sound louder.

Dr. Charlotte Russell, founder of The Travel Psychologist, says travel can help people regulate a nervous system that has been operating in “doing mode” or even “threat mode” for too long. But almost from the moment I arrived, I’d been silently evaluating whether Charleston was “working.”

On the last night of the trip, I climbed into my big bed, opened Netflix, and started scrolling. And suddenly I realized, I may be in a completely different place, but I’m still doing the exact same things.

For a moment, I felt disappointed in myself for that. Like I had somehow failed the trip. But maybe that expectation was the problem to begin with.

Maybe we’ve started treating healing like a milestone. Something we should be able to accomplish if we book the right flight, choose the right hotel, schedule the right massage, curate the right experience.

Maybe some trips aren’t about transformation at all, though. Maybe they’re just interruptions. A pause in the noise. A chance to notice what’s hurting you before re-entering your life again.

When I later told Dr. Carmichael I felt disappointed that I hadn’t returned transformed, she gently pushed back on the idea that the trip had failed.

“It doesn't mean that it wasn't a very important preparation step,” she said. The fact that the trip “didn't quite have the full click” I wanted it to have, she explained, could still be informative. She compared it to an experiment that doesn’t go the way scientists hoped. “They don't tend to pack it up and leave. They tend to say, OK, well, what did we learn from this? What further research is needed?”

Maybe the trip wasn’t a solution so much as information.

I didn’t come home from Charleston with clarity. And I still don’t know what will come next. I did come home more aware of how badly I want certainty. And how often I look for external things — attention, beauty, movement, validation — to calm internal turmoil.

No change of scenery made those thoughts disappear. But for a few days, away from my normal routines and distractions, I could finally see them more clearly.

And maybe awareness is its own kind of beginning.

]]><![CDATA[Moms "Need To Be Meaner" To Husbands, According To Reddit]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/moms-need-to-be-meaner-to-husbands-according-to-reddithttps://www.scarymommy.com/lifestyle/moms-need-to-be-meaner-to-husbands-according-to-redditTue, 19 May 2026 19:46:21 GMT
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There are a few things worse than hearing a friend complain about their partner. Not only because you want them to feel supported and loved, always, but because it’s hard to hear that there’s someone — usually a man — who has the audacity to make a woman feel less than or unheard or unappreciated. It’s hard because, sometimes, the only thing you can think to say back is, “Girl, why are you putting up with this?”

We know relationships can’t all be simplified like that, but one mom on Reddit has some advice for those who often complain about their partners: they all need to be meaner to their husbands.

Honestly? Co-sign.

In the subreddit /mommit, the original poster (OP) shared some complaints she’s read in the group before. “‘I’m 2 hours postpartum and my husband wants to take a trip with his buddies.’ ‘I haven’t taken a shower /washed my hair in two weeks because of my baby, but my husband goes out every night.’ ‘I just delivered a baby, but my husband might be more tired than I am because he slept on the couch in the room.’ ‘Husband plays 18 holes of golf every Saturday and I haven’t gone out by myself in two years.’”

And then she wrote, “Girl if you don’t start being mean AF to that man.”

OP’s entire rant focused on how much empathy so many wives have for their husbands, and that “we have swung too far.”

“Doesn’t matter how many hours he works — he would still need to work if he didn’t have kids,” OP wrote. “Stop trying to be a cool wife and call him out on his bullshit. Be comfortable saying ‘no you can’t go’. Motherhood is already hard enough without all that.”

And you know what, she’s right.

In theory, saying “No, you can’t go” doesn’t sound like it would be that hard to do to your husband — but I think all of us get trapped in that “cool wife” ideal. None of us wants to feel like we struggle with the kids when our spouse isn’t there, none of us wants to make our partner unhappy, and none of us wants to have our husband resent us or feel bitter.

But then, we end up being the unhappy, resentful, bitter ones.

It’s a hard balance, but so much of it is steeped in misogyny; it’s hard not to be irritated at how hard the balancing act is. Like, what do you mean a husband never feels half the guilt a wife does over having their own separate activities and hobbies? Or that women feel a societal pressure to keep their “man happy” so he doesn’t stray, but men don’t seem to have that same fear? (And instead, if women stray, they are ungrateful.)

Some of the comments really brought this idea to home, too.

“I'm a labor and delivery nurse and I agree completely,” one commenter wrote. “The things I've seen include: a woman having her third baby and after her epidural her husband turned to her and said, ‘You're comfortable now, right? Because my brother just invited me out to a bar downtown and I feel like you don't really need me.’ She convinced him to stay but he sulked about it the rest of my shift.”

“Amen. I'm not talking about beat your man, cheat on your man. No, not abuse. But straight up being CLEAR with them when things are not FAIR,” another commenter wrote. “It looks mean, it sounds mean. But it's standing up for yourself.”

Many moms in the thread shared that it’s not about hurting your husband’s feelings on purpose, but by being straightforward and assertive with what you need. Giving them a hard “No” when they ask if they can go out for drinks on a night you need him home, or making him aware of how you really feel when he does something that made you feel unappreciated or unheard.

“I got hella downvoted on one of those posts because I said I ask my husband if he's an idiot when he is, in fact, being an idiot,” read one comment.

“I've started to hold my husband's feet to the fire. I wish I would have done it 40 years ago. He hates it at the time, but soon realizes he is low effort and causing the problem most of the time,” another wrote.

Again — it’s holding men accountable.

And the “be meaner” part is really just a saying that we know men will use. “You’re being mean,” they say when we lose our shit about the dishes still not being done an hour after we asked. “Why are you being mean to me?” they’ll ask when we get frustrated that we have to spell out to them why every Saturday is too much golf time. “You don’t have to be mean about it,” they tell us when we insist that they’re sleeping in too much and missing family time.

But we know what it really is. It’s making sure our husbands know that we can only be the cool wife if they’re being a cool husband.

And cool husbands don’t need this much instruction.

]]><![CDATA[Why Can't My Teen Make A Decision? Experts Explain]]>https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/why-cant-my-teen-make-a-decision-experts-explainhttps://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/why-cant-my-teen-make-a-decision-experts-explainTue, 19 May 2026 19:23:27 GMT
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I truly hate the “nobody told me” schtick of parenting because it’s almost always about something someone absolutely did tell them. But I’ve finally experienced a few things I didn’t see coming as my oldest officially hits the tween stage, and it has nothing to do with her behavior, attitude, or eye rolls. (They are epic though.)

I just need to know why my teen can’t make a decision.

“I don’t know” is her favorite sentence. What do you want for dinner? Do you want the black shorts or the blue ones? Are you going to the library after school?

Sometimes it’s something as simple as me saying, “Hey, is it OK if I use your bathroom real quick, or do you need to go in there?” Sometimes it’s a bigger question like, “If you don’t get the theatre class, which elective do you want next year?”

But no matter what, “I don’t know” is always her default answer. And it’s far more frustrating than I would’ve guessed.

“‘I don’t know’ is usually less about not knowing and more about not wanting to be caught knowing,” Arielle Bailkin, LCSW, tells me. “Choosing exposes you. Once a teen picks something, they’ve revealed a preference — and preferences can be judged, rejected, or wrong. The freeze is often risk management, not confusion.”

It makes sense. Even the smallest thing, like saying “I don’t know” to a dinner choice, could mean that they don’t want to tell you what they really want — a bowl of cereal — because they know you’ll balk and say, “We can’t have cereal for dinner!” (You totally can, trust me.) Even in the lowest of stakes, this “I don’t know” can be a protective force.

Bailkin says that kids have tons of things to choose from at this age, as well. “The stakes scale with how public the decision feels. Picking a lunch spot is low exposure. Choosing a class or joining a club is a statement about who you are and where you belong — and in competitive social environments, that gets amplified fast. Indecision can be a way of opting out of that entirely.”

And, unfortunately, when parents (I’m speaking directly to myself here) get annoyed or frustrated with a teen’s indecision, we certainly don’t make it any easier. Bailkin says that by treating indecision as a “problem to solve” or “adding urgency,” we raise the stakes. “Narrowing the options and lowering the cost of being wrong tends to help more,” she adds.

You can’t forget FOMO either, especially in this age. “Saying yes to one plan means committing to missing something else. For teens with rejection sensitivity — especially pronounced in kids with ADHD — that calculus runs constantly in the background,” Bailkin says.

Well. Now I feel bad.

But this is all developmentally sound, and kids learning how to make decisions comes with time and experience. This is “a scary transition period,” says Alli Spots-De Lazzer, LMFT, LPCC. “For many years, children are often guided by parents, and the teen years become that bridge toward greater ownership of self, decision-making, and eventual independence. That can feel terrifying.”

She points out that, whether our teens are aware of it or not, because everything is always so rushed and busy, “I don’t know” often outlasts whatever time limit we have for them to make a decision, and that ends up meaning we parents have to decide for our kids. “Even if they push back against it, that can still bring relief and function as conscious or unconscious avoidance of the discomfort and responsibility that come with growth,” Spots-De Lazzer says.

When our teens are toddlers, we figure the more options we give them, the less they’ll melt down. As they become teens, it seems like the more options we give, the more overwhelmed they are. I’ve found asking my own teen, “Do you want me to help you make a decision for you?” flips a switch in her brain. Then, she’s either so put out by the idea that I make a decision for her that she finally makes one, or she says yes, and I know it’s then something she just didn’t want to think about.

As Bailkin points out, “Teen indecision isn't always a lack of preference. A lot of the time it's a kid doing math — what do I risk by choosing, and is it worth it?”

Raising teens is so hard. You want them to trust themselves and their own instincts, but you also want them to know they can turn to you when everything’s too much, and they need help. You want them to have autonomy and feel independent and make their own decisions, but you also know they’re just as easily overwhelmed as they were when they were toddlers.

For now, keep asking them questions and letting them make decisions. But just know if they say, “I don’t know,” it’s not just because their frontal lobe is still developing — sometimes it means a whole lot more than we think.

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